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I am Miss Marple and a contributor at this site, I have met many victims here at this site and I wanted to create an thread for those who are interested to find out how you recognize African male scammers. I met an scammer while ago, and he came from Nigeria and he tried to scam me, that’s why I created this thread so you can save some time and hopefully your Money by reading this general information I have written here.
I have made studies of African scammers in general and collected some stuff. I will represent here some basic information and some good advices what you can think about when you are out on the dating sites and online, which are the best ways to avoid scammers and learn how to spot them.

Are you an woman and have met the most wonderful, good looking and to good to be true man on the internet? He is also very smart, well educated, working probably as an constructor or engineer and travels a lot in his job, He tells you that he is an widower and has raised his child all alone, and he is now looking for true love. He falls in love very quickly and wants to marry you and wants to meet you soon. Suddenly he must travel to Africa. To Nigeria, Ghana, Ivory coast or another west African country for work and he will come back soon to meet you soon as possible. During his visit he gets in lot of trouble, he gets sick or have accidents. And he suddenly needs money, his credit card is not good enough or he’s has trouble to get his money from his account. Then he begins to ask for money.
Is this something you recognize?? You have probably met an scammer from Africa. Nigeria, Ghana and Ivory coast, Senegal and Dakar is the most common countries where scammers comes from, but they do operate with accomplices from European countries also as Germany, Holland and United Kingdom. Malaysia and China has also reported more scammers activities the latest time.
There is lot of different scams, Lottery scams, Charity scams, credit card scams and spams (Variation from the 419 scam)and other different types of scams, But this is page is only about ROMANCE SCAMMERS or DATING SCAMMERS

You can find scammers on every Dating site, Face book, and My space and many other different communities .Please read the profiles and look at the photographs, the photos are always stolen from agency models and sometimes from other victims as identity theft: the agency you can check is You can also search for photographs in picture search in database at this site and scamdigger where you upload an photo and see if the scammer is reported in another site If you think you have contact with an scammer by email, read these general warning signs


1.Scammers use templates before they starts to ask for money and there is variations in time in that also before they do that from 2 weeks until 2-3 years. Scammers use templates because they scam many people at the same time and have no time to write personal mails.
2.Look for the language, scammers has often very bad grammar and their skills in European language is bad, the templates are often translated by GOOGLE
3.They fell in love very quickly and talk about endless and undying LOVE
4.Avoiding your questions in the mails (typical for scammers who use templates) but variations do exist in this also.
5. Asking money from strangers is a scam, African, Russian, man,woman makes NO DIFFERENCE!
6.The scammer tells you to end your dating site account because you are the only true love for him (this is the way he can control the victim)
7.Scammers uses an +44 as an UK number to confuse victims with that they are in UK but they are in fact in Nigeria . ID Spoofing
8.If it sounds to good to be true it is often that also.

What can you do to protect yourself?

You must protect yourself even if it is not an scammer you are talking to. Never give out any personal information to somebody that you don’t know such your home address, telephone numbers no bank account/credit card numbers or other sensitive information as log in to your email addys or other accounts .Scammers asks for telephone numbers so they can convince people with their undying love as they asks for money, so don’t give out any phone numbers to foreigners. As scammers are criminal in the cyber world their knowledge in computers are very good .Get yourself an good Antivirus program to protect you from malware and spams, never click on links that unknown people sends you in mails, there could be an trojan waiting for you. As trojan is an malware and is created to steal and copy information from other computers.

How do scammers work out and how do you recognize them??

Maybe you are talking for the moment with an scammer but nothing is not what it appears to be as the wonderful man you talking to is an criminal sitting in a internet cafe and knows exactly what he is doing ,because he has done this so many times before that you can’t even imagine that your lovely man is only an criminal and wants to have your money, they are trained to be psychological and knows exactly what to talk and uses your weaknesses to get you into the trap. They send you gifts and talks poetry to you to get you really fall in love. And when you are enough in love then they starts to ask for money. They suddenly gets in to trouble and get into accidents and make up fake stories and involves other scammers also pretending to be doctors and lawyers or barristers that the story sound so real as possible, so that the victim feels empathy and open up the wallet to the scammer. They ask money for anything, from food to hospital bills, they can even send you fake documents that you have to sign your personal information that you suddenly can get involved in the crimes to without any knowledge of what you have really got involved into. As scammers are criminals they are involved in money laundry and drugs. They use most Western union to transfers to receive money from victims, but money gram is also more common now. Scammers uses stolen identities from other victims from another earlier scams or stolen from internet also. So the names they use to collect your money in are not their own names. So catch theses scammers are very difficult because of this.
The grammar is very bad as their skills are not good in English so they use templates translated by some translator and many time the scammers uses GOOGLE to translate their letters, so look for the language in the letters you receive from the scammers. Scammers uses much religion also in their scams they talk many times that they are GOD fearing and pretend to be very religious. often the scammers has children and they are widowers also, because in this way they can affect the victims in a emotionally way to the single mothers, everybody can be scammed but they often seek for single women with kids and in the age of 40, as people has generally made carrier and has an stabile economic situation as that attract scammers of course.

What can you do if you suspect you talking to an scammer?

If you suspect that the person you are talking to on the internet is an scammer, there is sites where you can seek for photographs, as I have put an link in the beginning of this information, but there is others you can do also, if you have contact with an scammer through email, you can look up the IP address, that the person uses and see if the person uses forged IP or has been reported to an scammer site. If the IP address is forged it is absolutely an scam, no real and honest person uses forged IP address, and if they begin to start talking about Africa that they are travelling to Nigeria or Ghana for business or work it is an scam also. Even if they have not asked for money yet it can be an scammers as well, as they can wait with that question a long time. Look for information on the internet what your love is doing and report scammers to sites because only by reporting scammers you reduce the scammers to operate and scam other people. Talk to other people about scamming and inform your friends who you also are talking to on the internet. If you have been scammed you must of course report this crime to the nearest authorities in your hometown and country. And here I have some links where you can find also information what you can do if you have been scammed, but I must put out an warning if you want to report scammers to authorities in Africa be careful who you are talking to, and also find out if it is real people you have contact with, as scammers abuses also this and goes under fake persons and scams people by saying the helping scammed people, there is a lot of fake detectives, so be careful who you are talking to and who you leave your personal information to.

And in this link you have more information of what you can do if you
are scammed.

Many thanks to DOC with the language/Translation,OJAS with good and informative links,and many thanks to and all other contributors and friends here at this site.


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2012-11-26, 17:59:58   (updated: 2012-11-26, 18:02:28)
Miss Marple from United States  
Am I the Face of a Nigerian Online Romance Scam?

sorry sir, I am not looking for a new relationship, but maybe it is a good idea to think about a new career, perhaps as a scammer. no, i enjoy my life like it is and what shall i take from you? an insider information where i can get the best drinks in boston? this i can read in one of your books, lol. i am not looking for revenge or profit. as i'd found out, that my black eyed loverboy using the fotos from an american writer, i couldn't stop laughing. and if i had seen, that these are fotos from a boring person i would had never tried to get in contact with you.

The scammer in her story then moved the communication over to email, which is the traditional next step in the process, where he would send her romantic poems and declaration of undying love. Next they moved over to chat windows, and finally to the telephone. 'i must say, he has really a soft and smooth voice, i still like the sound of his voice.'
That last bit there almost broke my heart. Despite her protestations to the contrary, the picture I was building in my mind was of a lonely woman who, even though she didn't want to believe it, was actually beginning to fall in love with a man she had never met.
To no one's surprise, the scammer explained that he was a successful contractor, as is often the script, and that he had to fly to Nigeria where he would have to pay the salaries of his new staff, and a certain unexpected tax. Textbook stuff. He didn't have the funds necessary as it turned out. She said she would send the money, but says now that she never had any intention of doing so. Her suspicions led her to an online scam forum, where she engendered a reverse look up of my image she had been looking at, which revealed her to my true identity. Or the man in the picture's true identity, whoever that guy is.

Is that even possible, I wondered. Yes, I'm a moderately-known media figure in some northeastern circles, but certainly not in Germany. Maybe I was being scammed here after all? I continued trading messages with her all the same, in a sort of perverse mirroring of her ordeal. She'd apologize for her poor English as we talked back and forth over a couple weeks, but she seemed sarcastic and likeable. I'm happily married, but I could have seen myself talking to her online more regularly under other circumstances.
I'm sure my English is better than your German, she joked. That's an understatement, I said. The only German word I really know is 'weltschmerz.'

Eventually she confronted her Nigerian lover with accusations of being a fraud, saying she had found verbatim texts of the notes he had sent to her in collections of common romance scam forums. He protested, of course, and grew angry, all while still insisting upon his need for the money. 'You are doing this to yourself,' he wrote.
'You don't know when true love is in the air. You don't know when people, really mean something. When people really feel real love. Maybe is because, you have been hurt too many times. Don't let the internet mess with your head.'
That seemed like a particularly cruel twist of the knife.

And yet for some reason she maintained the illusion, even after all that. What did she want from him? He obviously wasn't real. It had become like a game to her, this assumption of identities, but I could still detect sadness in her resignation.
Nevermind that I knew this romance was fake, he knew it, and she seemed to know it at this point, I still couldn't help but feeling somewhat upset. Not for this fraudulent love in particular, although I did sympathize with her, but for the idea of love itself. This was a hyper-contemporary update on the metaphor of love, our motivations for seeking out companionship, of persevering in the face of hardship, of the lies that we tell ourselves to accept the failures of the relationships that we have. In real world love it's often hard to tell where our own identities end and our lovers' begin. How often do people ask themselves if the love they're feeling for someone is real, or if it's just a game?
'Maybe it was the wish of my thoughts,' she wrote, when I asked what kept her pushing for something that wasn't real.

The University of Leicester study found denial to be a common emotion experienced by victims of these crimes. 'Victims found it difficult to visualize the real criminal even after being told they were scammed.' Many describe the experience as akin to being mentally raped.

'I started to live somewhere between reality and illusions, but my mind had ever warned me to believe in the truth. but he always was been here, when i needed anybody to talk about my problems, he made me believe that i can trust him,' she told me. 'Where are the boarders between truth and fake, sometimes closer than you think, sometimes without boarders?'

Meanwhile, I was waiting for the other shoe to drop. The hook that would pull me further into this scam that I already was. A request for money that she had given him. Moving the conversation to email. It never came.
So why bother involving me in the first place, I wondered.

i just wanted to tell you, that these pictures are abused to cheat people...You wanted to know more about this story and i have nothing to hide, you are a part of this story, or better, your face is a part of it. this is the reason, why i have contacted you. and the reason why i still have the contact to this scammer is, that i want to find answers. i always want to find answers for things, where other people need any answer. Perhaps i am searching for answers of my own way of life, really, i don't know. Sometimes something inside my mind force me to do this and it's confusing. And maybe i want to get an answer how he looks like, how he really looks like.

She wanted to interact with someone that was real, in short. The man she had imagined didn't exist, so perhaps I was the next best thing. Those are motivation that cross all boundaries, of both geography and language. Motivations of identity, and how who we love so often informs how we see ourselves.

'oh, there is something else i want to tell you, i think you know more than only this german word,' she said after I'd confessed my linguistic ignorance.
'i think you know it, without to know it, kindergarten. And isn't the whole world sometimes like a kindergarten?'
It really is, because none of us have idea who we are, and we're all desperate for attention.

It was comments like that that made me enjoy talking to this woman, whether she was actually real or not, and at this point I will probably never really find out. After initially accepting her Facebook friend request, I quickly reversed course and thought better of it. In the real world, love and friendship may be worth taking a chance on, but online it's just too risky. You never know who anybody really is.

2012-11-29, 08:43:27
@ Miss Marple

Thanks alot this site is very helpful :)
2012-11-29, 09:19:13
I received this mail in my facebook yesterday

Hello, how are you today?Hope you are doing great at this point in time?
Well i hope so because am concern about you.I was bored so I decided to read through
some profiles to get myself busy, By looking for the women of my life the right women
to settle down with,a women that is responsible God fearing and with a motherly heart,and
I think I like what I read from your profile so far and i would love to know more about you
and how you are doing,I know you will be wondering who am i because you barely know me,
My name is James I am a Single Parent and very hard working, I take life just the way
God has plan it for me so i do not border much about anything, to say the least am very new
to facebook as i do not have the special communication i hope you understand me.
I am cool, honest,loving and a pretty down to earth person.
I hope to hear from you soon, i don't really care what you will write but look forward for
a response.....stay bless

using a stolen photo HAHAHAAHA
This image was also posted here:
How you recognize male scammers.

2012-11-29, 10:49:18
Miss Marple from United States  

My name is James I am a Single Parent and very hard working

hahahaa..LOL that is a good one...
Post also the emailaddress ....thanks//Miss Marple//

Real ID
45 from New South Wales, Australia
Model, Actor


PAUL PADAGAS photos used in scams:


Nicholas Sanchez (Fake facebook account)

2012-11-29, 14:05:06
@ Miss Marple

He did not give his email address he only right me when i see the photo its familiar thats why i search it.
I found another profile on facebook
Name: Titus Felix
Worked at Max Petroleum Plc, an independent Oil and Gas exploration company
Studied at University Liverpool

This image was also posted here:
How you recognize male scammers.

2012-11-29, 16:06:41   (updated: 2012-11-29, 16:08:20)
Miss Marple from United States  
Skyflakes ,Thanks! :)

More on this scammer with photos on Paul Padagas used in scams:
Facebook accounts used by scammers:

Westley Jones
Bobbie Mckenzie
Wilson Cray (2 Accounts)
Moris Jeff:
Mike Lass:
Donald Williams:
Martin Shelton:
Ratner Cobin:
Willson Cray
48 years old, Taurus. Malaysia, Tanjong
Abigail Mathins:

Scam reports:

2012-11-29, 16:12:43
Miss Marple from United States  
This must be the worst photo shop i have ever seen....HAHAHAHAHAHA...LMAO !!!!!

Jame Jone (pictures stolen from Paul Padagas used in scams and also photoshopped)

2012-11-29, 16:40:27
Miss Marple

Your Welcome its my pleasured to share and help other innocent girls, i am so greatful i found this site its help me recovered my self after all what happen to me. Its time now to stand and face the reality.

skyflakes :)
2012-12-01, 09:54:18   (updated: 2012-12-01, 10:15:34)
First i want to says, i'm sorry if my grammar bad, bcoz i'm not too fluent talk in english.
In here i'm just try to tell for all woman , please becarefull if you meet this man. Or this email addres .
But i want to give a comment about
I know this man try to cheat me ... but he so smart , he try to cheat me by phone, not by text , maybe he know if he text me , i will show in this site.
but i have a many letter from him, i know this man from since 12 February 2012.
First know him he said he work at OXUS , and then he said he work with KENTEC Global .inc, and the las he said he work on the RIG.
After chatting a few time he purposed me, and one day on October 2012 suddenly i have a call from a lady who says she is from hospital in malaysia , he said this man Greg just crush by car , and now his coma in hospital , she want me send the money via western union , because Greg need this money to immediately for a big operation. If i'm not do that (send the money ) this man or Greg will die.
At that time no talk more i close her phone , becuase 100 % i realized i just talk with a scamm or cheater.

In my mind finally after almost 10 month , now i know who are you , before my instinc as a woman ever urged me, about this man.

This man tell me he have a contract at Sabah (Malaysia ). n
He give me his phone number :+601.46300747
the number from the lady call me is : +601.1116303521
his also ever give me his phone number at Texas +1 .2139843394
Beware this man also use the email addres :
is the same man who use this email addres : ( as a female )
his another name is Fluct Jagon
this man if you search you will found him in a few dating sosial network example :
Hi5 , OkCupid , , FBRomance, Google+ , wayans dating site from malaysia.
I thought this crime not just all from a black man or nigeria , but i thought some real from white man, because i'm ever talk with him, i hear his voice not like a black man voice.
But i believe a Karma , what we do that what we get in this life.
all i want is all woman aware and be carefull when first talk with someone just know from dating or social network .
Now too many cheater or faker online try to find a victim.
I had a good Fortune , because i'm never send them money.
maybe they think they are smart , they are forget we are a clever woman.
Never give up, for all my friends wherever you are , i still believe in this world still have a good personality man or woman . We just need more extra power and patient to find them.
I think when i have a more time i will copy his mail for this site.
i'm still have a another picture about him.

btw just a few days ago i just read someone report on ikebanadatingsite about email : . in there i saw he use another picture.

2012-12-01, 13:44:13
Miss Marple from United States  
RE : Greg Kampstra
Thank you ! yes this scammer seems to operate in Japan also,please post the mails you have got from the scammer when you find the time ! Post them in the existing thread link here below.




43 / M / Straight / Single
Young America, Minnesota


2012-12-02, 04:27:37
RE : Miss Marple

Thank you soo much Miss Marple ...

For all your kind that's you , ever do to help many people in this world ...

I will copy his mail to this site, thanks .
2012-12-02, 12:25:09
Miss Marple from United States  
The Top 12 Scams Of Christmas To Watch Out For

The holidays are just around the corner and amid the hustle and bustle many of us will fire up our devices to go online, order gifts, plan travel and spread Offers cheer. But while we’re getting festive, the cybercriminals are getting ready to take advantage of the influx of your good cheer to spread scams and malware.
With online holiday shopping expected to grow 12.1% in the US alone this year, to as much as $96 billion, and more people than ever using social media and mobile devices to connect, the cybercriminals have a lot of opportunities to spoil our fun. Using multiple devices provides the bad guys with more ways to access your valuable “digital assets,” such as personal information and files, especially if the devices are under-protected.
According to a McAfee global study commissioned by MSI International last year, consumers place an average value of $37,438 on the “digital assets” they own across multiple digital devices, yet more than a third lack protection across all of those devices.
So, as you head online this holiday season stay on guard and stay aware. Get familiar with our “12 Scams of Christmas” to ensure a safe and happy holiday season:

Social media scams—Many of us use social media sites to connect with family, friends, and co-workers over the holidays, and the cybercriminals know that this is a good place to catch you off guard because we’re all “friends,” right? Here are some ways that criminals will use these channels to obtain shopper’s gift money, identity or other personal information:

Scammers use channels, like Facebook and Twitter, just like email and websites to scam consumers during the holidays. Be careful when liking Fan Pages, clicking on fake alerts from friends’ accounts that have been hacked, taking advantage of raffle’s, ads and deals that you get from “friends,” or installing suspicious “holiday deal” apps that give your private data away.

Twitter ads and special discounts for popular gifts are especially popular, and utilize blind, shortened links, many of which could easily be malicious. Criminals are getting savvier with authentic-looking social ads and deals that take consumers to legitimate looking websites. In order to take advantage of the deals or contests, they ask them for personal information that can obtain a shopper’s credit card number, email address, phone number or home address.

How to Protect Yourself Against Scams During the Holidays, and Year-Round:

1) Stay suspicious—Be wary of any offer that sounds too good to be true, and always look for telltale signs that an email or website may not be legitimate, such as low resolution images, misspellings, poor grammar, or odd links.
2) Practice safe surfing—Find out if a website is potentially dangerous before you click on it by using a safe search plug-in such as McAfee SiteAdvisor®. SiteAdvisor uses easy-to-read red, yellow, and green check marks to rate websites when you search for them.
3) Practice safe shopping—Stick to reputable e-commerce sites and look for a trustmark that indicates that the site has been verified as safe by a trusted third-party, like the McAfee SECURE™ mark. Also, look for a lock symbol and “https” at the beginning of the web address (as opposed to just “http”) to see if the site uses encryption to protect your data.
4) Use strong passwords— Make sure your passwords are at least eight characters long and contain a variety of letters, numbers and characters that don’t spell anything. Avoid using the same password for your important accounts, and never share your passwords with anyone.
5) Be careful when clicking—Don’t click on any links in messages from people you don’t know, and if you come across a shortened URL, use a URL expander to see where the link is directed to before you click.
6) Use a comprehensive computer security— You need complete protection that includes anti-virus, anti-spyware, anti-spam, and a firewall and make sure it is up to date. Online security and safety protection, such as McAfee All Access, can help protect all of your devices – PCs, Macs, smartphones and tablets – from holiday-related malware, phishing, spyware, and other common and emerging threats.
7) Educate yourself— Keep up-to-date on the latest scams and tricks cybercriminals use so you can avoid potential attacks. You can find helpful information on the McAfee Blog and the McAfee Advice Center.


2012-12-03, 11:28:30
2012-12-03, 11:35:29
Thank You , Miss Marple
2012-12-05, 11:19:59

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