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I am Miss Marple and a contributor at this site, I have met many victims here at this site and I wanted to create an thread for those who are interested to find out how you recognize African male scammers. I met an scammer while ago, and he came from Nigeria and he tried to scam me, that’s why I created this thread so you can save some time and hopefully your Money by reading this general information I have written here.
I have made studies of African scammers in general and collected some stuff. I will represent here some basic information and some good advices what you can think about when you are out on the dating sites and online, which are the best ways to avoid scammers and learn how to spot them.

Are you an woman and have met the most wonderful, good looking and to good to be true man on the internet? He is also very smart, well educated, working probably as an constructor or engineer and travels a lot in his job, He tells you that he is an widower and has raised his child all alone, and he is now looking for true love. He falls in love very quickly and wants to marry you and wants to meet you soon. Suddenly he must travel to Africa. To Nigeria, Ghana, Ivory coast or another west African country for work and he will come back soon to meet you soon as possible. During his visit he gets in lot of trouble, he gets sick or have accidents. And he suddenly needs money, his credit card is not good enough or he’s has trouble to get his money from his account. Then he begins to ask for money.
Is this something you recognize?? You have probably met an scammer from Africa. Nigeria, Ghana and Ivory coast, Senegal and Dakar is the most common countries where scammers comes from, but they do operate with accomplices from European countries also as Germany, Holland and United Kingdom. Malaysia and China has also reported more scammers activities the latest time.
There is lot of different scams, Lottery scams, Charity scams, credit card scams and spams (Variation from the 419 scam)and other different types of scams, But this is page is only about ROMANCE SCAMMERS or DATING SCAMMERS

You can find scammers on every Dating site, Face book, and My space and many other different communities .Please read the profiles and look at the photographs, the photos are always stolen from agency models and sometimes from other victims as identity theft: the agency you can check is You can also search for photographs in picture search in database at this site and scamdigger where you upload an photo and see if the scammer is reported in another site If you think you have contact with an scammer by email, read these general warning signs


1.Scammers use templates before they starts to ask for money and there is variations in time in that also before they do that from 2 weeks until 2-3 years. Scammers use templates because they scam many people at the same time and have no time to write personal mails.
2.Look for the language, scammers has often very bad grammar and their skills in European language is bad, the templates are often translated by GOOGLE
3.They fell in love very quickly and talk about endless and undying LOVE
4.Avoiding your questions in the mails (typical for scammers who use templates) but variations do exist in this also.
5. Asking money from strangers is a scam, African, Russian, man,woman makes NO DIFFERENCE!
6.The scammer tells you to end your dating site account because you are the only true love for him (this is the way he can control the victim)
7.Scammers uses an +44 as an UK number to confuse victims with that they are in UK but they are in fact in Nigeria . ID Spoofing
8.If it sounds to good to be true it is often that also.

What can you do to protect yourself?

You must protect yourself even if it is not an scammer you are talking to. Never give out any personal information to somebody that you don’t know such your home address, telephone numbers no bank account/credit card numbers or other sensitive information as log in to your email addys or other accounts .Scammers asks for telephone numbers so they can convince people with their undying love as they asks for money, so don’t give out any phone numbers to foreigners. As scammers are criminal in the cyber world their knowledge in computers are very good .Get yourself an good Antivirus program to protect you from malware and spams, never click on links that unknown people sends you in mails, there could be an trojan waiting for you. As trojan is an malware and is created to steal and copy information from other computers.

How do scammers work out and how do you recognize them??

Maybe you are talking for the moment with an scammer but nothing is not what it appears to be as the wonderful man you talking to is an criminal sitting in a internet cafe and knows exactly what he is doing ,because he has done this so many times before that you can’t even imagine that your lovely man is only an criminal and wants to have your money, they are trained to be psychological and knows exactly what to talk and uses your weaknesses to get you into the trap. They send you gifts and talks poetry to you to get you really fall in love. And when you are enough in love then they starts to ask for money. They suddenly gets in to trouble and get into accidents and make up fake stories and involves other scammers also pretending to be doctors and lawyers or barristers that the story sound so real as possible, so that the victim feels empathy and open up the wallet to the scammer. They ask money for anything, from food to hospital bills, they can even send you fake documents that you have to sign your personal information that you suddenly can get involved in the crimes to without any knowledge of what you have really got involved into. As scammers are criminals they are involved in money laundry and drugs. They use most Western union to transfers to receive money from victims, but money gram is also more common now. Scammers uses stolen identities from other victims from another earlier scams or stolen from internet also. So the names they use to collect your money in are not their own names. So catch theses scammers are very difficult because of this.
The grammar is very bad as their skills are not good in English so they use templates translated by some translator and many time the scammers uses GOOGLE to translate their letters, so look for the language in the letters you receive from the scammers. Scammers uses much religion also in their scams they talk many times that they are GOD fearing and pretend to be very religious. often the scammers has children and they are widowers also, because in this way they can affect the victims in a emotionally way to the single mothers, everybody can be scammed but they often seek for single women with kids and in the age of 40, as people has generally made carrier and has an stabile economic situation as that attract scammers of course.

What can you do if you suspect you talking to an scammer?

If you suspect that the person you are talking to on the internet is an scammer, there is sites where you can seek for photographs, as I have put an link in the beginning of this information, but there is others you can do also, if you have contact with an scammer through email, you can look up the IP address, that the person uses and see if the person uses forged IP or has been reported to an scammer site. If the IP address is forged it is absolutely an scam, no real and honest person uses forged IP address, and if they begin to start talking about Africa that they are travelling to Nigeria or Ghana for business or work it is an scam also. Even if they have not asked for money yet it can be an scammers as well, as they can wait with that question a long time. Look for information on the internet what your love is doing and report scammers to sites because only by reporting scammers you reduce the scammers to operate and scam other people. Talk to other people about scamming and inform your friends who you also are talking to on the internet. If you have been scammed you must of course report this crime to the nearest authorities in your hometown and country. And here I have some links where you can find also information what you can do if you have been scammed, but I must put out an warning if you want to report scammers to authorities in Africa be careful who you are talking to, and also find out if it is real people you have contact with, as scammers abuses also this and goes under fake persons and scams people by saying the helping scammed people, there is a lot of fake detectives, so be careful who you are talking to and who you leave your personal information to.

And in this link you have more information of what you can do if you
are scammed.

Many thanks to DOC with the language/Translation,OJAS with good and informative links,and many thanks to and all other contributors and friends here at this site.

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2012-06-27, 21:01:14
Miss Marple from United States  
Scams on the rise: Police

Saturday, Jun 23, 2012

SINGAPORE - More cases of scamming have been reported recently, according to the police in its latest advisory.

In the latest trend, more people have been tricked into parting with cash in “scratch and win” scams in Johor Bahru.

The number of such cases rose from 8 cases in 2010 to 46 reported cases in just four months, from Jan to May 2012.

In these cases, victims were informed that they had won a prize in a foreign lottery or lucky draw. The suspects would then request for victims to make as advanced payment to help in the process of claiming the prize.

Victims were offered a ride to the nearest ATM to withdraw large sums of money to make an initial payment before receiving their ‘winnings’.

After handing their cash to the suspects, victims realized that the prizes did not exist or were of a much lower value than promised.
Victims of such scams are advised to make a police report at the nearest police station in the country where the scam took place.

If in Singapore, victims may call the police immediately at ‘999’ to report the case. Victims may also call the Singapore police hotline if they have information on such cases at 1800-255-0000.

Police would like to remind members of public to be wary of get-rich-quick offers and not to make any advance payment to claim any prize money. They are also advised not to accept car rides from strangers, even if they offer you a lift back to Singapore.

Variation of Internet 'love scams'

There has also been more reported cases of a variation of the Internet 'love scam', where victims will be persuaded to pose naked on their webcams and the footage subsequently used to extort money from victims.

Police would like to remind members of public to remain vigilant against such scammers, and to adopt the following crime prevention measures especially when dealing with unknown persons over the Internet:

a. Inform the Police immediately if anyone attempts to extort money from you;

b. Be wary of messages from unknown people who want to befriend you;

c. Exercise caution when dealing with unknown persons “befriended” through the Internet.

d. Do not remit or transfer money to people whom you do not know well enough. The criminal may spend months building rapport with you online before asking for money;

e. Do not accede to any request that may put you in a vulnerable positions, such as performing compromising acts in front of the webcam, or give personal details about yourself when interacting with other internet users; and

f. If you receive any message or call from anyone claiming he/she is in some kind of trouble overseas and need you to urgently send money over, you should report the matter to Police and not transfer the money.

2012-06-27, 21:10:01
Miss Marple from United States  
U.S. Department of State Shares Red Flags to Identify Dating Scams

Online dating scams have become a worldwide issue. A study presented at the annual meeting of the British Psychological Society in London found that people with strong romantic beliefs who idealize their romantic partners are most likely to fall victim to online dating scams. Meanwhile, the U.S. Department of State has posted an advisory warning Americans to “be alert to attempts at fraud by persons claiming to live outside of the U.S., professing friendship, romantic interest, and /or marriage intentions over the Internet.”

According to the State Department, the following red flags can be used to identify a potential romance scam:

•The scammer and the victim meet online – often through Internet dating or employment sites.

•The scammer asks for money to get out of a bad situation or to provide a service.

•Photographs that the scammer sends of “him/herself” show a very attractive person. The photo appears to have been taken at a professional modeling agency or photographic studio.

•The scammer has incredibly bad luck– often getting into car crashes, arrested, mugged, beaten, or hospitalized — usually all within the course of a couple of months. They often claim that their key family members (parents and siblings) are dead. Sometimes, the scammer claims to have an accompanying child overseas who is very sick or has been in an accident.

•The scammer claims to be a native-born American citizen, but uses poor grammar indicative of a non-native English speaker. Sometimes the scammer will use eloquent romantic language that is plagiarized from the Internet.


2012-06-28, 09:32:30
anonymous from Philippines  
I don't know if this guy is scammer. I met him in a facebook when he send a messages for
me that he entangled about my wonderful smile. I replied to him to say thank you. and he replied to me and ask me if he wanted to me as his friend and he gave me his email address. we having a good conversation, he introduced his self as a petroleum engineer in
a Marathon Oil Cooperation. He is single, 45 years old not getting married because of busy work and research. He always on a business trip. He went to leeds for some important meeting. And the highlighted to him is to getting married. but i refuse i dont want to marry him because i'm married and to kids. and he accepted that. but in a days past accidentally i saw his facebook account that his picture was changed. i was felt dissapointed and angry and i send him an email said that he is a liar. he replied to me and he said why i am harrassing him. i said that i am not harrassing but confusing that there is a two person on a one name. he told that he's facebook account was hacked and he didnt know the guy. i send him another email saying sorry and he accepted but he told me that he's intention not to close again because he hurt so much for that accusation. but with some explanation so we ok i told them i need his help to find a job in their country. a few days fast he never email again.

2012-06-28, 10:47:12
Miss Marple from United States  
2012-06-28, 09:32:30
anonymous from Philippines

I am sorry but i think you are talking to an scammer online,the story given here sounds too weird,the guy on the picture do not look like he is 45 years old more likely 25-30 years.He is also working as an petroleum engineer which scammers online seems to always work with in their profiles .Scammers are the ones who always establish the first contact with their victims.So your story sounds for me as an scam already.So i did some researches on the photo you posted and the guy is for real an model from Ireland his name is Tomas Oplawski.Please block the scammer and report the profile to Facebook.

Real ID
Tomasz Oplawski
27 from Dublin Region, Ireland
Model, Actor, Dancer


2012-07-01, 19:01:04
ok i have a serious problem here i doi habe a scammer abd i did give hime my address and phone number but no banking information thank god but do you suggest that i do because i am very scared now. i know now that it is a scammer because i have read what you wrote and he follows everything to a t.. i am very scared now what do i do..
2012-07-01, 19:05:24
ok i have a serious problem here i doi habe a scammer abd i did give hime my address and phone number but no banking information thank god but do you suggest that i do because i am very scared now. i know now that it is a scammer because i have read what you wrote and he follows everything to a t.. i am very scared now what do i do..
2012-07-01, 19:38:13
Miss Marple from United States  
RE:2012-07-01, 19:01:04
Often scammers goes away when you do not reply them at all,if he calls you do not answer,scammers can be very persistent sometimes, and do not give up easily on victims especially if the victim has sent money to them block the scammer in all way ,that means block the emailaddress so he can not reach you per mail,do not answer on any calls from him ,i do think the scammer will give up after an while..when the scammer notice there is nothing to get he will move on to the next victim ,it is pure business and time is money..good you did not give your banking information ! I do not know what scammer you are talking about in this case please post photo the scammer is using ,phone number and emailaddress it can help other women that stays in contact with this scammer to find information about this scam!

All kind regards //Miss Marple//
2012-07-01, 19:48:32
Miss Marple from United States  
here is an good tool when you do photo researches ...
2012-07-02, 07:31:47
Miss Marple from United States  

RE:Bernard Churchgate

2012-07-01, 23:21:11
anonymous from Canada
ok i am not sure if you got my last message but i do have a scammer on my hands his name is Bernard Churchgate and i am very worried and scared now i did give information which was my cell phone and mailing address.. but when i found out eventually that he was a scammer i told him to never contact me and i was not sending any money cause i have none,

could you please help me to stop this guy.. i do no online banking of any kind wha so ever. could you please help i am very scared.. i am not going to be answering any calls what so ever from him now i know that he is a scammer.. please get back to me..

I do not think you have anything to worry about,just do not answer on the cellphone and do not answer on any mails..he will go away when he notice there is nothing to get...just ignore ...

2012-07-07, 21:32:56   (updated: 2012-07-07, 21:33:55)
whyme2012 from Sydney, Australia  
Hello Ladies.
I had to share this one with you today, I am on to catch the loosers that we are on here to report.
I was contacted by a man who called himself Kevin from Adela CA.
So what I did was scam his photo via google photo search and the photo took me to the the following site (ladies be warned if you are going to go to this site it is porn)
But the funniest thing about thing is the man in the photo who is meant to be Kevin is actually Cody Cummings the gay porn star.
They are not doing there homework before using a photo, I said to this Kevin, why are you talking to me I am not a man and you only like men.
I never heard from him again.

2012-07-07, 22:03:56   (updated: 2012-07-07, 22:18:52)
Miss Marple from United States  
great job! Thanks i found an scam report with pictures on Cody Cummings ,the scam originated out of Ghana but that was 2010 and i know there are gay goldiggers(scammers goes under real IDs) in Ghana ...i know scammers from Nigeria are abusing gays to scam them out of money,,i know we have an thread here
on this site with scams towards gays..yeaahh scammers do not always do their homework..LMAO..did you got an emailaddress from the scammer please post it here...
Dating scammer Daniel Kehinde, aka 'Kenny Daniel

Real ID :
Nextdoor Male with the name of Tyler Cummings.
In 2008, his stage name is changed to Cody Cummings
Scam report:
This image was also posted here:
How you recognize male scammers.
Is this Russian girl scamming me? How to recognize scammers

2012-07-07, 22:32:27
Miss Marple from United States  
Posted an article about gay scammers actually back in 2010 on this thread page 4 ,gay scammers do not really have an own department here so that needs to be brought to our attention...

Gay Dating Scams
Homosexuality is illegal in Ghana. This gives opportunities to unscroupulous people who are out for fast money. The fact is, very few genuine homosexuals use the gay dating sites. The majority of the people on them are either not gay and never intend to have intimacy, are 'gay for pay' or gay but looking for money or an easy way out. The worst is they blackmail or extort money, often using real or fake police. People have also been kidnapped and beaten up. A Google search will bring up scores of horror stories.



Online dating websites are booming, and gay internet dating websites are also growing rapidly. Mainstream match-making sites like eHarmony and offer gay online dating, and other sites are entirely devoted to helping gays and lesbians find their perfect match. Many gays are also finding their partner or friend on social networking sites like Facebook. The bottom line is that many homosexuals are now pairing up online, and scammers have taken notice. Criminals have been targeting online dating website members for some time, and have recently expanded their target to include gay and lesbian dating sites and members.
2012-07-08, 05:46:15
whyme2012 from Sydney, Australia  
I found this picture online and find it fitting for this site.
All scammers should be in this jar.
This image was also posted here:
Dating scammer regina lyam..regina okyere
Dating scammer Rose McDonell
Dating scammer Sandra Mark from Lagos, Nigeria
Dating scammer Amanda Smith from Ghana

2012-07-18, 19:42:31
Miss Marple from United States  
From Nigeria with love (Part 1)

Nigerian scammers are back with a vengeance, more sophisticated than before and using online dating and auction sites to rip off tens of millions of dollars a year from vulnerable Australians

EVEN our computer recognises when something is too good to be true, so we don't see them so much any more - those emails offering untold wealth if we help a dignitary move a fortune from a hostile country, or notifying us of massive winnings in lotteries we don't recall entering. And for the few that don't go straight to junk mail we hit ''delete'' without another thought.

Why, then, are tens of thousands of Australians still losing more than $55 million a year to mass-marketed advance fee fraud (scams tricking people into paying money upfront to secure a financial or emotional benefit at a later date), more commonly known as ''Nigerian'' or ''419'' scams?

Some may think it could never happen to us because we, and our computers, have become more sophisticated. But, then, so have the conmen.

''Scammers are constantly evolving and finding new ways to trick victims into parting with their money,'' says Ken Gamble, of Internet Fraud Watchdog.

The scammers who used to send us the emails are now finding their victims through legitimate dating and auction sites. In what have become known as romance scams, once the fraudsters hook their victim they use voice-changing devices to hide Nigerian accents or employ sophisticated software to make victims believe they are video chatting with attractive models.

Last year, consumer watchdog the Australian Competition and Consumer Commission received reports that put money lost to romance scams at more than $22 million, with an average loss of $21,000 per victim.

In romance scams, victims meet fraudsters through online dating sites and part with money to buy airfares, secure early discharge from the army or help a sick relative of a person the victim believes is in love with them.

The $5000 that Meredith Hoarey lost was all the money she had. She believed the man she had met online was an American soldier based in Iraq. In telephone and internet conversations over nine months, ''Sgt Zachary Smertyn'' convinced Hoarey, 46, of his intention to be discharged from the US Army so that he could come to Australia to marry her.

His alleged commander told her via webcam that Smertyn could not be discharged until certain expenses had been covered. He sent her a variety of official-looking documents to ''prove'' his claims, as well as a ''Military Wife Registration Form''.
Believing it was the only way she could be with the man she had fallen in love with, Hoarey, who lives in NSW, sold her car to cover the expenses. Soon after, she received a bill for $3000 for a weapon allegedly lost by Smertyn, which she was told had to be repaid before he could be discharged.

''That's when my whole world came crumbling down - I knew I'd been had,'' she says. ''I felt like part of me had died. How could I be so dumb?''

2012-07-18, 19:51:34
Miss Marple from United States  
From Nigeria with love (part 2)

Miriam Munro* knows this feeling only too well. She sent $60,000 to a man she believed to be an American businessman called ''Dayne'', whom she had met on a well-known internet dating site.

She had heard of Nigerian scams, but she had no reason to believe she was being subjected to one because Dayne told her he lived just an hour away from her home in Western Australia. He even gave her a local phone number to contact him on, but then said he couldn't meet her because he was travelling on business. In reality, the ''local'' number diverted to Nigeria.

In retrospect, he fell for Munro very quickly. ''They love bomb you. They send emails, they send love poems, they talk to you on Messenger, they ring you two or three times a day,'' she says.

It is easy to dismiss victims of 419 scams as stupid or gullible, but Munro comes across as neither of these; she is in her 50s, is articulate and holds down a professional job. What she was, she readily admits, is ''lonely and vulnerable and going through some personal strife''.

Gone are the days of emails full of laughably broken English and absurd claims of outrageous rewards for very little effort on the part of the victim.

''I was totally convinced I was talking to an American girl and an American guy,'' Munro says. Her conviction was not unreasonable, given she spoke to him on the phone and communicated with both him and his ''daughter'' over a webcam. ''I would talk to them all the time.''

But the voices and webcam videos were fakes and it turned out all communication was coming from Nigeria, still a hub for online fraudsters. Increasingly sophisticated in the running of the scams, they work in shifts and use voice changers to give themselves an American accent.

Sophisticated programs, such as that offered by CamDecoy, provide videos of models that can be manipulated by the scammers to appear as though they are interacting with the victim on a webcam. Even more sinisterly, fraudsters use footage of unsuspecting members of webcam chat rooms that has been recorded surreptitiously over several weeks.
In both cases, the scammers claim there is a problem with sound but have full control over the footage. They can pause it, type when the person on screen is typing, or jump to a clip of the model waving, laughing or otherwise reacting as the victim would expect them to.

For example, Dayne bombarded Munro with flowers, cards, telephone calls and webcam chats. ''He said everything I wanted to hear, I needed to hear,'' she says.

After a few months, the requests for money began. First he needed a loan when he became stranded in Ireland. Then he offered to invest some of Munro's funds into his successful business. Believing his professions of love and that he yearned to hurry back to Australia to be with her, she handed over $60,000.

Finally, unwilling to wait any longer, Munro decided to go to Dubai to meet him. The night before she was due to leave, he phoned her. ''He said his daughter had been in an accident and he couldn't meet me at Dubai airport. And then, I just knew.''

She was devastated. Not only had she lost money, she had also lost what she thought was the love of her life - and her ability to trust people.

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