b-scammed, Sorry you got scammed, but like you say you could be philosophical about the sum involved. Eddie has put it plainly. Hopefully you'll encourage your own friends on homework before they become future victims.
That USEMB site is a must for everyone who is talking to a Russian or at least thinking about it. I have to admit, I felt uneasy about the thing from the beginning but was hoping for the best. I'm still young and trustworthy, which is basically like walking around with a big target on my forehead. I never asked for this, but suddenly there is some beautiful girl emailing you with these fairytale love lines. Man it sucks to had both financially and emotionally. Doing your homework first is the critical factor!!! Now the hard part is returning back to work early from leave and explaining why things didn't work out with my so-called girlfriend.
BTW, OJAS & Eddie, what are your stories. I mean, what (or better who) led you guys here?
OJAS from United States
Mine basically started with financial hardship, leading to lonelyness, during absolute computer ingorance, gullible to accept anything resembling a flicker of hope. A near perfect setting for scammers and they were landing by the dozens, threatening to fill-up my limited inbox space.
The hard part was, there was exactly one real girl, with full knowledge of my finances, wanting to continue our relationship - just for me. I approached my friends, seeking 800 euro loan to save the life of a poor girl's mom (see Elena Solodovnikova thread). One of my friends taught me 2 verbs - scam, google, and pulled this girl on his screen. In my mentally wrecked state, I requested the real girl to find a different boyfriend. The actual $ I lost was for my pic at a professional studio for an insistent scammer. But I cannot assign a $ value for the prospect lost for a relationship, for me or for that real girl.
Oh well, it's too late for me, but I hope I can inform some other poor guy before it's too late for him ... ''DO YOUR HOMEWORK BUDDY''
Today I'm a burgeoning Systems Engineer, and yes, homework is the last thing I want to miss .. A couple of missed meals, now and then is OK
* scammers generally target older guys, cos they have more money and they're more desperate :))
* I can't really remember exactly how I came to start posting here. I originally met a real Russian girl on udate.com in the summer of 2005. I hadn't been looking for a girl that far away, but she was gorgeous and seemed perfect, so after mailing and talking on the phone with her for 3 months, I sponsored her visa to Stockholm and she spent 10 days here. As it happens, it didn't quite work out....I guess she was just looking for a free trip :))) She now lives in the US and still calls me every month or so.
Still, having almost suffered a stress attack trying to get her a visa and working my ass off at the same time, I knew about visa procedures. Otherwise, I was pretty naive about scammers as well.
My first contact with a scammer was in March 2006, quite a famous one called Ekaterina Torbeeva wrote to me (also had several different personas). Now that I know better, I can see the scam signs in the first line of her mail....'I the honest, faithful girl'...or something like that. You can find her/him in the dating scammer from Kazan threads on this site. She's/He's actually from Cheboksary. She tried to scam me for visa money, but since I knew she couldn't get a visa without tickets as well, I wrote to her pointing it out, but of course she totally ignored me (not surprising since scammers never read the mails anyway, not until after the money letter anyway).
She had given me an address in Kazan, so I sent her some flowers and the address turned out to be fake. After that, I learned how to trace an IP and discovered that she wasn't in Kazan at all, because she was using a Mari-El dial up (and sometimes a proxy in Germany). I started writing to her in Russian and accused her of being a scammer, presenting all the evidence, form letters, not answering direct questions, asking for money for a 'visa'. She denied it and a girl even phoned me up one evening and said she was Ekaterina, but I still posted her letters and pics on every anti-scam site I could find. I suppose I must have come across delphifaq when I googled the name Ekaterina Torbeeva, but I don't think I posted anything at the time because I can't find it now anyway.
In the meantime, I've been to Russia twice to see another girl, we are now engaged, and she had her residency interview at the Swedish embassy in Moscow about 10 days ago. I also work twice a week teaching English to the diplomats at the Russian Embassy, so I know quite a lot about Russia and Russian dating scammers.
I still think it's worth coming here a few times a week, and post info and any advice I can give, though by the time a guy finds this site, it's often too late.
It's good to hear that you made out pretty well thus far and I appreciate your postings for the used like me. I know that it's after the fact, however, I fell a sense of solitude and closure from this site- allowing me to express my situation without everyone saying 'I told you so!'
I can totally relate to your story. I just ended this long-term relationship that was really bad for a while (5 yrs); I just finished college and was looking for work, not finding anything with real pay either. So then I tried to get into law school but couldn't get a high enough score on the LSAT. Suddenly, I got a letter from a law school in Michigan telling me they had a week long program for selected students with excellent writing samples. So I had to leave the job I did have to go out there, but after the course ended I wasn’t admitted into the program- that truly affected my confidence. At this point I returned home with no job, failed to get into law school, and now had this girl I was living with call me a bum/deadbeat etc. on a day to day basis. Two months later I finally found a new job but my girlfriend stopped taking her Prozac and kicked me out of her place.
Fast forward to now (7 months later). Here is Olesya and all her promises of a great future together with endless love and passion. I was so desperate for anything resembling a promising relationship. I even overlooked the warning signs- a false origination address, the strange formatted emails, unanswered questions, etc. I just wish I was cognizant of exactly how these scam artists operated prior to. I mean, I knew they were out there, but I didn’t have the information of how they 1.) find you, and 2.) bait you through the process to get your money. And damn, it took 45 emails w/pics to get steal 250 bucks from me- WTF!! I wish they had only taken 2-3 weeks like most.
OJAS from United States
Thanks for sharing your experience. I've been to Ann Arbor several times, every time reluctant to leave. One of Google co-founders is from there, will soon be another branch there. If only someone offers me food for googling ...
But some other opportunity will open up for you. We learn from failures. It takes time to turn a failure into a bread-winner. It's important to ward off detractors, who after all are perfect, never having made any mistakes in their own lives. I had several of those throught my life, who choose to run for cover, while I wear proudly and honestly all my purple-patches that once were failures, but really meant as impetuses to move me.
I'm sure you'll be informing newbies, how not to reapeat mistakes you already have made, which is as important as knowing how to do productive homework.
Would you like to post your scammer's Header, less your personal info? At least that will be available for the next googler.
Have a great day!
brian,(b-scammed) from United States
Yeah, I already posted the photos on the previous page and under 'Tatyana.' That's where I found the same fraudulent letters.
URGENT NOTICE TO ALL!!!!
OLESYA ROZENTSOVA AT SIMPLYOLESYA27@YAHOO.COM (ALSO USES SWEETOLESYA@YAHOO.COM) IS ANOTHER SCAM ARTIST USING THE SAME LETTERS AS TATYANA USING DIFFERENT PHOTOS. THIS SCAM LASTED 45 EMAILS BEFORE SHE WAS SHORT MONEY FOR THE FLIGHT. I SENT 250 USD BEFORE SHE HAD HER VISA INTERVIEW IN MOSCOW, ONE DAY PRIOR TO THE FLIGHT DEPARTURE. THE SCAM ARTIST VANISHES AFTER THE MONEY IS RECEIVED. BE WARNED, THEY FOUND ME THROUGH MATCH.COM.
> Hello Dear Brian !!!!! Thanks for your photos. They have very much
> liked to me. Brian, if I could receive your photos every day that I
> think that I would be the happiest girl in the world. How your day?
> What did you do today? How your dream? Ok continue to send your
> letters on this email. I almost do not use another email. That you
> tell thanks about yourselves much and ask me questions. I like various
> music, to me to like to listen to classical music, rock-n-roll, POP,
> and much all another. I very much like to go by my bicycle, I love
> when the wind blows to me to face. I have not brothers and sisters, I
> am the only child in family. I wish to tell you about my family. I
> live with mum in an apartment. At us very cosy and comfortably at
> home. I would try that at home there was a cleanliness and it is
> beautiful. My mum works at a factory. Her name is Ludmila, the
> grandmother which lives from us in 80 - 90 kilometers to village
> Aksenovo. Her name is Antonina. She yet doesn't know that I'm familiar
> with you, but soon I shall go to her and I shall tell about it. I
> think that she will be glad that I communicate with you. Because mum
> speaks, that I even became happier after have got acquainted with you.
> Brian, tell me about your family, I wish to learn all about you. Ok? I
> shall wait your questions tomorrow. I always dreamed to meet one man
> and to be with him forever. Probably it you? ;-) But we should learn
> it. Brian tell to me, you like animals? To us today for work has come
> the small cat. He was such small and I even was afraid to touch he all
> over again. But then has taken on hands and he was very tender. Brian,
> I think of that as it would be fine if after work I could come from
> work, make a fine supper to us with you and we could enjoy our
> happiness. You think it's possible? You like me and I very much wish
> more and more to learn you . And I hope that you all tell me. I hide
> nothing about you and is ready to tell all to you. I today send a
> photo on which I stand together with mum before a supermarket in
> Kazan. I already miss your letter and I hope that you will soon send
> me it and tomorrow in the Internet-cafe I shall receive it. I shall
> wait...... Yours Olesya
Good evening Brian!!!!! I am glad to receive your letter. I at all did
> not expect to receive it because not know you will answer me or not. I
> am glad to receive your photo. I hope that I shall receive them more.
> No, I nobody has met except for you. City in which I live is in an
> average part of Russia. What do you think of that that I do not live
> in the USA? Suddenly I that not so have written that also you have not
> received my letter. I hope that you can see my a photo. It photo has
> been made one week ago in birthday of my girlfriend Olya. Brian it is
> pleasant to you? I hope what yes. Because you like to me. But I very
> much would wish to learn you better. I ask you to read my letter and
> to answer my questions. Brian you are very interesting to me and I
> wish to know about you all. Brian I do not wish to hasten, I know that
> if to hasten that of anything good it will not turn out. I search for
> serious attitudes and I wish to find the man of the dream. I do not
> wish to play or simply to communicate. I wish to learn about all of
> you. In men I to appreciate sincerity and the truth. Because only
> these qualities help people to create mutual understanding and
> happiness for both. I so think, and you Brian??? My name is Olesya. To
> me of 27 years and I was not married and I do not have children. I
> live in small city which refers to Sovetsk, in the Kirov area. The
> population our city about 16,8 thousand people. I work in hospital, I
> look after patients. My speciality nurse. I work six days in a week, I
> go to cinema, theatre, I go on dances. I wish to learn from you, what
> most of all interests in girls? What you like? What qualities? How it
> should look? In my city there is no man with which I could be happy.
> Therefore I have decided to get acquainted through the Internet and
> have written to you. At us to have the Internet-cafe and I can to come
> and receive your letters. I would like to receive many your photos. I
> hope that you will send them to me. I shall wait for them on the e
> mail email@example.com. I with impatience wait for your letter
> tomorrow. I hope that you will answer me. Brian I shall wait your
> answers and questions, I with pleasure shall answer them. I wait and I
> hope....... Your new girlfriend Olesya
> P.S. I wait for your photos!!!
38th Desparate for money letter (This is where you feel bad and offer the money):
I'm fine. At my family and friends also all is normal. My interviewshould take place on October, 8th one day prior to my flight to you. Ineeded to pay for tickets of 250 dollars more. I do not know, thatelse it is possible to think up to find this money. I do not know whatto make, I can not any more so. I cry each day, each day tears from myeyes, I want to be with you but I can not. Forgive me, I at all do notknow what to make now, My heart hurts, because to you I it was badalso can not correct. Forgive me Brian !!!!! Forgive for all, It Iunhappy it never to be with the favourite person. Better to you toleave me one. find your love in the country, I can not be with you. Ido not have forces more. I do not know what to make, To me it is verybad. But I shall live. To live reading your letters and I shall behappy if you will be are happy. I shall not prevent more to you meetthe good girl which can to make you happy. Forgive, But I think that Ican not make anything any more. I can not neither sleep nor work. Onlyone of ideas I live. It is an idea, it is dream, but I think that itbecomes a reality. You must to be happy. I think that with me you willnot be happy. We can not overcome distance between us and I hope thatyou will find the happiness. Overlook about me. I can not make youhappy. I am very far. Olesya
Eddie from Sweden
Brian...the only difference between you and me is that I was just lucky not to send any money. And I'm not here to rub it in. Some people post 'you should have known better than to get scammed', but that's just unfair. We all have different circumstances and anybody can make a mistake. The scammers know which buttons to push.
Anyway like everybody else, I thought my first scammer was an actual girl. Even when I got suspicious and started doing some research, I still thought about sending her some money anyway...I mean a poor Russian girl scamming for money, what's 400 bucks to me? I could send it to help her out, maybe stop her scamming. But then I discovered that 80-90% of scammers are guys, working in small gangs, so I kept my money in my wallet.
brian from United States
I was on match.com and found two more TATYANA scam profiles.
HELLO!!!I have noticed your structure on a site of friends, and it hasinterested me. You would seem to me the interesting person with whichI wished on to communicate and get acquainted on closer. You haveliked me also I has dared to write the letter. You support me on mye-mail lovingwomantatyana on y a h o o dot Ñ o m. We would communicateon much closer. Thanks for attention!!!!!lovingwomantatyana on y a h o o dot Ñ o m
anonymous from United States
Eddie from Sweden
Brian...is the same girl in the pics as your original scammer? 3 different tatyanas? 3 different profiles at match.com?
anonymous from France
Shr seems honest enough.
She doesn't claim to own a PC or an Internet line - she mentions an Internet-Cafe.