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I am Miss Marple and a contributor at this site, I have met many victims here at this site and I wanted to create an thread for those who are interested to find out how you recognize African male scammers. I met an scammer while ago, and he came from Nigeria and he tried to scam me, that’s why I created this thread so you can save some time and hopefully your Money by reading this general information I have written here.
I have made studies of African scammers in general and collected some stuff. I will represent here some basic information and some good advices what you can think about when you are out on the dating sites and online, which are the best ways to avoid scammers and learn how to spot them.

Are you an woman and have met the most wonderful, good looking and to good to be true man on the internet? He is also very smart, well educated, working probably as an constructor or engineer and travels a lot in his job, He tells you that he is an widower and has raised his child all alone, and he is now looking for true love. He falls in love very quickly and wants to marry you and wants to meet you soon. Suddenly he must travel to Africa. To Nigeria, Ghana, Ivory coast or another west African country for work and he will come back soon to meet you soon as possible. During his visit he gets in lot of trouble, he gets sick or have accidents. And he suddenly needs money, his credit card is not good enough or he’s has trouble to get his money from his account. Then he begins to ask for money.
Is this something you recognize?? You have probably met an scammer from Africa. Nigeria, Ghana and Ivory coast, Senegal and Dakar is the most common countries where scammers comes from, but they do operate with accomplices from European countries also as Germany, Holland and United Kingdom. Malaysia and China has also reported more scammers activities the latest time.
There is lot of different scams, Lottery scams, Charity scams, credit card scams and spams (Variation from the 419 scam)and other different types of scams, But this is page is only about ROMANCE SCAMMERS or DATING SCAMMERS

You can find scammers on every Dating site, Face book, and My space and many other different communities .Please read the profiles and look at the photographs, the photos are always stolen from agency models and sometimes from other victims as identity theft: the agency you can check is You can also search for photographs in picture search in database at this site and scamdigger where you upload an photo and see if the scammer is reported in another site If you think you have contact with an scammer by email, read these general warning signs


1.Scammers use templates before they starts to ask for money and there is variations in time in that also before they do that from 2 weeks until 2-3 years. Scammers use templates because they scam many people at the same time and have no time to write personal mails.
2.Look for the language, scammers has often very bad grammar and their skills in European language is bad, the templates are often translated by GOOGLE
3.They fell in love very quickly and talk about endless and undying LOVE
4.Avoiding your questions in the mails (typical for scammers who use templates) but variations do exist in this also.
5. Asking money from strangers is a scam, African, Russian, man,woman makes NO DIFFERENCE!
6.The scammer tells you to end your dating site account because you are the only true love for him (this is the way he can control the victim)
7.Scammers uses an +44 as an UK number to confuse victims with that they are in UK but they are in fact in Nigeria . ID Spoofing
8.If it sounds to good to be true it is often that also.

What can you do to protect yourself?

You must protect yourself even if it is not an scammer you are talking to. Never give out any personal information to somebody that you don’t know such your home address, telephone numbers no bank account/credit card numbers or other sensitive information as log in to your email addys or other accounts .Scammers asks for telephone numbers so they can convince people with their undying love as they asks for money, so don’t give out any phone numbers to foreigners. As scammers are criminal in the cyber world their knowledge in computers are very good .Get yourself an good Antivirus program to protect you from malware and spams, never click on links that unknown people sends you in mails, there could be an trojan waiting for you. As trojan is an malware and is created to steal and copy information from other computers.

How do scammers work out and how do you recognize them??

Maybe you are talking for the moment with an scammer but nothing is not what it appears to be as the wonderful man you talking to is an criminal sitting in a internet cafe and knows exactly what he is doing ,because he has done this so many times before that you can’t even imagine that your lovely man is only an criminal and wants to have your money, they are trained to be psychological and knows exactly what to talk and uses your weaknesses to get you into the trap. They send you gifts and talks poetry to you to get you really fall in love. And when you are enough in love then they starts to ask for money. They suddenly gets in to trouble and get into accidents and make up fake stories and involves other scammers also pretending to be doctors and lawyers or barristers that the story sound so real as possible, so that the victim feels empathy and open up the wallet to the scammer. They ask money for anything, from food to hospital bills, they can even send you fake documents that you have to sign your personal information that you suddenly can get involved in the crimes to without any knowledge of what you have really got involved into. As scammers are criminals they are involved in money laundry and drugs. They use most Western union to transfers to receive money from victims, but money gram is also more common now. Scammers uses stolen identities from other victims from another earlier scams or stolen from internet also. So the names they use to collect your money in are not their own names. So catch theses scammers are very difficult because of this.
The grammar is very bad as their skills are not good in English so they use templates translated by some translator and many time the scammers uses GOOGLE to translate their letters, so look for the language in the letters you receive from the scammers. Scammers uses much religion also in their scams they talk many times that they are GOD fearing and pretend to be very religious. often the scammers has children and they are widowers also, because in this way they can affect the victims in a emotionally way to the single mothers, everybody can be scammed but they often seek for single women with kids and in the age of 40, as people has generally made carrier and has an stabile economic situation as that attract scammers of course.

What can you do if you suspect you talking to an scammer?

If you suspect that the person you are talking to on the internet is an scammer, there is sites where you can seek for photographs, as I have put an link in the beginning of this information, but there is others you can do also, if you have contact with an scammer through email, you can look up the IP address, that the person uses and see if the person uses forged IP or has been reported to an scammer site. If the IP address is forged it is absolutely an scam, no real and honest person uses forged IP address, and if they begin to start talking about Africa that they are travelling to Nigeria or Ghana for business or work it is an scam also. Even if they have not asked for money yet it can be an scammers as well, as they can wait with that question a long time. Look for information on the internet what your love is doing and report scammers to sites because only by reporting scammers you reduce the scammers to operate and scam other people. Talk to other people about scamming and inform your friends who you also are talking to on the internet. If you have been scammed you must of course report this crime to the nearest authorities in your hometown and country. And here I have some links where you can find also information what you can do if you have been scammed, but I must put out an warning if you want to report scammers to authorities in Africa be careful who you are talking to, and also find out if it is real people you have contact with, as scammers abuses also this and goes under fake persons and scams people by saying the helping scammed people, there is a lot of fake detectives, so be careful who you are talking to and who you leave your personal information to.

And in this link you have more information of what you can do if you
are scammed.

Many thanks to DOC with the language/Translation,OJAS with good and informative links,and many thanks to and all other contributors and friends here at this site.

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2012-09-25, 23:00:27
Miss Marple from United States  
Thank you ! scammers uses pictures on anyone they can make money on,good you did your home work !
Check this out :

Real ID :
Nextdoor Male with the name of Tyler Cummings.
In 2008, his stage name is changed to Cody Cummings

Henry Scotis facebook



scams with pictures on Cody Cummings:

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2012-09-29, 16:50:24
anonymous from United States  
I had read about this site on Facebook, A gentleman from the UK contacted me Via my inbox telling me how lovely I became his friend on his Facebook page, he suggested that I begin to chat with him on IM, we chatted for weeks he was very charming as I scrolled through these scammers, I seen his picture Leigh Wilson/ which took me by surprise I was falling for him and his lies, we were also friends on his facebook I unfriend him and thought i should report this information to warn others about him.
2012-09-29, 18:53:42   (updated: 2012-09-29, 18:54:22)
Miss Marple from United States  
RE:2012-09-29, 16:50:24
anonymous from United States
Thank you for your posting regards Leigh Wilson,i am happy that people takes the time and reads about scams that can happen to anyone online whether it is on Facebook or any other social networksite online.Please post more pictures if you have received any more than this one ,post his introduction mail ,has he asked for money? post his money asking letter ,please post the header on his introduction mail ,do you know how to open up a header in mail,if not i will post here how to do that..when you post material to this site make sure to edit out your emailaddress so you do not get spams into your mail..all provided information will help other victims that stays in contact with this scammer and can save them from to be scammed out of money ,block this scammer also from your regular mail.
all kind regards //Miss Marple//

male - 43 years, Chicago Heights, United States
66 visitors
About me
my name is Leigh Wilson, am an easy going man,fun to be with,loving,caring and adorable,always cheerful and have lots of love to give to the woman of my life
More about me
Leigh Wilson
Date of birth
Chicago Heights
United States
Native language
rig fit offshore
manager (Manager)
Looking for
being with the one i love
I fancy

2012-09-29, 19:07:16
Miss Marple from United States  
How to find email header:

Apple Mail 2.x (Mac)

Select the message you want to view the headers of.
Press SHIFT-COMMAND-H to toggle full headers for the message. (Alternatively you can click VIEW in the menu bar, click MESSAGE, click LONG HEADERS.

Microsoft Outlook 2003 (Win)

Select the message you want to view the headers of.
Right click the mouse, select OPTIONS
Headers will be displayed within the 'Internet Headers' area of a pop-up window.

Mozilla Thunderbird 2.x (Win)

Select the message you want to view the headers of.
Press CTRL-U (or click VIEW from the menu bar, select MESSAGE SOURCE)
Headers will be displayed in a new window.

Google Mail (GMail)

Open the message you want to view the headers of.
Click the down arrow next to the 'Reply' link.
Select 'Show Original' to open a new window with the full headers

Windows Live Hotmail
(Full Version)

This does not work with Safari on Mac OS X
Right click on the message. (From the list of emails)
Select 'View Source'
A new window with the full headers and HTML source of the email will open

Yahoo Mail
'New' Version

Right click on the message.
Select 'View Full Headers'
A new window with the full headers will open

Yahoo Mail
'Classic' Version

Click on the message.
Click 'Full Headers' on the bottom right of the screen


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2012-09-29, 19:58:06
Miss Marple from United States  
$6.5m lost to online scams

Police figures show so-called Nigerian scammers have fleeced West Australians of more than $6.5 million since May - or more than $1.5 million a month for the past four months.
The scams, known as advanced fee fraud, have operated worldwide for decades and take a wide variety of forms.
They essentially involve fraudsters convincing victims to send money to get a benefit - which can be financial or, in some cases, relate to personal relationships.

In May, major fraud squad detectives launched Operation Sunbird to investigate the frauds.
They identified about 1200 people who sent money overseas and about 250 of them were regarded as potential victims.
They were identified through big cash transfers they made to 'high risk' areas - particularly West African nations Nigeria, Ghana, Benin and Sierra Leone.

Police then wrote to these people warning of their plight. 'Two people contacted the major fraud squad in recent months and advised that they were on the verge of suicide had police not intervened,' Det-Sen. Sgt Dom Blackshaw said.
Of the 250 people who got warning letters, 13 continued to send money to West Africa.
Last Thursday, _The Weekend West _spoke to a man who sent up to $100,000 to a fraudster he met on an online dating site.

That same day, detectives had a report of a woman who sent most of her life savings to a man she met on another dating site.
'Remember that once you send money to someone it can be very difficult to get it back, especially when they are based overseas,' Det-Sen. Sgt Blackshaw said.

A separate police operation called task force Galilee identified 438 WA victims of so-called 'boiler room' scams. These fraudsters mass-market scams online through telemarketing or with door-to-door sales. They generally offer big returns on small investments.
Crime statistics published on the WA Police website show a 69 per cent increase in fraud offences in the past financial year, but the rise was attributed to a change in how the offence was recorded.

The figures previously only included offences reported to police but they now include potential frauds, including suspect money transfers.
Police hope the change will give a clearer picture of the impact of the crime, which could in turn help determine where to divert resources.

2012-09-30, 06:17:03
anonymous from Norway  
RE:Bernard Churchgate
He is also using the name Paul Lawton. Same photo on both Facebook profiles. I also found the first letter he wrote to me at scamwarners only it was signed Paul Lawton.
2012-09-30, 12:22:05
Miss Marple from United States  
Tusen takk !
RE:Paul Lawton had another aliases too as Joshua Ben with emailaddress: and James franklin with emailaddress: it seems the scams originates from Malaysia,please post this Paul Lawtons emailaddress and photos that is used in the scam..


My name is Paul Lawton. I am from Dublin Ireland .I am a Marine Engineer.I work with a Shipping Line here in the United Kingdom.

I was married before, but lost my wife after long battle witn cancer.May her soul rest in peace. I want to spend the rest of my life with someone who is friendly, honest, caring, and trustworthy and God fearing. I find very much peace and tranquility here.

I am real easy person to talk to and a loving and outgoing person.I enjoy playing sax which i do often at my leisure time. I like going to the movies, or watching movies in my room or Cabin, I like swimming, listening to music and dance to any kind of music, I sing, sailing, going bowling and also a good cook. I am a family oriented person, love children and there is more, but it would be better for you to find some things out for yourself.

It is very important for me to build a life of stability, security, and opportunity for the special person I hope to share my thoughts, feelings, experiences, dreams and fantasies with, and to offer the best opportunities for any kid that might be included in my life,both mine and that special person children, and that is my focus at this time and I also do enjoy my job though risky because we are always on the high sea.

I am really interested in wanting to know about what makes you the special person you are today, I want to know more about your family, your background, your life experiences, past relationships, your goals and dreams, your interests, and anything else you want to tell me.I want to learn about you and what makes up your heart and soul, as the friendship I want to build with you I want it to be like no other you have ever shared in or experienced.

This friendship I want to build with you will be filled with substance, quality, spirituality, love, faithfulness and potential.

Hope to hear from you soon.

2012-09-30, 12:40:59   (updated: 2012-09-30, 12:42:57)
Miss Marple from United States  
RE:Paul Lawson
found also some more profiles with pictures that is also involved in these scams as an Matins Philip and also with Malaysia connections...

with love and trust    
Standard Member    
Last Visit: Within last 3 months    
Member Since: August 4, 2012    
54 year old man in United Kingdom Looking For: Women for casual dating, a serious relationship, marriage or a friend

I was married before, but lost my wife after long battle witn cancer.May her soul rest in peace. I want to spend the rest of my life with someone who is friendly, honest, caring, and trustworthy and God fearing. I find very much peace and tranquility here.
I am real easy person to talk to and a loving and outgoing person.I enjoy playing sax which i do often at my leisure time. I like going to the movies, or watching movies in my room or Cabin, I like swimming, gyming,listening to music and dance to any kind of music, I sing, sailing, going bowling and also a good cook. I am a family oriented person, love children and there is more, but it would be better for you to find some things out for yourself

Gender:     man
Birthdate:     January 20, 1958
(54 years old)
Lives in:     United Kingdom
Relocate?:     Prefer not to say
Height:     5 ft 9 in / 175-177 cm
Body Type:     Average
Smoking:     Prefer not to say
Drinking:     Prefer not to say
Race:     Caucasian
Speaks:     English
Education:     Some grad school
Marital Status:     Widowed
Religion:     Other
Hair Color:     Grey
Hair Length :     Short
Eye Color :     Other
Glasses or Contacts :     Glasses

2012-09-30, 14:39:53
anonymous from Norway  
Re: Bernhard Churchgate alias Paul Lawton.
IP Address
Location     IRELAND, -, -
Latitude, Longitude     53.344104, -6.267494 (53°20'39'W -6°16'3'N)
Connection through     YAHOO! EUROPE
Local Time     30 Sep, 2012 01:22 PM (UTC +01:00)
Net Speed     DSL
Area Code     -
IDD Code     353
ZIP Code     -
Weather Station     DUBLIN (EIXX0014)

Got no info for Paul Lawton apart from the one you posted

Googling his photo (at I found he also uses Dave Jones ( and he has a Facebook profile using Roy Pieterson.

2012-09-30, 18:06:52
Miss Marple from United States  
RE:Bernhard Churchgate alias Paul Lawton

2012-09-30, 18:34:26
Miss Marple from United States  
RE:Bernhard Churchgate alias Paul Lawton
another alias used..
Randy Morgan emailaddress:


2012-10-01, 14:01:23
anonymous from United States  
Re:Scammer Leigh Wilson/ his face book Carson, CA profile picture
2012-10-01, 14:01:24
anonymous from United States  
Re:Scammer Leigh Wilson/ his face book Carson, CA profile picture
2012-10-01, 14:01:28   (updated: 2012-10-01, 14:03:51)
anonymous from United States  
Re:Scammer Leigh Wilson/ his face book Carson, CA profile picture

2012-10-01, 18:19:49
Miss Marple from United States  
Scammed by love

People looking for romance online, especially middle-age women, are vulnerable to money-seeking con artists

Seventy-three-year-old Lydia of Vancouver had been widowed for eight years when she decided to join free online dating website in spring 2010 to look for love.
'I was feeling it was time to move on,' Lydia said. 'I didn't want to be alone anymore.'

She threw back a few catches before meeting a man who piqued her interest. Carl said he was a 66-year-old Swedish-American who had grown up in California and was working overseas as an oil procurer.
'He knew exactly what to say, how to say it, how to appeal to what I'd said was essential to my life,' Lydia said.

Things were going well until Carl ran into a series of sticky situations while working abroad.
One time, he said his client couldn't pay him because the client couldn't send money internationally. He asked Lydia for a stopgap loan until he could collect his pay, Lydia said. She was happy to help because of the trust and connection between them, and she wired him some money.

Later, he called from a hospital and told Lydia he didn't have the money to pay his bill because he still hadn't been paid. Another man who said he was Carl's doctor got on the phone, explaining Carl's medical procedures.
The requests and the money wires kept adding up.

Six months later, Lydia had sent Carl more than $100,000, and it became clear she wasn't going to get it back. Carl was actually a Nigerian living in London and had taken on the identity of a real man in California.

'I had no idea there were so many scoundrels out there who would tap into where someone had a weak spot,' Lydia said.
The desire for love can be so overpowering that an otherwise sane person may believe the unbelievable for a promise of it. Lydia, who asked that her real name not be revealed, is far from being alone in being deceived by well-rehearsed stories meant to manipulate a victim's emotions so she will open her wallet.
Millions lost in the name of love

Nationwide, romance scams bilked victims out of $50.4 million in 2011, according to the Internet Crime Complaint Center, a partnership between the FBI and the National White Collar Crime Center.
'Romance scams play on people's goodwill,' said Michael Rabby, a social media expert at Washington State University Vancouver. 'People have the desire to help others, connect to others, love others. These scams play into these needs we all have.'

Romance scams represent about 5,663, or 1.8 percent, of the 314,246 Internet crimes reported in 2011 throughout the nation.
One-hundred-forty of those complaints came from Washington and equaled a total loss of $1.8 million, said Jenny Shearer, an FBI spokeswoman.
Few cases are investigated due to the overwhelming number of complaints, Shearer said. The cases the FBI takes up usually involve multiple victims or damages that exceed $1 million, explained Ann Flaherty, executive director and private investigator with California-based nonprofit ElderAngels Inc. Flaherty investigated Lydia's case for free to try to garner enough evidence for the FBI to pick up the case. So far, she has been unsuccessful.

The lack of crackdown on smaller-scale fraudsters is why prevention is so important, Flaherty said.
Lydia's painful lessons
Lydia's case exhibits some classic warning signs of romance scams.
'As a rule, at the point when someone wants money, that is the point when you leave,' said Rabby of WSU Vancouver. 'It sounds cynical, but there is almost no good that can come from it.'

Carl asked for money to be delivered through Western Union and MoneyGram, which is nearly impossible to trace, Flaherty said.
The relationship with Carl moved rapidly, a sign of a possible scam, Flaherty said.
'If it's too good to be true, it probably is,' Rabby said.

When Lydia finally accepted the truth, she reported the case to the FBI and contacted ElderAngels. Flaherty tried to locate Carl, which is not the fraudster's real name, by tracing emails and linking up phone numbers, but she wasn't able to unmask him. She also tried to find more victims who could help the case reach the FBI's threshold for investigation.
Who's vulnerable?

'If someone is lonely and isolated, they're going to become more vulnerable to a story of romance and potential connection because there is a such a need for that,' said Dr. Will Meek, lead psychologist at Counseling & Testing Services at Washington State University Vancouver.

Seniors, like Lydia, are particularly vulnerable to all types of fraud, including romance scams, Meek said. They're attractive victims because they typically have more money than younger people, according to the Pew Research Center. They also have a disproportionate loss of cognitive function in the part of the brain that processes doubt, increasing their gullibility, according to a 2012 study by the University of Iowa College of Medicine. And older people come from a generation that values trusting others, Meek added.
But they're not the most likely to be the victim of a romance scam.

About 13 percent of romance scam complaints come from people 60 and older, according to the Internet Crime Complaint Center. The vast majority of victims are women ages 40 to 59. That age group generated 68 percent of all complaints by women.
More than twice as many women as men reported being victims of romance scams in 2011, and women lost about four times as much money as men, according to the Internet Crime Complaint Center. Nearly 69 percent of complaints came from women, compared with 31 percent from men.

There are fewer single men than single women in that age bracket, according to the Census Bureau, and men are more likely to date younger women, further depleting the supply of single men in the 40-59 age range.
Rabby of WSU Vancouver said that's one possibility. Another reason may be that in the 40-59 age range, men tend to be more tech-savvy than women. That difference faded away in younger groups as technology became more ubiquitous, but the knowledge gap among women in that age range could make them more vulnerable in online settings, Rabby said.

'I'd also guess that women new to the dating scene are more vulnerable,' said Brenda Alling, a WSU Vancouver spokeswoman. 'They haven't dated in 20 years (because many have had children at home), and they think they won't get anyone because their ex-husbands are dating 35-year-olds, or worse. Inexperience and desperation are never a great combination for putting common sense first.'
Fortunately for Lydia, her disastrous encounter with a fraudster during online dating didn't embitter her toward the medium. She's now engaged to a Portlander she met online.

'There really are many good people who sign up on dating websites, but there are equal number of fraudsters,' Lydia said. 'I had no clue. I just went in blind. I had no idea people could do this to other people.'


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