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I am Miss Marple and a contributor at this site, I have met many victims here at this site and I wanted to create an thread for those who are interested to find out how you recognize African male scammers. I met an scammer while ago, and he came from Nigeria and he tried to scam me, that’s why I created this thread so you can save some time and hopefully your Money by reading this general information I have written here.
I have made studies of African scammers in general and collected some stuff. I will represent here some basic information and some good advices what you can think about when you are out on the dating sites and online, which are the best ways to avoid scammers and learn how to spot them.

Are you an woman and have met the most wonderful, good looking and to good to be true man on the internet? He is also very smart, well educated, working probably as an constructor or engineer and travels a lot in his job, He tells you that he is an widower and has raised his child all alone, and he is now looking for true love. He falls in love very quickly and wants to marry you and wants to meet you soon. Suddenly he must travel to Africa. To Nigeria, Ghana, Ivory coast or another west African country for work and he will come back soon to meet you soon as possible. During his visit he gets in lot of trouble, he gets sick or have accidents. And he suddenly needs money, his credit card is not good enough or he’s has trouble to get his money from his account. Then he begins to ask for money.
Is this something you recognize?? You have probably met an scammer from Africa. Nigeria, Ghana and Ivory coast, Senegal and Dakar is the most common countries where scammers comes from, but they do operate with accomplices from European countries also as Germany, Holland and United Kingdom. Malaysia and China has also reported more scammers activities the latest time.
There is lot of different scams, Lottery scams, Charity scams, credit card scams and spams (Variation from the 419 scam)and other different types of scams, But this is page is only about ROMANCE SCAMMERS or DATING SCAMMERS

You can find scammers on every Dating site, Face book, and My space and many other different communities .Please read the profiles and look at the photographs, the photos are always stolen from agency models and sometimes from other victims as identity theft: the agency you can check is You can also search for photographs in picture search in database at this site and scamdigger where you upload an photo and see if the scammer is reported in another site If you think you have contact with an scammer by email, read these general warning signs


1.Scammers use templates before they starts to ask for money and there is variations in time in that also before they do that from 2 weeks until 2-3 years. Scammers use templates because they scam many people at the same time and have no time to write personal mails.
2.Look for the language, scammers has often very bad grammar and their skills in European language is bad, the templates are often translated by GOOGLE
3.They fell in love very quickly and talk about endless and undying LOVE
4.Avoiding your questions in the mails (typical for scammers who use templates) but variations do exist in this also.
5. Asking money from strangers is a scam, African, Russian, man,woman makes NO DIFFERENCE!
6.The scammer tells you to end your dating site account because you are the only true love for him (this is the way he can control the victim)
7.Scammers uses an +44 as an UK number to confuse victims with that they are in UK but they are in fact in Nigeria . ID Spoofing
8.If it sounds to good to be true it is often that also.

What can you do to protect yourself?

You must protect yourself even if it is not an scammer you are talking to. Never give out any personal information to somebody that you don’t know such your home address, telephone numbers no bank account/credit card numbers or other sensitive information as log in to your email addys or other accounts .Scammers asks for telephone numbers so they can convince people with their undying love as they asks for money, so don’t give out any phone numbers to foreigners. As scammers are criminal in the cyber world their knowledge in computers are very good .Get yourself an good Antivirus program to protect you from malware and spams, never click on links that unknown people sends you in mails, there could be an trojan waiting for you. As trojan is an malware and is created to steal and copy information from other computers.

How do scammers work out and how do you recognize them??

Maybe you are talking for the moment with an scammer but nothing is not what it appears to be as the wonderful man you talking to is an criminal sitting in a internet cafe and knows exactly what he is doing ,because he has done this so many times before that you can’t even imagine that your lovely man is only an criminal and wants to have your money, they are trained to be psychological and knows exactly what to talk and uses your weaknesses to get you into the trap. They send you gifts and talks poetry to you to get you really fall in love. And when you are enough in love then they starts to ask for money. They suddenly gets in to trouble and get into accidents and make up fake stories and involves other scammers also pretending to be doctors and lawyers or barristers that the story sound so real as possible, so that the victim feels empathy and open up the wallet to the scammer. They ask money for anything, from food to hospital bills, they can even send you fake documents that you have to sign your personal information that you suddenly can get involved in the crimes to without any knowledge of what you have really got involved into. As scammers are criminals they are involved in money laundry and drugs. They use most Western union to transfers to receive money from victims, but money gram is also more common now. Scammers uses stolen identities from other victims from another earlier scams or stolen from internet also. So the names they use to collect your money in are not their own names. So catch theses scammers are very difficult because of this.
The grammar is very bad as their skills are not good in English so they use templates translated by some translator and many time the scammers uses GOOGLE to translate their letters, so look for the language in the letters you receive from the scammers. Scammers uses much religion also in their scams they talk many times that they are GOD fearing and pretend to be very religious. often the scammers has children and they are widowers also, because in this way they can affect the victims in a emotionally way to the single mothers, everybody can be scammed but they often seek for single women with kids and in the age of 40, as people has generally made carrier and has an stabile economic situation as that attract scammers of course.

What can you do if you suspect you talking to an scammer?

If you suspect that the person you are talking to on the internet is an scammer, there is sites where you can seek for photographs, as I have put an link in the beginning of this information, but there is others you can do also, if you have contact with an scammer through email, you can look up the IP address, that the person uses and see if the person uses forged IP or has been reported to an scammer site. If the IP address is forged it is absolutely an scam, no real and honest person uses forged IP address, and if they begin to start talking about Africa that they are travelling to Nigeria or Ghana for business or work it is an scam also. Even if they have not asked for money yet it can be an scammers as well, as they can wait with that question a long time. Look for information on the internet what your love is doing and report scammers to sites because only by reporting scammers you reduce the scammers to operate and scam other people. Talk to other people about scamming and inform your friends who you also are talking to on the internet. If you have been scammed you must of course report this crime to the nearest authorities in your hometown and country. And here I have some links where you can find also information what you can do if you have been scammed, but I must put out an warning if you want to report scammers to authorities in Africa be careful who you are talking to, and also find out if it is real people you have contact with, as scammers abuses also this and goes under fake persons and scams people by saying the helping scammed people, there is a lot of fake detectives, so be careful who you are talking to and who you leave your personal information to.

And in this link you have more information of what you can do if you
are scammed.

Many thanks to DOC with the language/Translation,OJAS with good and informative links,and many thanks to and all other contributors and friends here at this site.

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2010-05-30, 20:18:32
Miss Marple,

I thought you were from Sweden, why is it showing your from the United States.

2010-05-31, 08:39:48
Miss Marple from United States  
@2010-05-30, 20:18:32

You are right I am from Sweden,since April i live in Usa...we live in a modern world with aircraft and we humans are were do you come from then? i do not hide my location as you do.....hmmmmmmmmmm....

Regards //Miss Marple //
2010-06-01, 07:51:47
Miss Marples:

You are right we do live in a modern world, maybe your not aware but living in the USA gives us the right to do what ever we want, probably they dont in Sweden, but being an american citizen we were born with 'FREEDOM'. So being an american citizen born in the USA I dont have to indicate where I am from. That is my right.

Thank you

Thank you so much for being such an advocate for this cause:)
Have a nice day!!!!
2010-06-01, 10:06:08
Miss Marple from United States  
I do not actually care where people come from ,i am here only to help the victims of scam and i do make postings always as an registrated member,,,so the country flag shows up ,every one entering this site has the right to make postings as anonymous here,,where ever you come from in the world,,,have an nice day to.

//Miss Marple//

2010-06-01, 10:37:51
Miss Marple from United States  
This is an sad story what can actually happend to anyone who are online ...please ladys be carfull when you talking to someone you have never met in the real life....

A scam victim speaks out – Helen’s Story (Guest Blog)
April 14th, 2010 in Dating Scams

Dear Scam Detectives Reader,

My name is Helen and I live in Scotland.

Five years ago I lost everything (including my house, car and job) when I was scammed by someone I met on a dating website. I’d like to tell you my story because by telling you what happened to me, maybe, just maybe, I can help to stop it happening to somebody else.

In 2003 I left my husband of ten years and went through quite a nasty divorce. I’d caught him having an affair with a little slip of a girl from his office and just couldn’t forgive him.

I was gutted that my marriage had come to an end like this and felt as though I was somehow to blame. My friends were fantastic, and one day one of them confided in me that she’d met a new man on a dating website and was getting on really well with him. I’d had no desire to get back on the “dating scene” but she seemed to be having fun so I thought it might be worth a shot.

Within days of signing up for the website, I’d met Steve. He told me that he was a doctor working with a charity in West Africa, providing medical care to impoverished villages in Ghana.

He was great. We exchanged emails almost every day, and he phoned me at least once a week to hear all about what I’d been up to, and to tell me stories about his work and the people he’d met. He promised that he’d be back in the UK in a few months and we’d be able to have a “proper” relationship when he returned.

We carried on speaking on the phone and emailing for months until one day the contact simply stopped. After a couple of days of no emails I was getting really worried.

Then it happened.

I got a telephone call from another doctor working for the charity telling me that Steve had been involved in a dreadful accident and was critically ill. I was devastated and wanted to fly out there straight away, but the doctor told me he was in intensive care in a clean room and the closest I would be able to get to him would be to look through a small window. He promised to make sure that Steve knew I was thinking of him, and I asked him to tell Steve that I loved him and would be there for him when he got better.

A couple of days later the doctor called me back. Steve wasn’t getting any better and they’d found out that he’d let the payments on his health insurance lapse, so there was no money to pay for his medical treatment. He needed £1500 straight away to make sure that Steve’s treatment could continue. Of course, I paid this immediately. I had no reason to doubt the doctor’s advice that the quickest way to get the money to him in Ghana was by Moneygram, and when the cashier at the shop asked if I knew the person I was sending the money to, I said “Yes”.

I was now getting almost daily updates from Steve’s doctor. Every time we spoke it seemed that Steve needed more treatment, more surgery and more money. I had a few thousand from my divorce, but this soon ran out and I took out a second mortgage. Steve started to respond to treatment and we were able to talk on the phone for short periods. He kept thanking me for paying his medical bills and promising me that as soon as he was out of hospital he would come back home and pay back every penny.

I sent over £80,000 to Ghana to pay for Steve’s treatment over the course of 6 months.

Then one day he just stopped calling. The expensive mobile phone I’d paid for was disconnected and my emails bounced. I haven’t heard from him since.

I got behind on the payments for my mortgage and eventually lost my house. The bailiffs came and cleared out pretty much everything I owned, including my car and because I worked for a financial institution that just doesn’t allow its staff to get into money difficulties, I lost my job too.

I know now that there was no accident, no doctor, no hospital and no expensive treatment. It was all a scam and Steve had intended to rip me off from the very moment that he clicked on my dating profile. It sounds silly now to say I fell in love with a man I’d never met, but he seemed so credible, so caring

I’m living in a council flat now, trying to get back the excellent credit score I had before I met Steve and to save up enough money to put down a deposit on another house. I don’t use dating websites anymore, but I have just met a fantastic man who’s helping me to get myself together. He asked if he could borrow a tenner the other day though and I nearly bit his head off!

I’m trying not to let my experience with Steve ruin the rest of my life, but it’s not easy to trust people now and I sometimes feel so stupid not to have seen through the web of lies and deceit.

I want to thank Scam Detectives for giving me the opportunity to tell my story and I hope it will serve as a warning to anyone who’s currently in a similar position, or who is using dating websites.

If I had to give one piece of advice it would be this. Don’t send money. Ever.


2010-06-01, 11:27:09
Miss Marple from United States  
Wonders can happend...some hope for victims that have lost money to scammers...

Police handed over cheque to a Nigerian scammer victim

A Gold Coast divorcee who sent $45,000 to a Nigerian scammer only realised she had been defrauded when her son performed an internet search and found evidence the man was a fake.

The romance scam victim, 56, told her story to the media today as Queensland police handed over a cheque for one-quarter of the money she lost during the two-year online relationship.

Detective Superintendent Brian Hay, of the Fraud and Corporate Crime Group, said Nigerian authorities had seized the 25-year-old university student scammer’s assets and passed on cash to the victim in an Australian first.

The partial-reimbursement comes a year after the man was found guilty by a Nigerian court and sentenced to 19 years in jail.

Victim Ann, who did not want her surname to be published, said she was embarrassed that she had been duped but the man had been “very professional”.

The scammer posed as a middle-aged British businessman but also sent emails purporting to be from his boss, a travel agent, a police officer and another man.

He referred her to a website for his supposed employer which contained his name.

The man claimed to have been involved in a car crash and required money for medical expenses, but the deception was exposed when he sent her a picture of the accident scene.

Ann’s son found that the image – sourced from a real BMW crash in Europe – did not match the man’s story.

“I just needed company … he really made me believe,” Ann said.

Detective Superintendent Hay said Ann was lucky and most scam victims never saw a penny back.

“It’s the first time in Australia we were actually able to provide money back to a victim of fraud that was perpetrated by offenders based in Nigeria,” he said.

“This is not a normal story. The reality is that if anyone sends money … they will not recover funds or see the offender arrested.”

The money was recovered by the Nigerian Economic and Financial Crime Commission.

Queensland police worked with the organisation, as well as the Nigerian High Commission, to track down the offender.

Superintendent Hay said he hoped the tough sentence would act as a deterrent amid fears more Australians will fall victim as more internet access is rolled out through Nigeria.

“Romance scams have exploded 1000 per cent over the last three years,” he said.

“Queenslanders are now sending between $800,000 and $1 million a month to Nigeria, and unfortunately the vast majority is victims’ money.”


2010-06-02, 16:29:47   (updated: 2010-06-02, 16:31:10)
Miss Marple from United States  
The scammers do not only want your money,they want your identity carefull whith what kind of information you are giving out to people when you communicating with people online...


The popularity of online dating has caused an increase in dating scams. Perhaps the most known is the Nigerian dating scam. Singles looking for love online should be on the look out for this scam. Nigerian scams are often not easy to detect. Indeed, the Nigerian scam artist is a whole different breed. For one, he (or she) is usually of a higher education level, often a college or university graduate or higher. Secondly, they do their homework. Thirdly, they can be exceptionally patient. Plus, some of them could rival an Oxford English professor in language prowess, especially written language.
The scammer posts a fake profile on a dating site, and often multiple dating sites. Chat rooms and social networking sites are also often targeted, as well as Christian and other religion-based dating sites.

Scammers seem to prefer using white people images, apparently cashing in on certain perceptions and stereotypes. The photograph is usually magazine cover quality, and of an exceedingly individual. The photographs are usually stolen from modeling agencies. They also use pictures of foreign models and celebrities not known in the target country. Photographs from other dating profiles have also been known to be used. In a way, the people whose images are used in these scams are victims as well.

Often, scammers prefer to use female photo profiles. Lots of men will respond to an attractive woman’s personal ad, based on a picture alone. This is not to say that women don’ get scammed. They do get scammed, by men or by other women depending on the person’s sexual orientation. In most cases, scammers target older (middle-aged) people seeking long term relationships. At this age the person is likely to be desperate therefore gullible and this age group is likely to be financially stable. Contact is initiated, often but not always, by the scammer.

The stage is set and now begins the grooming phase. The grooming phase is when the relationships and trust are built. The scammer claims to be a business executive or some type of expert from the US, Canada or the UK (or other country) temporarily working for his company in Nigeria or other African country. The fraudster knows all the right things to say and will put you on a pedestal. Before long, you are in the greatest romance journey of your life. Or so you think. Soon he/she declares love. He/she might even send you a few romantic gifts, bought with stolen credit cards. Once a trusting bond has been established, you are ripe for picking. This can take up to twelve months (talk of patience) and often there is promise of marriage. Then the scammer asks for a big favor. The scammer claims that his employer has been paying him in money orders or cashiers checks, which due to differences in banking systems he cannot cash in Nigeria (or other country).

The victim is asked to cash the money orders or checks and then wire the money to the scammer via Western Union or Moneygram. He/she might be asked to keep a portion of the money for his/her troubles. This serves a dual purpose: it helps build trust and also turns the victim into a beneficiary and participant in the scam. The money orders or checks will turn out fraudulent. It usually takes most banks anywhere from a couple of days to a couple of weeks to clear a check or money order. The scammer is counting on this, and by the time the con is exposed he/she has disappeared, leaving you to pay the bank and/or even face prosecution for participating in the fraud.

Nigerian dating scam does not always involve money, however. Some scammers are out to use your name and address to ship goods bought with stolen credit cards. The goods are first shipped to you, and then you are asked to reship to the scammers chosen destination which is usually in Nigeria. Though most forms of communication are used, including email, Instant Messaging, and Chat, the scammer will shun live video chat. This is because the photographs used are not real.

The excuse often is lack of the technology in Nigeria. The scammer can usually hire a voice of the right gender, and even accent, for a phone conversation. As a final point, just because it’s called Nigerian romance scam does not necessarily mean it’s done in or out of Nigeria. Due to mistrust of anything involving Nigeria, con artists have started operating from other countries of West Africa such as Ghana and Benin.


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2010-06-04, 09:51:30
Miss Marple from United States  
I want to warn about cuople of scammers that pretends to be US soldiers in war ....please be carefull!!

Dating scammer: Rodney Pace



Address for the money to be sent to (ill child's mother!):

Alexandra Opoku Acheampong
B258/24 Branyan Street
Accra, Ghana

Claims to be an American soldier working in Bagdad (Camp Victory - so difficult to contact because of 'security'), both parents died in a car crash, divorced from his wife who was into drugs, had an affair and has remarried. He has no other relatives except his daughter (Sophia), who is training to be a nurse and has gone to Ghana to do one of her modules

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Dating scammer Rodney Pace (Rod)
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Dating scammer Gen. John Miller
Dating scammer Rodney Pace (Rod)

2010-06-04, 10:16:19   (updated: 2010-06-04, 10:21:09)
Miss Marple from United States  
Dating scammer Isaac Maris Faloye


Email: irwin4kelly@yahoo


Military Communication Road, Sharjah, United Arabic Emirits

For more information on Internet romance scams please visit the Federal Trade Commission’s “Fighting Identity Theft” Web site, the U.S. Army Criminal Investigation Command’s Web site, and the Internet Crime Complaint Center.

If you think you might be a victim of an Internet romance scam or other types of identity theft, report it to the Federal Trade Commission by calling 1-877-ID-THEFT (438-4338) or contacting the FTC online

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Dating scammer Isaac Maris Faloye
Dating scammer Isaac Maris Faloye

2011-09-27, 14:35:20
Dirk from Kerkrade, Netherlands  
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2011-09-28, 06:38:16
2011-09-28, 06:45:40
What about the comment made on William Cross's profile that their team hacker managed to get into the site and wipe everything out on the scammers.. Any truth to that?? Are they able to do that anytime they want?? I noticed all comments made on his site since last Friday are gone again.. People need to be aware of his other Idenity..Bill Andreas..Sunshine I think he is using another also.. Still having problems posting pictures..
2011-09-29, 08:19:23
To : Miss Marple

Hello miss... i have something to talk with You in private, can i ?
i have some information... but i must discuss with You in private first...

best regards,

2011-09-29, 15:02:42
anonymous from United States  
Am I at danger, reporting these scammers? I have several that I have not by choice, come upon. It saddens me, when these very nice men, end up turning into very professional men that know how to work a womans psychi and have them fall in love with them, only to ask for money, to cash money orders, checks that are false, and to steal identities.
I would like to help more on this.
Miss Marple.
Is there a way I can contact you directly, without putting my email address, name on here for the scammers to see. I am getting concerned about them, and the number of them.
2011-09-29, 18:53:54   (updated: 2011-09-29, 18:57:24)
Miss Marple  
message for you in your account.
@2011-09-29, 15:02:42
If you want to send me an message directly to me become regular user here and register an delphi member account.go into this link here below and follow the directions just.
All kind regards //Miss Marple//
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