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Name: Stan Decker


Email: stan4you_105@hotmail.com


Address:
unknown...
operated first from NC/USA, originally from Chicago
then from Ghana (as business trip),
then from UK

his used phone numbers:
001-7165246573 (from USA)
002332-76876884 (from Ghana)
0044-7031848083 and finally 0044-7031949402 (from UK)
interesting that, when I call right now this second UK phone, I am transferred to many phone lines (with many different ring tones) and finally I end up with an answering machine in SPANISH !!! lol


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posted age: 48 years
loneeducational widower of 6 years old boy (name: Kelvin, sometimes Kevin..?), his wife died view years ago due to cancer,
from dating site: meetic.com (but deleted his profile after 2 weeks chatting with him, unfortunately I don't have the nick anymore)
self-employeed, business: import/export of used cars

A bit of his unbelievable story: handsome guy, widower, with a 6 years old boy want to get his happiness back in life, very nice person, loving, caring, like the dream of man you have looked for. Very good english language skills, no african slang at all !! even some mistakes in writing which made me suspicious already.
After get in touch with him by chat, e-mail, phone, I felt in love very soon. Then, beginning of this year, he had to go on a business trip to Ghana. After arrival the shit started already, all his luggage + computer was stolen at the airport (first time he asked for money to support him getting up his business there and I trusted him). Then he was observed from the police there and finally arrested; was treated bad in the arrest and had some health problems. Barrister called and asked for money to guarantee his release, possible within 48 hours only, which put me much under pressure to send again money. Finally it went nevertheless to the court, again costs to pay. AFter his release, the police still hidden all his belongings... Then he was infected by food-poisoning, medical treatments in hospital, he staid 2 weeks in hospital. After this, he asked for the money to finally finaciate his returnal ticket to UK to get back to his son and family there (he said he has an uncle in UK, living there with him now). He want to make me believe that he has huge money (around 2,5 Mill USD) on foreign bank accounts, cos he was able to finalize his business in Ghana. So he is and was always a rich person, but he can not access to his money now, esp. in Ghana. I should contact a bank manager, to shift the money to my account. He would trust me and it will be for our future... of course, I refused to do so, cos I knew that all this is wrong, something is wrong with the guy (thanks GOD).
Each time I send him money, it was always to do for his sake and our future, to build up a family. and it would be the last time, then he would be able to deal with his problems his own. He even played the very very sad game with me to tell me that he will kill hisself, when nobody is willing to help him out of this mess. He is real and only all the circumstances has screwed up his life now, just in that moment, where we get to know each other..... lol. Back to UK he tried to get a loan to UK and I should pay again a deposit to get this loan. Now this loan he told me is on his bank account in UK but frozen there cos he has to pay another fee + anti terror documents to be deliver.......
After all this shit, I lost the trust to him, I stoped with all financial support now, but... i lost a huge amount of money, beeing soo stupid to believe in him, in his words. I really fall on him, it was all so nice and trustworthy and probably that what I wanted to get in a man... a dream catcher.
But, unfortunately, at that time (early 2008) I was not at all aware of such scammer stories and methods to cheat on women. STep by step I get behind all this now also due to this very useful site here. I always considered a fraud in this guy, but on the other side it was so well organised, step by step, and I really thought it could be real as well. he organised it slowly, with much time to always convince me in between and get my trust back. But when I read all similar stories here, it's like confirmation of beeing a victim.
What made me so hard to believe, that neither his family, nor his business partner nor friends will be ready to help him out of his mess, it's always only me, he can count on.... his so called sister is not willing, nor his uncle where his son is living now with him, was not willing to help.... for me unbelievable and at that time I got suspecious.
But on the other side, this so called barrister called me a lot of time, this doc in Ghana too, and even his uncle and nephew I have spoken with. And they called me too a lot of times (so not only me I had to call), and I thought if they call me so often, it can not be a fraud... but I guess they are all unreal people. I don't trust anybody anymore.

Has anybody made his own, simlar, other 'experience's as well with this guy here ?? Each comment on this guy I highly appreciate.

To all other women out there reading this: pl.s do not sent this guy money, not even a single cent to this guy, even I am not sure that he is a scammer, but it looks damn like a SCAM !!!




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2008-08-05, 09:30:44
anonymous  
sounds like you were dealing with the same one as I did. but I knew him as John Benson and a different picture. But everything else sounds familiar. John had a son, a business in California. I also was very smitten with him. the same type of things happened to him. I also sent money I believed also. John E. Benson is posted on this site too.
2008-08-06, 01:22:44   (updated: 2008-08-06, 01:24:48)
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2008-08-06, 01:25:53
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2008-08-06, 01:26:27
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2008-08-08, 15:55:29
anonymous  
update on my previous comment:
I got today the confirmation that he is a scammer. I am feeling so down, so damn hurtet and used by this guy. I got him with his own pictures of his boy, he sent to me earlier. Today I have found them in a model agency site at www.focusagencyhawaii.com
ALL his picture from his so called son Kelvin are posted there. This poor child, he is using for his scam, is a model !

today, last chat with this scammer:
Right now, view minutes ago, I had a chat with him and confrontated him with that....
Here you can read it... so funny. Of course, he turned the fact that I am the bad one and he said that he had never sent me pictures of his son.... lol. I have even attached him the pics out of the site as well what he has sent to me... the same boy !!
But read yourself, it's very interesting and you can learn, how they easily get mad and turn immediately the story around... lol:

Stan sagt:
sweetheart how are you?
Stan sagt:
hello sweetie
Stan sagt:
are you there or still angry with me?/
Stan sagt:
??
me sagt:
hi
Stan sagt:
how are you?
me sagt:
bad, disappointed, hurtet, I have much more otherwords words for my feelings, if you wanna hear them all.... ? how much time do you have here ?
Stan sagt:
honey and you believe this?
me sagt:
what should I believe ? I just can believe what I am seeing or not
and I have seen enough now, that I can say that you are not the one you consider yourself, unfortunately
Stan sagt:
do you believe this?
me sagt:
what ? what should I believe ?
Stan sagt:
do you believe that am a scammer or that criminal you see me now?
me sagt:
I got confirmation about this
me sagt:
and the scammer stories are ALL THE SAME THAN YOURS !!!! Exactly
Stan sagt:
and you believe that?
Stan sagt:
my love how can you think i will ever hurt you; i love you and nothing more
me sagt:
bla bla bla bla; stop this shit !!!!!!!!
Stan sagt:
stop what?
me sagt:
this all is not real, and damn I wanna know to how many women you are telling this
Stan sagt:
honey am real
me sagt:
aha, interesting ! who is then that poos guy on the pics
Stan sagt:
my love i am not a criminal as you think
Stan sagt:
it's me honey
me sagt:
that guy with the so called Rottweiler and it's in real a westhighland terrier
Stan sagt:
whom do you think is that?
Stan sagt:
babe
me sagt:
just a picture you are using, and your real face looks different !
Stan sagt:
hmmn honey,
Stan sagt:
hey stop this
me sagt:
to tell me you was never in Germany and standing in front of a car with a german plate.... lol
me sagt:
but I believed in you
Stan sagt:
say whatever
me sagt:
despite all these
Petra sagt:
even I got suspicious in an earlier stage, but I damn trusted you, that was my fault
Stan sagt:
you don't do anymore and this is realy making me sad
Stan sagt:
you believe in what people are telling you
me sagt:
no, just what I am seeing myself for real ! there is nobody telling me anything !
Stan sagt:
how do you think i will ever hurt you
Stan sagt:
all around me is real but you don't want to accept this fact
me sagt:
I want to get an real answer on 1 question !!!!! now I want to get this ! a real answer ! and no games !
Stan sagt:
tell me if you believe all these people are telling you
Stan sagt:
ok
me sagt:
are you ready?
Stan sagt:
yeah
me sagt:
how can be your boy, so called Kevin or Kelvin or however is the name of this poor boy....
me sagt:
your child ?? if...
me sagt:
he is posted with all the pictures you have sent me, in a model agency .... exactly all the pics, I have found in that page... there, his name is not Kevin !!! VERY INTERSTING
Stan sagt:
honey American's call it Kevin and the europeans Kelvin
me sagt:
forget it, this is not true
me sagt:
so Mr. Scammer... I got you. You use real people pictures. Just use pics out of internet, copy & paste them for your silly games
me sagt:
so, common, talk to me now
me sagt:
what's up now ??
Stan sagt:
hey you believe this
me sagt:
I have the proof
Stan sagt:
honey am real what's wrong with you?
Stan sagt:
am soo sick of all these insult honey
Stan sagt:
proof me wrong now
me sagt:
should I send you more pics of your 'son', you have not sent me so far ?????????
I can , no problem !!
Stan sagt:
do that let me see
Stan sagt:
how can you say such things
me sagt:
cos it's real
me sagt:
I am real, NOT YOU !!!
me sagt:
and you know that I catched you now; you can not turn it anymore, and you know it...
Stan sagt:
honey
Stan sagt:
stop this bullshit
Stan sagt:
proof to me al these nonsense you're talking about
me sendet:
(attached picture out of the models home page ! where the boys name was mentioned with 'Jaden')
Stan sagt:
hey
Stan sagt:
what are you waiting for?
me sagt:
go on www.focusagencyhawaii.com under kids and there you found a full gallery of all your so called son Kevin... with his name there 'Jaden'
me sagt:
I want to have an explanation now .....
me sagt:
waiting on you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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me sagt:
how you wanna explain that now to me, hhhmmm ??
Stan sagt:
honey this boy is not kevin
me sagt:
hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
Stan sagt:
you can't be serious
Stan sagt:
watch kevin's hair carefully?
me sendet:
(now attached pics of the same boy, but sent months ago by this scammer)
Stan sagt:
it's bot brown don't be stupid
me sagt:
aha... and this is another photo, which is posted there too, but this one have sent by you

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Petra sagt:
as your son Kevin !
Stan sagt:
don't be stupid
Stan sagt:
hey stop this
Stan sagt:
this not kevin
Stan sagt:
hahahaha
Stan sagt:
you don't know kevin
Stan sagt:
this boy here has brown hair
me sagt:
this picture YOU have sent to me !!! hey
Stan sagt:
stop this babe, stop this nonsense
me sagt:
this one you have sent the first to me
Stan sagt:
stop lyeing babe
me sagt:
aha... now, you see, now YOU proof yourself that you are lying

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Stan sagt:
ooh now you have proof yourself unfaithful to me
me sagt:
I got you scammer !!
Stan sagt:
all these while you are having anotherman i think
me sagt:
you have to send immediately my money back
Stan sagt:
i didn't send you any boys pic
me sagt:
ooh yes, you did. HEre on the chat you attached pics of him and... fortunately... I safed them all !!! tja, shit happens
Stan sagt:
and you don't even know kevin
Stan sagt:
stop this nonsense
me sagt:
yes, cos this boy is not existing at all !!
Stan sagt:
stop this nonsense
me sagt:
I just return your own story, nothing more... it's YOUR nonsense... can't you stand it ??? tja, bad luck
Stan sagt:
watch this boy carefully and watch kevin carefully if there resemble
me sagt:
it's your sow what you have sowed out
me sagt:
these are the pics you have sent from kelvin
Stan sagt:
hey i go now
me sagt:
of course
Stan sagt:
you are stupid you don't know kevin
me sagt:
as always when it's getting uncompfortable for you
Stan sagt:
you are a lyier babe
me sagt:
haaahahahahahaha
Stan sagt:
i don't send you any other boys pic
me sagt:
from whom I should know your boy ??
Stan sagt:
am comfortable but now i know you've been talking to other men
me sagt:
from whom I should have the pics here ??
me sagt:
no, don't turn things around
me sagt:
but this is typically for scammers, to turn things a round and put bad feelings on their victim... I know all this now. go ahead, it's not working, say whatever...
Stan sagt:
watch the difference between this boy and kevin
me sagt:
then you have to send me fotos of 'Kevin' NOW !! I only have these, what you sent before and they are not real. and if you send others, they are also not real, I know this.
Stan sagt:
shame on you
me sagt:
tja my dear, shit happens when your stories are not working out anymore
Stan sagt:
shame on you babe
Stan sagt:
i have caught you now
me sagt:
call me whatsoever
me sagt:
return my money !!
Stan sagt:
you are being so unfaithful to me
me sagt:
when I get my money back ??
Stan sagt:
call me
Stan sagt:
i will give you the date
me sagt:
unfaithful, yes of course, to send 8.000 EUR to you !!
me sagt:
this is unfaithful ????????? damn, what cold and heartless guy you are !!! have you any heart beating in your cheast ?? have you any bad conscience what you are doing and putting on women ?? I don't think so. To take money from loneeducational women who have to work hard for their money...
And what you do ?? you just sit on a quite place on your ass and scam on women, this is your job.
Stan sagt:
but now you have prove yourself unfaithful
me sagt:
if you say so
me sagt:
no, YOU did proof yourself
Stan sagt:
i will send you kevin's pictures
me sagt:
ok, go ahead, send them !
Stan sagt:
call me now bvab

Then he went offline ! immediately (he was so mad with me .... hahahahahaha)

me sagt:
I don't call you .... and do not waste more money on guys like you !!!!


sorry for the long chat posting here now, but I thaught it could be interesting for all of you, how they turn things around ! how they develop this ! they put bad conscience on you directly, when they see that you catched them as scammer.
He always promise me since months already that he will return my money. Nothing happens. He even has put hisself a deadline, but this has been passed already since 4 weeks !! lol .... But I don't dream further, I don't get any cent back from this shit guy... he should drive to hell !

2008-08-10, 13:35:44
anonymous  
maybe someone can help me:
How do I get my scammers IP number ?? Everybody is posting and speaking about these IP's... But how do I get them.
I just have his e-mail address, which is a hotmail.com (so no yahoo address, where I have learnt are headers shown). Do this guy has to be online when to get this IP ?
Or can I also find it out differently.
Thanks a lot for you help.

2008-08-17, 04:45:34
anonymous  
Seems to be that nobody except me, knows this person here... Does anybody made experiences too with this guy shown on the picture ?? Is this guy known from anybody else ?? I try to find out, who is the real guy here on the pics. Has anybody seen these pics as well. Each comment, each hint will be highly appreciated.
2008-09-08, 16:44:37
anonymous from Germany  
he is always on dating-pages. I meet him on 'neu.de' He tells me, that he is a cacao-farmer. He only lives with his son. He tells me, he visit me in Germany for a week....i never trust him really...but i have never thought that he is that, what i am reading here. Bevor i loose my heart to him, a friend of mine find this page....i am shocked.
I am 39 years old an live alone with my little girl....he tells he is 30 years old, alone with his son...loool.

Than i send him the links of this side...he promise that he isn`t this man, only the same name. And after a few minutes he tells me, he isn`t Stan Decker. And the man on the photos isn`t he too. The man on the picture has white hair, glasses and is very attractive.
Than he says, that in real he has black hair but he is afraid to send me this photos.
I send him the link to the photos of 'his son'. Than he tells me, he has no son, he lie. In real his son dies when he was 3 years old.

Unbelievable.....



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2008-09-10, 05:41:50   (updated: 2008-09-10, 05:45:52)
anonymous from Germany  
For the first...sorry for my english.. it is not the best....
His Email
deporte_300@hotmail.com

Fon- 00447031969199

the picture of my scammer are not the same... but the style...
I got lovemails every day .. . ( to much)

He saw me on ' meetic' meetic is together with 'neu.de'
His name was prince.. pictures from a Hawaii-model,
His son named Roland ... picture from a Hawaii model
(They often take pictures from www.focushawaii.com
I found both of them there)



The same stories... parents died... bla bla bla

He newer asked me for money.... he send me a mail

he wrote: you are to smart to fall so deeply in love with me.



I wrote him on msn.. sure I am smart.. smart enough to use internet...
He knew what I ment.. I newer heard from him again...

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2008-09-21, 14:46:09
anonymous  
hi girls, sorry, I was out for vacation. Interesting, that at least another lady had contact with 'Stan Decker',
To the lady, posted on 08.09.: which user name he used in Neu.de ?
So, if I understood it correctly, he used the name Stan Decker, but with another picture (the man with grey hair, you posted). Is he still in contact with you ? Did you had contact with him by phone too ?
2008-09-22, 11:02:13
anonymous from Germany  
Stan Decker is in real Maxwell Farell AAron

a black guy in REAL in our group habe the real pic of this guy

he s definitly a scammer !!!

ladies beware

when you re In Germany you can register at our Site ( ITS FREE )

www.contra-romance-scam.de

have a scammerfree day all

a member of the above group

PS we do speak english too



2008-10-11, 16:32:22
anonymous from Germany  
how do you get out a real face of the scammer ? I don't think so, that the scammer will ever show his real face on a webcam. has Maxwell Farell Aaron used the name 'Stan Decker' for scams ?
Is the black guy from Nigeria or Ghana ? Do you have other pics from him, without sunglass ?

It's not necessarily the same person, I have been in contact with. who knows, probably another one uses the same pictures...

I want to get to know all about him, because I will catch him. I will get him arrested !!!

2008-10-12, 05:58:55
anonymous from Germany  
HI again I dont think you re ever gonna catch the guy
they re changing names and e mail adresses like underwear !
but I can tell you we have the real pic from the guy

if youre interested you can register at our forum

www.contra-romance-scam.de

resgister is free and you get a lot of informantion about the scamming business too

take care and stay scammer free
these guys are everywhere
it s so sick ....
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