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I am Miss Marple and a contributor at this site, I have met many victims here at this site and I wanted to create an thread for those who are interested to find out how you recognize African male scammers. I met an scammer while ago, and he came from Nigeria and he tried to scam me, that’s why I created this thread so you can save some time and hopefully your Money by reading this general information I have written here.
I have made studies of African scammers in general and collected some stuff. I will represent here some basic information and some good advices what you can think about when you are out on the dating sites and online, which are the best ways to avoid scammers and learn how to spot them.

Are you an woman and have met the most wonderful, good looking and to good to be true man on the internet? He is also very smart, well educated, working probably as an constructor or engineer and travels a lot in his job, He tells you that he is an widower and has raised his child all alone, and he is now looking for true love. He falls in love very quickly and wants to marry you and wants to meet you soon. Suddenly he must travel to Africa. To Nigeria, Ghana, Ivory coast or another west African country for work and he will come back soon to meet you soon as possible. During his visit he gets in lot of trouble, he gets sick or have accidents. And he suddenly needs money, his credit card is not good enough or he’s has trouble to get his money from his account. Then he begins to ask for money.
Is this something you recognize?? You have probably met an scammer from Africa. Nigeria, Ghana and Ivory coast, Senegal and Dakar is the most common countries where scammers comes from, but they do operate with accomplices from European countries also as Germany, Holland and United Kingdom. Malaysia and China has also reported more scammers activities the latest time.
There is lot of different scams, Lottery scams, Charity scams, credit card scams and spams (Variation from the 419 scam)and other different types of scams, But this is page is only about ROMANCE SCAMMERS or DATING SCAMMERS

You can find scammers on every Dating site, Face book, and My space and many other different communities .Please read the profiles and look at the photographs, the photos are always stolen from agency models and sometimes from other victims as identity theft: the agency you can check is You can also search for photographs in picture search in database at this site and scamdigger where you upload an photo and see if the scammer is reported in another site If you think you have contact with an scammer by email, read these general warning signs


1.Scammers use templates before they starts to ask for money and there is variations in time in that also before they do that from 2 weeks until 2-3 years. Scammers use templates because they scam many people at the same time and have no time to write personal mails.
2.Look for the language, scammers has often very bad grammar and their skills in European language is bad, the templates are often translated by GOOGLE
3.They fell in love very quickly and talk about endless and undying LOVE
4.Avoiding your questions in the mails (typical for scammers who use templates) but variations do exist in this also.
5. Asking money from strangers is a scam, African, Russian, man,woman makes NO DIFFERENCE!
6.The scammer tells you to end your dating site account because you are the only true love for him (this is the way he can control the victim)
7.Scammers uses an +44 as an UK number to confuse victims with that they are in UK but they are in fact in Nigeria . ID Spoofing
8.If it sounds to good to be true it is often that also.

What can you do to protect yourself?

You must protect yourself even if it is not an scammer you are talking to. Never give out any personal information to somebody that you don’t know such your home address, telephone numbers no bank account/credit card numbers or other sensitive information as log in to your email addys or other accounts .Scammers asks for telephone numbers so they can convince people with their undying love as they asks for money, so don’t give out any phone numbers to foreigners. As scammers are criminal in the cyber world their knowledge in computers are very good .Get yourself an good Antivirus program to protect you from malware and spams, never click on links that unknown people sends you in mails, there could be an trojan waiting for you. As trojan is an malware and is created to steal and copy information from other computers.

How do scammers work out and how do you recognize them??

Maybe you are talking for the moment with an scammer but nothing is not what it appears to be as the wonderful man you talking to is an criminal sitting in a internet cafe and knows exactly what he is doing ,because he has done this so many times before that you can’t even imagine that your lovely man is only an criminal and wants to have your money, they are trained to be psychological and knows exactly what to talk and uses your weaknesses to get you into the trap. They send you gifts and talks poetry to you to get you really fall in love. And when you are enough in love then they starts to ask for money. They suddenly gets in to trouble and get into accidents and make up fake stories and involves other scammers also pretending to be doctors and lawyers or barristers that the story sound so real as possible, so that the victim feels empathy and open up the wallet to the scammer. They ask money for anything, from food to hospital bills, they can even send you fake documents that you have to sign your personal information that you suddenly can get involved in the crimes to without any knowledge of what you have really got involved into. As scammers are criminals they are involved in money laundry and drugs. They use most Western union to transfers to receive money from victims, but money gram is also more common now. Scammers uses stolen identities from other victims from another earlier scams or stolen from internet also. So the names they use to collect your money in are not their own names. So catch theses scammers are very difficult because of this.
The grammar is very bad as their skills are not good in English so they use templates translated by some translator and many time the scammers uses GOOGLE to translate their letters, so look for the language in the letters you receive from the scammers. Scammers uses much religion also in their scams they talk many times that they are GOD fearing and pretend to be very religious. often the scammers has children and they are widowers also, because in this way they can affect the victims in a emotionally way to the single mothers, everybody can be scammed but they often seek for single women with kids and in the age of 40, as people has generally made carrier and has an stabile economic situation as that attract scammers of course.

What can you do if you suspect you talking to an scammer?

If you suspect that the person you are talking to on the internet is an scammer, there is sites where you can seek for photographs, as I have put an link in the beginning of this information, but there is others you can do also, if you have contact with an scammer through email, you can look up the IP address, that the person uses and see if the person uses forged IP or has been reported to an scammer site. If the IP address is forged it is absolutely an scam, no real and honest person uses forged IP address, and if they begin to start talking about Africa that they are travelling to Nigeria or Ghana for business or work it is an scam also. Even if they have not asked for money yet it can be an scammers as well, as they can wait with that question a long time. Look for information on the internet what your love is doing and report scammers to sites because only by reporting scammers you reduce the scammers to operate and scam other people. Talk to other people about scamming and inform your friends who you also are talking to on the internet. If you have been scammed you must of course report this crime to the nearest authorities in your hometown and country. And here I have some links where you can find also information what you can do if you have been scammed, but I must put out an warning if you want to report scammers to authorities in Africa be careful who you are talking to, and also find out if it is real people you have contact with, as scammers abuses also this and goes under fake persons and scams people by saying the helping scammed people, there is a lot of fake detectives, so be careful who you are talking to and who you leave your personal information to.

And in this link you have more information of what you can do if you
are scammed.

Many thanks to DOC with the language/Translation,OJAS with good and informative links,and many thanks to and all other contributors and friends here at this site.


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2014-07-31, 07:14:22
OJAS from United States  
Thanks hemisphere, Zdravim! :-)
2014-07-31, 17:19:35
Miss Marple from United States  
Thanks Hemisphere and OJAS,

2014-07-30, 10:18:46
anonymous from United States
I am not seeing many connections being made to the Nigerian scammers that operate in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. Has anyone had that issue?

Yes Nigerian scammers are very active from Malaysia and have been so now for an while. We have lots of threads on this site with Nigerian scammers operating out of Malaysia . So answer to your question I have to say you are not correct .

2014-07-31, 17:22:57
Miss Marple from United States  
American women targeted as Malaysia becomes internet scam haven -US

(Reuters) - Hundreds of American women are being ensnared by Internet scammers based in Malaysia, with some losing over a quarter of a million dollars, as the country becomes an epicentre for online crime perpetrated by Africans, U.S. officials say.

The mostly Nigerian conmen, who enter Malaysia on student visas, take advantage of the country's good Internet infrastructure to prey on lonely, middle-aged women, wooing them on dating websites before swindling their savings, they said.

The scams are more sophisticated than most Nigeria-based operations - which most Internet users have experienced at some time either via email or advertising - helped by Malaysia's advanced banking system, which allows perpetrators to quickly set up accounts and receive international transfers.

U.S. officials say Malaysian police lack the resources and expertise to tackle the problem and have yet to launch a single prosecution of a case involving a U.S. victim.

Malaysian police were reported by local media last December as saying that the number of Internet scam cases more than doubled in 2013 with total losses of more than $11 million. A total of 476 Africans had been apprehended for suspected involvement, the report said.

The Malaysian police and the Nigerian embassy in Kuala Lumpur did not respond to Reuters' request for comment. A spokesman for Nigeria's Economic and Financial Crimes Commission said he was not aware of scammers operating in Malaysia, but added they were known to have international networks.

Tim Scherer, consul general at the U.S. embassy in Kuala Lumpur, told Reuters that complaints about such scams now made up more than 80 percent of inquiries to duty officers at the mission, with a dozen new cases reported every week.

Citizens of Australia, Canada and Europe had also been targeted, he said.

2014-08-01, 08:05:47
OJAS from United States  
Shortened URL for the news link posted by Miss Marple
2014-08-11, 12:05:36
2014-08-13, 22:15:45
Be careful with this man, claiming to be a British man and come to my country, and when it comes to face problems with customs, and asked me to send some money ..
But I indifference and no sending money in accordance with his request

2014-08-13, 22:43:14
Nathan Cooper said his name, email address, work as the owner of agricultural land in Thailand ...
Early communication, he immediately fell in love and immediately said intends to sell rubber plantations in Thailand and returned to America for some business and will soon come to the country directly from America.
But a few moments, he tells will send the land sale proceeds to my bank account.
And before this is done, one of Malaysia calls me up to ask for a security deposit, but I never responded.
Finally, Nathan Cooper asked me to send some money to his driver who had an accident in Thailand ... well I do not respond to it ..
Now communication has been lost because he failed to get money from me

2014-08-19, 16:46:08   (updated: 2014-08-19, 16:50:31)
OJAS from United States  
Globalization of scam, now India joins the act!
2014-08-19, 18:52:40
Miss Marple from United States  
2014-08-13, 22:15:45
100% scam ,the man on the photo is not english and asking for money from strangers online is always a scam as well. Please post name and email address and the mail where the scammer is asking for money . The photo is stolen from an innocent man and used in scams probably by west african scammers.

Real ID: Roderick Galdes politician Malta

2014-08-19, 19:04:26
Miss Marple from United States  
Ojas ,Thank you for the links . The globalization of scams is the true word in this ,it will hit every corner of the world one day . People has to become more alert on scams that is one thing for sure .
2014-08-19, 21:10:33
Miss Marple from United States  
RE:2014-08-13, 22:43:14
Can you post the letters as the introduction mail sent you from this scammer and the letter where he asks for money. Do you have more photos ? post the photos if you have too.
2014-08-20, 22:41:03
Bax from United States  
Yea... I've seen lots of shadows of scam activity with lead lines to India info n data.
They have what? About 3 billion people elbow to elbow there??
Poverty, hunger, crime and corruption.
2014-08-24, 20:49:12
anonymous from United States  

2014-08-27, 14:32:12
anonymous from United States  
This person met me on tagged, stated he was a 46 year old widower with 2 children 8 & 6 (a boy named jimmy & a girl named cindy). His email that he is using is He sent me several pictures of him and his children and also a picture of his tent in west africa. He stated that he is in the Airforce as a Master Sargent and is deployed for 18 months. He has been there since 11/2013. He also stated his wife died of breast cancer in 2/2012, and his children is staying with a babysitter. He proclaim his dying love for me within 10 days which I PLAYED ALONG WITH to see where this would go. And behold he asked for a phone or ipad to skype to verify who he said he is to me. I laughted because I saw the same information on scamwarners on 2011. I confronted him and he swears he is the real deal! Still laughing..I told him to take a picture of himself now in the tent holding my picture in his hand, then I would belive him. I never happend! The real guy in this picture probaly does not have any credit or a life....but he never got any money or items from me! Here is a picture he sent me in my email....

2014-09-02, 08:44:16   (updated: 2014-09-02, 08:51:50)
1st email from Mark Harry
Hello dear,

Thanks for your prompt response, am really impress with your kind response. Sorry for the delay in replying back, like I said I am Mark Harry, I am a native of America but was born and brought up in United Kingdom I am 44 years old in the year 1970. I was once married, but lost my wife on a car accident with my daughter only child. I am an Engineer, working in the sea as Oil & Gas Drilling and presently under contract With British, Qatar, Cote D'Ivoire and Saudi Arabia
I have not been to your country but looking forward to get a contract with one of the Oil & Gas company there, it will also create an opportunity to visit and know more about you and your country. I love my job despite the stress. My love, this is just the beginning and we need to give ourselves time to build this relationship, All I want is somebody that will care for me, someone who will understand me. I will still discuss further on this and I want you to feel free and tell me what you do for living. I really appreciate your honesty at this early stage
My dear I am 100% single and free I was married at the age of 32 but lost my wife in a car accident with my daughter and she is only child. right now I am alone looking for a serious lady to share my life with and to share ideas with, it has been very difficult to make this decision or to get some one that is suitable to my want but I keep on searching and believed that I can get that one day.
Age does not really matter for me this time because I need woman that will support me and take care of me, someone that will help to build my future plan.
I have never fall in love since I lost my wife and it is two years now she is gone and I think that I have given her the respect and love , My dear I would like to know more about you, you marital status, like I said age does not mean to me. What do you do as work, how do you live, alone or with your parents?
I would be glad to know more of you I will open a phone conversation at due time so that we can start a phone conversation in order to make this stronger and confide on each other. Please let me know what is your opinion or views about me. I will take some rest and will check my e-mail again. Hoping to hear from you, do not forget to attach your pictures in the next letter and more details about you.
Mark Harry.

2nd email
My dear,
Meeting you was pure destiny, you and I were meant to be. All I wish is to hold you we'll meet not under the sun but beneath the moon. We’ll watch the stars till they fade away, but we won't fade together we'll always stay. This is the day I'm waiting for, from that day I'll love you more and more. I can't wait to watch the sun set with you, every sunset from that day till the rest of our lives are through.

My dear, I appreciate your warm reply and it really shows that am not making the wrong choice, believe me I dreamt of this relationship before it's coming and I promise you that the days of your sorrow are gone and I bring you the joy of true happiness and love and nothing will ever change me from being the honest and responsible man you desire me to be. I keep my word and I swear never to break my promises.

My dear, I have just realized that for our love to grow we need good understanding and we must always agree to each other. So I want to urge you to ask and relate with me every of your worries and problems so that we can always find solution for it, and I will do the same whenever I need your loving advise, I promise to be closer to you if only you can be sincere to me. Please I want you to tell me more about yourself and your pictures

My dear, I really appreciate your warm message, I promise to keep your heart safe in my hands and I will try my best to make you comfortable for loving me.
Any way I have to stop here because I have allot of office responsibility to tackle now, I love you and I will always do.

Mark Harry

3rd email
My love

How are you today and how is your work as well? I hope you are in good health condition? My love it gladden my heart to receive your warm reply and your message to me has shown me that am not making the wrong choice, wards cannot explain how much I long to have a sincere and honest girl for partner but I bless the day I met you and the memory of coming across your profile will never depart from my soul. Don’t be surprise about the emotion of love I feel for you because love is a natural thing and it can come in any form. Until now I still imagine how I got attracted to you after viewing your profile, for me it’s a thing of destiny and I can’t stop the feelings, although the feelings brings joy to my heart and I must listen to the voice of my heart and I will never go back from it even though I get pressure from you telling me to slow down. I know I shouldn’t say to you at the first place but certain things demand to be let out when the heart bits very fast, I guess you have never experience first encounter with a person I got a heart bit which gives you sign that you deserve to be the arms of that person, have you? Believe me you have to think again only then you will understand that love comes in a different form.

My love what I need from you is a long lasting relationship from a sincere heart; I want us to forget the past and behold the future because the future has allot to offer. I surely believe that both of us can make a good lasting relationship and family too, but it all depends on YOU and I...honey love is not by saying it but by practicing love is to be sincere, honest, truthful, faithful and caring too. Well for me I promise to stand by your side no matter the circumstances that fall on us. My love am a straight forward man and I keep my promises. believe me I have watch other people relationship and families crumble and I will never want that to happen to us and that why am so conscious of having a sincere woman...Mean while I have decided to give you my heart and love and I want you to keep them safe until I meet you in your country were I will finally hug and prove my love for you.

I know how you feel when I told you about my interest to love you, but today I want you to throw away your worries, I choose you because my heart tells me you will be the right woman for me and I believe you will take care of me very well. I got the feeling of loving you immediately I came across your profile, until now I don’t know what happen because I still keep thinking of how to meet you.

To clear your mind of the reasons I choose an Asian girl, I want you to know that I have a friend who got married to Asian girl and he have been living happily with his wife, he told me that Asian woman are quite understanding and warmly to be with unlike the European women. So I quite agreed with my friends concerning his views about Asian girls, and this was the reason I decided with my heart that I will make a choice of wife from Asia.

My love I want you to always take care of yourself for me which is my most concern and soon as I take my vacation I will definitely inform you so that you can start making arrangement for my arrival OK. take care I love you

Mark Harry.

4th email
My love,

I hope this message meets you in good health upon reading it, my love It is very important for me to express to you how much you really mean to me. I wish I could do this in person while holding you in my arms and gazing into your eyes. But since we are physically far by miles of emptiness, this expression must come in the form of letters such as this. I want to make it clear to you that am not here to make any kind of joke or what ever, for your information am no more a kid and i know when i feel something for you, i always follow my heart and since my heart accepted you i will never go back from my feelings except you really don't want me.

My love, I know it is difficult for you, as it is for me, to be far for so long. Life seems to be full of trials of this type which test our inner strength, and more importantly, our devotion and love for one another. After all, it is said that 'True Love' is boundless and immeasurable and overcomes all forms of adversity. In truth, if it is genuine, it will grow stronger with each assault upon its existence

My love the content of your message was well understood, I want to assure you that the years of long waiting for your right partner is over because I will stand by you no matter the circumstances, I wish to be with you during your feast celebration just to take out that emptiness, but I promise that your day of range is over and you will never feel emptiness again.

My love, I am convinced that it is true because the longer I am away from you, the greater is my yearning to be with you. You are my Charming Princess , and I am your devoted Prince. I cherish any thought of you; prize any memory of you that rises from the depths of my mind. Until that moment arrives, I send to you across the miles, my tender love, my warm embrace, and my most passionate kiss.

My love I promise to be your special one OK, I hope you will always keep your heart for me You can call me with +447024043859 or +447024089316 I want you to send me you direct phone number so I can give you a call OK.

Mark Harry.

5th email
My love,
Am glad to read your warmest reply today and i hope you are having a great working day over there? it’s always a good thing for me each time I open my PC to check your e-mail, nothing ever makes me excited this days like reading your letters, I always take my time to read it so I can understand it clearly.
My love I know how you feel about long distance relationship, always very difficult to stay far from each other but sometimes I think it’s one of the sacrifice we have to undergo to be with the person god has destined for us, although we are far from each other but you always stay close in my heart, memory of meeting you will never depart from my soul, I have never long for something before like the way I long to be with you
My love I want us to consider our self as been lucky to meet each other, even though we have not met before, my assurance to you is that I will never change my mind towards loving you, I know you might feel that I may not like you again when I see you in real life, or maybe your thinking that I will be disappointed by your look or beauty when we meet each other right? Well if that is what you feel, I want you to take them out from your heart because my thinking is far from that, I have deeper reasoning, I have the gift of wisdom from god and that is why I can leave with any woman from any part of this world, I always believe that marriage has nothing to do with the outside beauty, you know why? The reason I said this is because beauty will fade away someday but the inner beauty which is the heart will always remain unchangeable and can never fade.
My love I want you to know that many marriage have fade away because people tends to go for beauty or hansom, I decided to go far from Europe to search for my partner because I have heard allot of good testimony concerning woman from Asia, but I don’t capitalize on that fact alone but I capitalize on the fact that I need to find a woman were I can get true love, sometimes women around here already knows my status and might love me because of my money, so I want to choice woman who will love me unconditionally, I mean someone who will come in my life as new.
My love am so sorry for my long message, I still have allot on my mind now because am feeling so emotional now, but I have to stop here, hope to get your reply soon, I love you and I will always do.



6th email
My love,

I want to apologies for my lateness in replying your message, I have allots of work at my office this week and it’s giving me stress. Believe me You've captured my heart and touched my soul. For you are the one that stepped into my dreams .You gave me a new hope and showed me what love means. Sweetheart, you are the reason of my happiness. You came into my life and made my life complete. For you define beauty in both body and mind.

You are the angel of my youths and the deliverer of my soul when I could not do anything my heart and soul has concluded that you are God's sent to restore my life a new and my love how was your birthday.
Your attitude in responding to my message have attracted my attention to share my ideas and plans with you which I was keeping silent from you this few days. My love to start I have a plan of setting up a good investment in china with some money I got from the contract I did with British last year. I decided to invest with the money because am planning of retirement, but after this few days that I have been sharing some conversation with you I decided to divert my investment plan to your country since I will have some one like you to manage the investment with me.

I have requested my lawyer to start making enquiries about investing in your country and I also ask him to arrange every necessary document that will enhance the successful plan of setting up investment in your country.

My love one thing I want you to assure me is that your country will be safe and peaceful for my investment plans, am sharing this idea with you because I don’t want to do anything with out informing you. I want to know if I can get your support on my plans. I really want to set up a good investment near to you so I could be more closer to you instead of staying far away from you after our marriage, I want to ensure that I will secure good future for our family before settling down with you because I don’t want to stay far from you If finally we get married.

I also I want to inform you that my family are very much away of our relationship now because I was forced by my heart to formally introduce you to them, when I told them my intension with you they all ask question about you and I have to explain little about you to them, but finally they accepted my plans to with you

Tomorrow I will be going to shopping for my Mum because she’s planning of going back to the family house in USA. Please my love I have to stop here and I hope to get your reply again.

I love you so much and I want you to pray seriously for our relationship to keep growing in love until we finally meet OK

Mark Harry.

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