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The following text was submitted by Eddie from Sweden and the links at the bottom come from OJAS in the USA.

Welcome to any newcomers who find this thread, for Christ's sake.. READ THIS!
...and save yourself a lot of homework and/or grief


The vast majority of Russian dating scammers are not women at all, but actually men, mostly working in small gangs in or around Yoshkar Ola, in Mari El republic, sometimes in Chuvashia. It's virtually guaranteed that the girls in these scam pics aren't involved because the scammers steal their pics from the internet or pay unsuspecting friends for them, or buy and exchange them on scammer websites. (Once a scammer even admitted to me that he stole all his pics from and ).

Most scammers are VERY lazy and looking for quick cash. They use email extractor programs to get your mail addresses (if you don't have a profile on a dating site, that is)...
and copied form mails and spam programs on automatic reply, very often the BAT!, which can personalize small parts of each letter.

They mostly won't read your letters until after the money letter because they don't have time, ie because they're scamming, or trying to scam, as many guys as they can (economies of scale).....and also because they're semi-literate losers who can't speak much English anyway. IN OTHER WORDS, you can write any crap in your replies and they won't react, they're only interested when they're curious to know if you've taken the bait after the money letter. A girl is only involved either occasionally to phone a guy up, especially if he's suspicious, or to pick up the loot at Western Union, with a false ID of course!

More recently, the majority of Russian scammers have started using proxy servers or forged IPs to hide their locations so ALL YOU REALLY NEED TO DO IS TRACE THEIR IP ADDRESS!

If, by any chance, you don't believe any of this, please read:

So....if several or more of the following scam signs apply to your Boris (the beautiful Russian 'girl' that is supposedly writing to you), resist the temptation to help 'the poor girl' by sending her money. You're really writing to a sleazy Russian guy sitting in a smoky room in Yoshkar Ola, with a bunch of other sleazy guys spamming indiscriminately on laptops .

  • 'girl' writes to you first on a dating site...especially a free one (or an email appears out of nowhere in your mailbox). Real Russian girls are rarely so bold as to write to you first. (unless you're obviously very attractive or rich :))) They will often reply to your mails, but rarely take the initiative. It's the man who does the chasing in Russia. Plus, if they're looking for a partner, they generally prefer him to be Russian speaking and live in Russia. Much more convenient!

  • doesn't answer direct questions (sometimes factual mistakes in the letter). Her replies should be exactly that...replies...however short they are.

  • girl's much too young for you (or too good to be true/looks like a model/porno star)....although I have noticed a recent tendency for some scammers to use photos of slightly 'less attractive' girls as well.

  • girl has some far-fetched excuses for you not visiting her in Russia (criminal city, not the Russian custom, terrorism, it's her dream to come to your country, etc). ALL BULLSHIT!! Actually, the normal way to meet a Russian girl is to visit her in her city first. Russian TV is full of documentaries about Russian girls who have emigrated and got murdered, abandoned, etcetc. They should usually want to meet you first before they gallivant off to your country.

  • scammers rarely have children, but most of the real Russian women I've ever met on the internet did (except for Moscow career girls). It's often the reason that they're looking for a partner.

  • photos are too revealing (can't be a respectable girl). Respectability is very important to most Russian women (especially Moscow career girls). They're hardly likely to send a half-naked photo to a virtual stranger on the internet. Think about it!

  • most of the pics are old and a little bit faded with a curiously grainy quality that soon becomes quite easy to recognise (overuse?). Again a scammer admitted to me that low-quality photos are a key factor in his scamming. I found this curious because a serious Russian girl who's looking for a partner very often saves up and goes to a professional to have a studio set done (often corny ones posing with a chair etc), and/or borrows a digicam at least (dates should also be on the photos you receive). My fiance did it. Russian girls aren't all that poor anymore, and if they seriously want to leave Russia, they know that posting cheap pics will only attract cheap guys.

  • GIRL CLAIMS NOT TO HAVE A MOBILE PHONE. Very unlikely!!! fer f***'s you know a single girl without a mobile phone? Even poor Russian girls can't do without one, they're much cheaper than in Europe and a Megafon telephone card doesn't cost that much either. You should be able to call her whenever you want. On the other hand, not having a landline or a desktop/laptop is very common.

  • very long rambling/ecstatic form letters with a strange format, punctation and layout written in scamlish. (world's worst Babelfish translation)

  • writes long letters everyday in English. How does she have time to write those long letters if she's working? And if she doesn't have a job, how can she afford a computer + internet connection? Even Internet cafs are relatively expensive in Russia. Anyway, most Russians outside Moscow can hardly speak a word of English. (What's the point of finding a girl you can't communicate with, at least on a basic level?) PLUS.. if she can't speak English, why does she have a non-cyrillic email account like gmail or yahoo? Most real Russians use, or hotmail and yahoo are acceptable if she'll chat with you on messenger (preferably with a webcam).

  • falls in 'love' very quickly. Don't let your ego, kind heart, loneliness or lust pull the wool over your eyes. She doesn't really know you. You could be an axe murderer for all she knows. As I mentioned, Russian TV is full of documentaries about Russian girls who have emigrated and got murdered, abandoned, etcetc.

  • uses a proxy server to hide his/her location, ie a SOCKS server / GPRS Internet. if you can't trace 'her' IP, it's 100% scam.
    THE FIRST THING YOU SHOULD DO IS TRACE HER IP ADDRESS. In fact, it's the only thing you need to do really.

    MOST IMPORTANT...if you get this far:

  • she asks for money for a tourist 'visa' and/or maybe tickets, ignoring the fact that IT'S VIRTUALLY IMPOSSIBLE FOR A SINGLE, POOR RUSSIAN GIRL TO GET A TOURIST VISA TO A WESTERN COUNTRY!
    Most Russian girls outside Moscow and St Petersburg are quite poor, and immigration control would consider them an overstay risk. They would never let be let into your country without a healthy bank account.

    She can get a SPONSORED visa with your help, but then she needs a personal letter of invitation from you, a copy of your passport, a proof of your residence in your home country, a completed sponsor's application form (also from you)....not including the documents that she has to fill in herself. She also needs a job in Russia, a letter from her employer and insurance. All of these documents she has to drop off at your national embassy in Moscow WITH PREPAID TICKETS and wait about 10 working days. These are the rules for the Schengen countries anyway...the USA and Canada are almost as, if not more, complicated. Anyway, a normal TOURIST visa + travel costs + hotel rooms would set her back 2000+ US dollars for a trip to the US. She should be asking you for a lot of money! Why should it be so easy for a gorgeous sexy Russian girl just to jump on a plane and fall into bed with you? Anyway, no respectable Russian girl would ask directly for money, but might accept some if you insisted. should check your national embassy website in Moscow for visa prices and procedures.

There are many variations on the scams, some quite slight. Some scammers claim to have a visa already and need money for tickets, a last-minute medical examination, etcetc. Some claim that their mother needs an operation, etcetc. A few more patient and professional scammers will take months before they hit you with the money letter (though if you follow my tips, you should be able to spot the scammers before then). There are even a few real girls scamming, and professional gold-diggers (mostly in the Ukraine). One or two of them are very bold, and not even afraid to use their true identities. These scammers are harder to spot, and there is no easy way to identify them, all you can do is use your instincts and common sense, and DO YOUR HOMEWORK!

and, of course, a golden rule: DON'T SEND MONEY...unless you're 100% sure she's real.

Another ground rule: if you are looking for a Russian wife/partner, you must be prepared to travel to Russia to meet her. You also need to behave generously towards her; after all, you need to prove that you can support here (and her kids) if she migrates to your country. But if she turns out to be a professional gold-digger, which has never happened to me personally or anyone I know (but I know it does happen), you should try to be philosophical and treat it as an exotic trip to a foreign country, have fun anyway, and try not to waste too much money on her.

There are actually hundreds of perfectly nice Russian girls in Russia but you have to be prepared to go and get them. Chercher la femme. It certainly worked for me.

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2009-03-29, 18:10:34


2009-03-29, 19:02:41
OJAS from United States  
Anon 2009-03-29, 18:07:43, post Raven Riley on this thread http://www.delphifa..=31#137245
2009-03-30, 13:43:16
OJAS from United States  
On scammers using celebrity photos
2009-03-30, 22:10:42
anonymous from United States  
This girl is on Hot or Going by the name Mandy. Scammer. she wants to match with me.. going to play with her a bit ha ha ha ha. watch out for her.
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2009-03-31, 07:52:22
anonymous from United States  
Good Morning Jeff,
Thanks for the chat..I pray that you drive safety over there..I want you to know that my Pastor is happy for me to find someone online..She said as soon as i can get my Passport Renewal she is going to help me with my Plane Ticket..So i think this will help us alot..Jeff..I want you to know that i want you not Money Ok..Money can't buy love and i am seeking for your true love and happiness..Jeff...I am so thankful I met you! You are the most important person in my life. I never thought I would find someone like you to share my life with, and now I don't even want to imagine what my life would be like without you in it. Wherever you are is where I want to be. When we are together I feel like it's just you and me, there's no one else on earth.. It feel like we're the only ones here. I fall madly in love with you more and more each day. If there’s one thing in this world I know, it's that I AM SO IN LOVE WITH YOU!!

Honey...Here is the Information to send me the Money through Western Union MoneyTransfer. I am using my Mom ID..Cos i dont have one and she will help me in picking up the Money as soon as you get it sent to me tonight

Name: Ana DavidText Question: Who Safe Me
Text Answer: Jesus

And i would also want you to send me the Refrence Number which is 10 Digit Number from the Western Union and the Amount you sent out to me. My Love i just can't wait to be with you in person and hold you tight and never let you go away from me.. I love you so much and i will wait to hear your good news.. I have to go now and i will wait to read from you eat well Ok... Love you with all my heart..Yours Always,


2009-03-31, 08:51:18

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2009-03-31, 09:00:54
anonymous from Senegal  
I've lost count of the n° of scams I've received but yet to become a victim.Didnt need any advice to stay clear of these cyber criminals.Nature has taught us all that 'nothing ventures nothing wins' If anyone out there thinks the world has become a more friendly and lucky place where one can meet with extraordinarily nice people who're promising heaven without a stopover,they will surely land in hell.
In the Bible God said a fruit was forbidden the Devil said it'll make man become like God and they believed the devil and LOST their home!!! When something looks too simple, too easy STOP BEING NAIVE, It's a trap,SIMPLE.
Dave Senegal
2009-04-01, 10:53:58
OJAS from United States  
I began a series of articles on this thread on searching. It may take several attempts to develop effective strategies, eventually I will try to organize these articles. This example searches for Darya Boris scam photos. It can be used as a time-saving template. For example, click on this URL, after seeing your Darya, at the end of the address, replace the with Elena, and hit enter. Or, whichever Boris sweetheart is writing to you. http://images.googl..jpg),darya
2009-04-01, 11:42:33
OJAS from United States  
Try out this translator
Some language selections on the drop down under the first box
English, Russian, French, Spanish, Portuguese, Italian are:
Английский, русский, французский, испанский, португальский, итальянский
2009-04-01, 15:33:11   (updated: 2009-04-01, 15:33:48)
OJAS from United States  
Some reference links on this site:
banned and blocked IPs http://www.delphifa..=8#115137
Scammer Names http://www.delphifa..11#118771
Forged Passports http://www.delphifa..1534.shtml
2009-04-01, 15:52:57
OJAS from United States  
Continuing the series on scammer search, this link is a template for name search. After clicking on this link, replace the name with your own Boris (e.g. Natalya for elena) and hit enter,elena
2009-04-01, 16:18:24   (updated: 2009-04-01, 16:22:00)
OJAS from United States  
In the second link, newbies watch all related videos on the right

The Search list I used ... Not a Template :(
2009-04-01, 17:46:53   (updated: 2009-04-01, 18:27:20)
OJAS from United States  
2009-04-02, 08:44:44 from Austria  
Good evening. Order is not pressure which is imposed on society from without, but an equilibrium which is set up from within.
I am from Marino and too bad know English, tell me right I wrote the following sentence: 'Gt; gt; click to book cheap airline ticket onlinelt; lt; delta airline airline discount domestic ticket.'

With respect ;), Brilane.
2009-04-02, 19:14:38
anonymous from College Station, United States  
I found this site by accident, I was googleing ATIIM AMOAK, and discovered that he solicites women. to engage in scamming men out of money. I have been sent a passport, us work visa, and a marriage certificate. For my money contributions.
He has a brother i beleive Isadore Amoak who is also working with him.
here is a pic of Naomi Kenford. beware she needs money and wants to come to america and promisses to be a good wife. you tell me if this is photoshop or not
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