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The following text was submitted by Eddie from Sweden and the links at the bottom come from OJAS in the USA.

Welcome to any newcomers who find this thread, for Christ's sake.. READ THIS!
...and save yourself a lot of homework and/or grief


The vast majority of Russian dating scammers are not women at all, but actually men, mostly working in small gangs in or around Yoshkar Ola, in Mari El republic, sometimes in Chuvashia. It's virtually guaranteed that the girls in these scam pics aren't involved because the scammers steal their pics from the internet or pay unsuspecting friends for them, or buy and exchange them on scammer websites. (Once a scammer even admitted to me that he stole all his pics from and ).

Most scammers are VERY lazy and looking for quick cash. They use email extractor programs to get your mail addresses (if you don't have a profile on a dating site, that is)...
and copied form mails and spam programs on automatic reply, very often the BAT!, which can personalize small parts of each letter.

They mostly won't read your letters until after the money letter because they don't have time, ie because they're scamming, or trying to scam, as many guys as they can (economies of scale).....and also because they're semi-literate losers who can't speak much English anyway. IN OTHER WORDS, you can write any crap in your replies and they won't react, they're only interested when they're curious to know if you've taken the bait after the money letter. A girl is only involved either occasionally to phone a guy up, especially if he's suspicious, or to pick up the loot at Western Union, with a false ID of course!

More recently, the majority of Russian scammers have started using proxy servers or forged IPs to hide their locations so ALL YOU REALLY NEED TO DO IS TRACE THEIR IP ADDRESS!

If, by any chance, you don't believe any of this, please read:

So....if several or more of the following scam signs apply to your Boris (the beautiful Russian 'girl' that is supposedly writing to you), resist the temptation to help 'the poor girl' by sending her money. You're really writing to a sleazy Russian guy sitting in a smoky room in Yoshkar Ola, with a bunch of other sleazy guys spamming indiscriminately on laptops .

  • 'girl' writes to you first on a dating site...especially a free one (or an email appears out of nowhere in your mailbox). Real Russian girls are rarely so bold as to write to you first. (unless you're obviously very attractive or rich :))) They will often reply to your mails, but rarely take the initiative. It's the man who does the chasing in Russia. Plus, if they're looking for a partner, they generally prefer him to be Russian speaking and live in Russia. Much more convenient!

  • doesn't answer direct questions (sometimes factual mistakes in the letter). Her replies should be exactly that...replies...however short they are.

  • girl's much too young for you (or too good to be true/looks like a model/porno star)....although I have noticed a recent tendency for some scammers to use photos of slightly 'less attractive' girls as well.

  • girl has some far-fetched excuses for you not visiting her in Russia (criminal city, not the Russian custom, terrorism, it's her dream to come to your country, etc). ALL BULLSHIT!! Actually, the normal way to meet a Russian girl is to visit her in her city first. Russian TV is full of documentaries about Russian girls who have emigrated and got murdered, abandoned, etcetc. They should usually want to meet you first before they gallivant off to your country.

  • scammers rarely have children, but most of the real Russian women I've ever met on the internet did (except for Moscow career girls). It's often the reason that they're looking for a partner.

  • photos are too revealing (can't be a respectable girl). Respectability is very important to most Russian women (especially Moscow career girls). They're hardly likely to send a half-naked photo to a virtual stranger on the internet. Think about it!

  • most of the pics are old and a little bit faded with a curiously grainy quality that soon becomes quite easy to recognise (overuse?). Again a scammer admitted to me that low-quality photos are a key factor in his scamming. I found this curious because a serious Russian girl who's looking for a partner very often saves up and goes to a professional to have a studio set done (often corny ones posing with a chair etc), and/or borrows a digicam at least (dates should also be on the photos you receive). My fiance did it. Russian girls aren't all that poor anymore, and if they seriously want to leave Russia, they know that posting cheap pics will only attract cheap guys.

  • GIRL CLAIMS NOT TO HAVE A MOBILE PHONE. Very unlikely!!! fer f***'s you know a single girl without a mobile phone? Even poor Russian girls can't do without one, they're much cheaper than in Europe and a Megafon telephone card doesn't cost that much either. You should be able to call her whenever you want. On the other hand, not having a landline or a desktop/laptop is very common.

  • very long rambling/ecstatic form letters with a strange format, punctation and layout written in scamlish. (world's worst Babelfish translation)

  • writes long letters everyday in English. How does she have time to write those long letters if she's working? And if she doesn't have a job, how can she afford a computer + internet connection? Even Internet cafs are relatively expensive in Russia. Anyway, most Russians outside Moscow can hardly speak a word of English. (What's the point of finding a girl you can't communicate with, at least on a basic level?) PLUS.. if she can't speak English, why does she have a non-cyrillic email account like gmail or yahoo? Most real Russians use, or hotmail and yahoo are acceptable if she'll chat with you on messenger (preferably with a webcam).

  • falls in 'love' very quickly. Don't let your ego, kind heart, loneliness or lust pull the wool over your eyes. She doesn't really know you. You could be an axe murderer for all she knows. As I mentioned, Russian TV is full of documentaries about Russian girls who have emigrated and got murdered, abandoned, etcetc.

  • uses a proxy server to hide his/her location, ie a SOCKS server / GPRS Internet. if you can't trace 'her' IP, it's 100% scam.
    THE FIRST THING YOU SHOULD DO IS TRACE HER IP ADDRESS. In fact, it's the only thing you need to do really.

    MOST IMPORTANT...if you get this far:

  • she asks for money for a tourist 'visa' and/or maybe tickets, ignoring the fact that IT'S VIRTUALLY IMPOSSIBLE FOR A SINGLE, POOR RUSSIAN GIRL TO GET A TOURIST VISA TO A WESTERN COUNTRY!
    Most Russian girls outside Moscow and St Petersburg are quite poor, and immigration control would consider them an overstay risk. They would never let be let into your country without a healthy bank account.

    She can get a SPONSORED visa with your help, but then she needs a personal letter of invitation from you, a copy of your passport, a proof of your residence in your home country, a completed sponsor's application form (also from you)....not including the documents that she has to fill in herself. She also needs a job in Russia, a letter from her employer and insurance. All of these documents she has to drop off at your national embassy in Moscow WITH PREPAID TICKETS and wait about 10 working days. These are the rules for the Schengen countries anyway...the USA and Canada are almost as, if not more, complicated. Anyway, a normal TOURIST visa + travel costs + hotel rooms would set her back 2000+ US dollars for a trip to the US. She should be asking you for a lot of money! Why should it be so easy for a gorgeous sexy Russian girl just to jump on a plane and fall into bed with you? Anyway, no respectable Russian girl would ask directly for money, but might accept some if you insisted. should check your national embassy website in Moscow for visa prices and procedures.

There are many variations on the scams, some quite slight. Some scammers claim to have a visa already and need money for tickets, a last-minute medical examination, etcetc. Some claim that their mother needs an operation, etcetc. A few more patient and professional scammers will take months before they hit you with the money letter (though if you follow my tips, you should be able to spot the scammers before then). There are even a few real girls scamming, and professional gold-diggers (mostly in the Ukraine). One or two of them are very bold, and not even afraid to use their true identities. These scammers are harder to spot, and there is no easy way to identify them, all you can do is use your instincts and common sense, and DO YOUR HOMEWORK!

and, of course, a golden rule: DON'T SEND MONEY...unless you're 100% sure she's real.

Another ground rule: if you are looking for a Russian wife/partner, you must be prepared to travel to Russia to meet her. You also need to behave generously towards her; after all, you need to prove that you can support here (and her kids) if she migrates to your country. But if she turns out to be a professional gold-digger, which has never happened to me personally or anyone I know (but I know it does happen), you should try to be philosophical and treat it as an exotic trip to a foreign country, have fun anyway, and try not to waste too much money on her.

There are actually hundreds of perfectly nice Russian girls in Russia but you have to be prepared to go and get them. Chercher la femme. It certainly worked for me.

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2008-05-20, 10:46:19
OJAS from United States  
2008-05-22, 15:03:46
I thank you all for your contribution it saved me from almost making myself an arse
and giving money to some dude for nice pics
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Dating scammer Viktoriya
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Dating scammer Marina from Olha near Irkutsk in Russia

2008-05-22, 16:35:01
OJAS from United States  
2008-05-23, 08:54:00
OJAS from United States  
2008-05-26, 20:20:12
anonymous from United States  
I am a woman myself and I came to this website because I believe a male friend of mine is being duped into giving money to these scammers. It's sad because everyone asks where all the good men go, and sadly this is what happens to compassionate, honest men. Maybe they are in denying the fact that they are being used but doesn't everyone at some point? This sickens me. Luckily, me and my friend have talked about it and he is on the alert now.
2008-05-26, 23:12:14
anonymous from Moorhead, United States  
My scammer was Dinara Zamilova - a real chick. Allegedly a poor girl (25 yrs) from a small town in Irkutsk. She fell in love w/ me quickly , but in the meantime sent me several emails which got progressively more suggestive. The attached pics did the same.
Wondered when the pitch would come , altho' as a bit of fantasy 'Dinara' was pretty good. But the pics were also revealing in another way - a 'poor' girl from the country seated on a deck w/ stereo speakers, lying on the floor in front of a stone fireplace w/ glass doors, having an all-over tan, and most revealing of all (wordplay intended) , having rather gorgeous implants. God knows what those would cost in Irkutsk.
So, beware gentlemen, Dinara is out there (by several other names as well). She'll charm ya, disarm ya and take your money too. Interesting too that the pitch is for $990 dollars in many cases. But before you send her off to the sunset, enjoy her pics.
2008-05-28, 08:18:48
anonymous from Qatar  
hi guys!! thanks for this very useful saved me from being bitten by these poisonous scamming bit@#*$!
it's a good thing i search the net & bhoy! it paid out.. thanks for saving me... more power!!!
2008-05-29, 12:11:17
anonymous from Italy  

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Dating scammer Anastasia

2008-05-30, 05:19:48
[hidden] from Drummoyne, Australia  
I had received emails from Mariya Roszentova; but I must say that their presentation and grammar is not so perfect, and you would think that at least they would keep the same or similar tone in personality, instead of projecting several personalities to a point it is very easy to detect that it is not the same person, or they are schizophrenic big time.

I have no Idea how they got my email address, though the whole experience of being scammed has taught me not of my own weaknesses, but how desperately lonely others are to succumb to this form of emotional soul tearing and manipulation.

I just hope may realize that there will never be any angels of their thoughts e mailing them, begging them to have their children, and to fantasies to think it authentic and true.
That is the problem we need to over come, and we must all maintain some objectivity.

Great initiative in the web site and ; have a very pleasant day/ Evening
2008-06-01, 07:50:25
anonymous from United Kingdom  
Thank you so much for this insight. I have been receiving similar letters. Not until I send a copy to one of my friend, he asked to google up scam letters. That is how I got to this site. I nearly fall into the temptation. Thank you again
2008-06-02, 08:40:51
anonymous from Australia  

Chatters only come from poorer countries as Russians etc are not prepared to
put in the substantial time of a daily chat session. They are not as easy to
pick as 'form letter' scammers who are really a bit of a joke. You really
need to do some research and ask some very penetrating questions before you
will catch them - and they are great at changing the subject, fobbing you
off, or making heartfelt pleas as to how could you not trust them (probably
cut and pasted). The good ones make full use of all the features on yahoo -
emoticons, imvironments etc, send you little romantic situation pictures,
and within a few sessions intimate that their only wish is to make you happy
for the rest of your life and fulfil your every dream.

Many chatters sit and chat with four or more men at a time and are
proficient on all the platforms, though Yahoo is preferred. As my girlfriend
put it to me 'we just sit and say the same bullshit to them all and they get
hooked and start sending us presents, money, webcams - we dont even have to
ask'. A number of chatters in the Philippines are prostitutes lining up
customers or making a little extra dough on slow nights.

In West Africa a large number are men and they are confidence tricksters
with fake photos, often of half-white girls. They often tell you they have a
computer and broadband at home, which is completely unaffordable except for
the richest, and their stories do not make any sense. Clashing dates or
facts, know nothing about places they are supposed to have lived - these are
the most obvious signs. Bored by anything off topic, do not really want to
know about you, do not respond to positive comments about their photos. They usually ask for money on the second chat session.

A few of the best scammers are very accomplished and tenacious, are not
scared off at all by exposure or contradiction, and are great at making you
feel good. I ran into the first one when I was down and depressed, and for
me she was far better than a $200 an hour psychiatrist or a course of
antidepressants. I walked away from her sessions feeling lighthearted and a
man again  - she was actually doing a public service as long as you ignored
the scam which was obvious
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Dating scammer Sheila Apongsah

2008-06-02, 09:44:15   (updated: 2008-06-02, 09:53:14)
Peter from Germany  
2008-06-02, 11:30:40   (updated: 2008-06-02, 11:31:28)
OJAS from United States  
Daily Mail http://www.dailymai..e_id=1879
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Yoshkar-Ola Scene http://www.delphifa..=15#89106
Yoshkar-Ola Favorite Key combination http://www.delphifa..p=2#69892
Statistics http://www.delphifa..169#85905
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Youtube clips http://www.delphifa..p=2#74384
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