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Dating scammer Douglas Robert Earnest


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Name: Douglas Robert Earnest


1419 Westwood Blvd
Santa Monica, CA

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Claims to be an art collector/dealer with an art gallery and living in CA. He claims he travels the world to find rare paintings, is now in Johannesburg, Africa, down on his luck, lost his wallet, is very ill from not eating and is in a hospital. He keeps asking for money to get by while there promising to pay it all back.


2013-08-14, 11:22:54   (updated: )
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2013-08-14, 12:34:18   (updated: 2013-08-27, 10:03:11)
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This person says he grew up in VA, his parents are deceased, has one sister named Ann living in Munich, Germany, is widowed for 3 years. Wife apparently died from a 10 year long battle with breast cancer at the age of 47. They share a son named Nick,, who is 15 and attending boarding school in CA, wants to be a pilot someday.
This person says he is 44 years old, born on Sept. 20, 1968, is of German descent, has a big home in CA and owns 3 vehicles.
With such a profile, I suspected he was scamming me when he couldn't just call his bank to bail him out of trouble instead of begging me for money. I had sent him a, few hundred dollars before I realized how foolish it was. I ended it a few days ago because he was expecting more money from me, never again!
2013-08-15, 21:15:33
Miss Marple from United States  
Thank you for your posting ,yes scammers do never stop asking for money.Once you send them money it will never stop.Please block this scammer from contacting you that is the only way to get rid of them ,do not reply to anything .Do you have more photos ,please post them and some mails that the scammer has sent you .Scammers sends formletters copied and pasted to people and from them you can find lots of information from where the scam originates too.There could also be more victims who seeks for information so it is helpful if you could post them here.This is a west african scam ,the man on the photo has nothing to do with any scams.Scammers steels photos online and use them to scam people with.
2013-08-15, 21:58:48
Marieommk from United States  
Thank you for the helpful advice, I haven't blocked him yet but I need to cause he's.still sending emails. I'm not responding to him anymore. I'll post some of these emails soon.I don't have any other pictures I can access because I'm no longer registered with the dating site I met him on.
2013-08-16, 12:09:51
anonymous from United States  
These are just a few of the emails I received from my scammer, the last one being very long. I'm hopeful they will be useful for anyone else out there getting the same type of messages. I have several others, but I think for now, these should do. I also have several IP addresses he has used which appear to originate from Secaucus, NJ. On one occasion, I got an SMS or IM from someone claiming to be his sister Ann. The # is 646.783.9982 which I traced to NYC. I wish I had other pictures of him, but I can't access them now since I'm not registered with the site now where I met him, it was at, and he goes by Doug R., doesn't give much info about himself there, he rather waits to tell you about himself with his emails. He had 3 other pictures there, one of which was a close-up of his hazel eyes. When I learned he was playing me, I was so devastated. One very hard lesson. : (

'Hey sweets... I'm always glad to get your messages, Thanks for sharing the few things you did about you..I must let you know that i always try my best to make my woman feel special and happy... i would really like to know what you seek in your man and a solid relationship, I know i am far from perfect but i have all it takes to make my woman happy and desired always, I know am very much worth it....

Telling you more about my job.. well i travel to various parts of the globe to buy new artifacts, the type determines the place i travel to, to get it. Like buying classic and expensive Egyptian painting requires me traveling to Cairo , Egypt to buy and ship over to my gallery in the states . would love to show and teach you more about my job in person sometime, I was in Florida for about 2weeks for business and i'm originally from Virginia. Did i tell you i was Planning on opening a new branch of my gallery back home in the states?, not sure of any particular place or area right now, maybe we could do some searches together when i'm back .. I thought I might as well tell you a few more things about me. Perhaps this will make you smile....or at least reveal a few similarities between us.
Here are a few great reasons why you should be interested in me!, I am for real, 110% as real as you are.. I am good looking' lol, extremely romantic and passionate. Will be your best friend. I exercise daily. I communicate like a canary and don't use foul language. I do not drink... much.... life's too short to be a drunk. I'm drug free, all brain cells intact I think! I have a happy home. I love my job. Hard working since childhood. Know how to treat a woman. I'll brag to my friends about you.... I brag to your friends about you. Think of you when I go to bed and when I wake up. People say I have bedroom eyes, what the hell is that??? I'm confident, a bit sexy and a little naughty. I have good habits and a few bad ones too. I am sincere and responsible.. I am an excellent cook and love good wine. I am a neat freak. I'll dance on the beach with you.. I like love letters a lot.. I go to church and I pray. I will pray for you in good and tough times.Love to travel, friends and will love yours too. I have all my original teeth, straight and bright. I'm a great kisser, sensual and passionate. I'm energetic. I'll make you laugh till you pee. I look for the best in others always. I'm delirious at times and I'm normal at other times. I will treat you like a prince or a King...your choice! I'm content and secure. I'm adventurous and will try almost anything, well..... don't get any ideas! I love music and sing in the shower. I'm forgiving, and far from perfect.Will be thinking about you and take good care of yourself...
Are you smiling yet?'


'I very much enjoyed reading your letters when I came back from the evening church here .you are a really good writer. I finished a 4 miles walk, while walking I was thinking of exactly what I would say to you when I returned and write to you. I am glad you enjoy my letters. It's always fun writing to you.. I have a feeling we will not have any problem with chemisty. I also understand that you have some very appealing qualities. I really like your writings and sharing so much information about yourself. I just hope to have an opportunity to discover those good qualities in person sometime.If there is one thing I really want you to know about me it is that I am the type of man that says exactly what I mean and feel. I try at all times to be clear and honest. I am a very private person and quiet at times. However, there are times when I will really speak out. I am an observer and thinker. I love people and I appreciate everything…all the friends and family I'm not perfect. I do make mistakes. I'm real. I'm honest. I'm open minded. That’s the beauty of being with me or knowing don't have to read between the lines or wait in suspense for an answer. I'm quick, decisive and I fulfill my promises. I'm a great friend and an even better lover. I'm the first person you can count on to open their arms to any problem you may need help with whether its advice, or just someone to talk to. My shoulder is always there for everyone to cry on when they need that person to hold them. I'll keep your darkest secrets and clap for you even if the whole world is booing you off stage...I'm a shoulder to cry on......I'll watch you fall but I'll build you back into something stronger..piece by piece if patience is absolute and I see the world in stark contrasts of black and white...I'm the first to fight for you and the last to run from you. I'm the type of friend that people spend their whole lives searching for. I'm low maintenance and low drama. I push myself to the limit with everything I do. I'm the romantic type. I workout everyday or as much as I can when time permits.
Sweetie, I can't wait to talk to you.I will be thinking about you, Are you smiling yet?
Kisses and Hugs,


Douglas R

'Baby you are so sweet and you really make me happy tonight..i cant wait too meet you .well let me used this opportunity to tell you that am pretty much interested in you and i will like if we can get to know each other more better and work things out fine.Lol.i think we are building a relationship now.well i will like if this relationship is based on a trustful and Commitment relationship, You know Commitment is the greatest key to a successful relationship. If you are committed you will always find a way to work things out Communication... talking and open honest communication about how you feel. What makes you happy and what upsets you. If you don't tell your partner then they can't do what makes you happy and vice versa The way a person treats his/her parents reveals how they WILL treat you! If it's with love, kindness and respect, then this is what you will receive. But if it's with criticism, defensiveness and disrespect, then this too you will receive... EVENTUALLY... it's almost certainly a guarantee! So watch and listen to the answers you get in their actions and words BEFORE you jump into bed I feel that a relationship should always be based upon honesty and acceptance. When you can fully accept yourself, honesty will come naturally. This in return will leave your partner feeling comfortable with you, knowing there is nothing to hide. If two people can see each other in full view with complete acceptance, they can build a successful relationship from this I believe that the most important 'key' to a successful relationship would have to be 'trust'. I believe that with trust, love will follow. However, what I have noticed is that many people think trust, or expect that trust is to be earned by the other person when in all actuality it is something that comes from within yourself. All too many times people will say they don't trust due to past experiences. What they don't realize is that they have built up those proverbial walls to protect them from the very thing they are searching for...yes, there is a risk in trusting someone, but when you finally find that 'right' person, it makes all the past experiences and lessons learned very much worth the risk All of life's little lessons do not have to be painful... even when they seem so at the time. You just have to chalk it up to experience and move on. Nothing is worth closing your heart. Nothing is worth living in a world of fearing what bad 'may' come to you Without trust, you close your heart to the happiness and joy that true love brings. It's only my experience... and it's what I believe has given me the wonderful gift of 'true' love. It's a hard thing to do, a scary thing, but very much worth itThis is not to go without saying that some people may betray your trust... that's the risk... but why allow past betrayals to prolong the pain by building a fortress around your heart that not only protects you from pain/betrayal, but also denies you the ability to experience happiness and joy Most have been hurt enough by one person, why allow them and their actions to stop us from finding what we search for? I say open your hearts to trust and bask in the beauty, happiness, and joy, of the true love that will follow. For everyone there IS a someone, you just can't find them if you hide away all your life.Not expecting your partner to think and react to things the way you do. Resolving any conflict in your relationship depends on this. It's important to respect your partner's feelings, even if they are different from your own. If you and your partner both do this you can usually resolve bad situations I think a good relationship requires being each other's best friend, and trusting one another. I think each should respect the other's opinion and that stupid arguments over stupid things are healthy, as long as they are not taken too far Good communication. Never being ashamed of each other for any reason. On occasion surprising your mate with a nice romantic date or evening together and telling each other I love you There is a lot of love and caring in the relationship. There has to be love in order for a relationship to work A good relationship is when your partner is more than just a partner... they should be your best friend A good relationship is when two lovers understand each other, they're concerned for each other and they respect one another A good relationship is one purely based on trust, if nothing else. Being able to be miles apart yet never worrying a minute about what they're doing. Communication at all times is so important, and most importantly, respect for each other and their need for alone time as well as together time Two people trusting each other fully, not being afraid to tell the other what one thinks, whether it be good or bad, and the other respecting their opinion. Being able to enjoy the same things with each other, enjoying each other, and being able to take their separate lives and smoothly combine their lifestyles into a couple's lifestyle A good relationship exists when either individual has the freedom to leave but neither wants toI honestly think that a good relationship is one where there are no secrets You are completely open with each other. But the biggest key is that the other person knows the worst possible thing about you and they love you even more for it. On top of that you have to have faith and trust. So that when your man goes out with an old female friend you can completely trust him and know that no matter what happens, he will always come home to you. I know it may not seem like much but as long as you have that and love, you are in a wonderful relationship. :) I define a good relationship by the way you treat each other. You could hold them and run your fingers down the side of their face. Feel comfortable you know. And you can also define it with fighting. Fighting or Arguing is not my favorite thing to do with my Partner. But it needs to be done. It's not a real relationship until you do Argue I would have to say good communication! Equality, LOVE, not just lust, and most of all, friendship is needed For me, a good relationship is being able to open up to each other even about the simple things in life. A relationship between two people cannot grow without trust. Loving a person is not enough, because if you've got doubts building up inside then you your relationship won't work. A good relationship is when the two of you can actually feel better about your relationship after an argument; it's when you can really respect each other's differences and openly discuss feelings at all timesYou have good relationship where there is compromise, honesty, sensitivity, and a feel for the needs and wants of the other person and yourself When the couple listens and doesn't interrupt when they're trying to work out a fight. They care for each other deeply. They share similar interests A good relationship is when both parties can freely express themselves with one another and to have that open connection to be able to say anything to each other. To have trust and faith in one another. Basically a honest, trusting, loving and open relationship A good relationship is frankness and open-minded communication between friends. It is a two-way communication without dominance and/or hypocrisy in it A good relationship isn't necessarily flawless, because human beings aren't flawless. It's more important that you can grow with the person you love. If you can learn and grow each day with your best friend standing by you in body and in spirit-then you have a good relationship.When you can feel comfortable about everything together. Always being able to talk, joke. Taking your commitment seriously with one another and never taking each other for granted A good relationship must a give and take basis, in order for you to understand each other. Never fail to listen and understand the situation your in to. Be open minded and be ready to any obstacle that will come in you're way. A good relationship is when both members fully trust each other and can have a blast with each other, knowing how to laugh and be there for each other It's something divine. Where the understanding between the two partners is mutual. No talking required, but it's something you can just feel, something special. Where you can just believe in each other, really believe. How there is a difference between saying it and actually feeling it so this is my opinion towards a commitment relationship.. I'll be waiting for your response,.Doug'

I hope this person is found before he can do any more emotional harm to others, I feel that I may have been the first one he got to with this profile, because when looking for his picture and email online, I found nothing on him, this is why I've reported him here.
Thank you
2013-08-16, 19:09:03
Miss Marple from United States  
Please block him soon as possible as as adviced ,they can take advantage on you if you hesitate ,scammers are very manipulative and smart and abuses peoples weak sides.Scammers uses often open proxy and goes under fake IP to hide their real location especially when they are asking for money and also it is a sign it is higher ranked scammer in the gang ,often the ones who collects and asks for the money from the victims.Scammers do not answer questions which is a good sign of a scammer .Scammers sends often very long mails to their victims for the reason as brainwash the victims with lots of information and keep the victims isolated .Here is some links below with scammers using the same scripts and connection Nigeria ,please check them out and notice all of them are having the very same outlook dark haired guys.Thank you for your mails it will help other victims to discover the scam.

Matching template/script used in scams:(Nigerian scammers)
2013-08-17, 09:59:51
Marieommk from United States  
Miss Marple,
Thanks for providing the links, I did check them out, wow, what an eye-opener. The last email I got was on Thursday, but yes, I've blocked him now. These people need to be found & stopped, I will do anything to help you make this happen.
2013-09-16, 22:35:22
Marieommk from United States  
Has this particular person behind the photo been located and found so he or she is stopped from scamming others? I've added another photo I found on another site similar to this one. These photos have been used for at least 5 years.
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Dating scammer Douglas Robert Earnest

2013-09-16, 22:35:39
Marieommk from United States  
Has this particular person behind the photo been located and found so he or she is stopped from scamming others? I've added another photo I found on another site similar to this one. These photos have been used for at least 5 years.
This image was also posted here:
Dating scammer Douglas Robert Earnest

2013-09-25, 13:59:37
Marieommk from United States  
Has anyone ever identified the person in the photos over the last four years?



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