Is this Russian girl scamming me? How to recognize scammers
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Are you an American or Western European man exchanging emails with a girl from Russia? I was contacted by a girl who turned out to be a scammer. Reader Derrick put together some great advice how to detect scammers.
I only have one advice (#8) to add: If a Russian girl tells you that she will get a visa to the USA instead of inviting you, that is - under the current immigration law - a SURE sign that SHE LIES.
Here is the process how a Russian woman can come to the USA:
If she is considered a relatively young/ attractive woman (let's say under 40, hope I don't hurt anyone's feelings here), then there is virtually NO CHANCE THAT SHE GETS A TOURIST VISA TO THE USA. First the Russian Federation will not allow her to leave the country. Then, even if she was getting out, the USA will deny her admission. The reasoning is that she is considered a risk. How could she not be a risk? If she had family in Russia (husband, children) or a valuable business or real estate. Most likely the woman who writes you will be considered a risk. The only way for her to get a visa into the USA is this procedure:
the foreign man visits her in her native area in Russia
they get engaged during such a visit - take photos of the 2 of you together
he flies back and applies for a K-1 visa. A K-1 visa is also known as Fiancee visa, used for marriage-based immigration
once the K1 visa is granted, the girl can enter the USA and stay there for 3 months. By the end of these 3 months you HAVE to GET MARRIED or the girl has to go back home.
if you get married, the girl gets a greencard and can work
after 3 years of marriage, the girl can apply for a US citizenship. That's when they interview you to find out if it's a real marriage. She also has to answer some questions about US history, political system, etc etc.
Here are Derrick's tricks (1-7) that he uses immediately from the start:
GOOGLE or websearch the first part of the scammers first emails and/or 'profile'. SEE HOW MANY OTHER SITES their listed on! RECORD THOSE SITES FOR FUTURE REFERENCE. THAT alone can give you a good idea IF your dealing with a scammer OR not.
GOOGLE or websearch the return email address. See how many 'hits' come from that search and also note all the sites. (many times you'll see the email end up on a 'scammers list') IF YOU FIND THE EMAIL ADDRESS LISTED ON A SCAMMER LIST - don't bother further, your only fooling yourself - no matter what excuse they might give you.
FROM THE START - ASK FOR SPECIFIC INFOMATION! A full name, address, phone number - something. OFFER THE SAME in exchange, except make it a P.O. box and a CELL PHONE rental card that will protect your identity. If you see your requests ignored, which you usually will, don't waste your time further.
ALWAYS ASK SPECIFIC QUESTIONS that would REQUIRE A SPECIFIC ANSWER outside the use of FORM LETTERS. IF YOU FIND your questions go unaddress in your reply emails from 'them/her' - YOUR DEALING WITH A SCAMMER. Again, don't bother further.
DON'T WAIT 6 MONTHS to offer to talk with the PROSPECT by phone! WHAT A TOTAL WASTE OF TIME! IF THERE IS CHEMISTRY OR APPEARS 'INTEREST' BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU - then sieze the opportunity. ARRANGE A PHONE CALL! International rates to Russia and most places are reasonably cheap. IF YOU GET THE REPLY ' I'M SO POOR I DON'T HAVE ACCESS TO A PHONE' - drop the whole thing, your only wasting your time and WILL BE SCAMMED at some point in the future.
PHOTO FLOOD! IF IT/SHE/HIM/THEM - LOOK TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE - THEN IT PROBABLY IS! MOST IF NOT ALL OF THE SCAMMES USE PHOTOS OF MODELS IN THEIR HOME COUNTRIES TO POSE ON THE NET IN THEIR PROFILE(s)! Consider this - IF THEY LOOK like a MODEL then tell you they're so poor they don't have access to a phone - YOUR BEING SCAMMED!
ASK FOR A SPECIAL PHOTO TO BE TAKEN. IF YOU SENT YOURS, HAVE THEM TAKE A PHOTO SHOWING THEM HOLDING UP YOUR PHOTO IN THE PICTURE! That is a good 'scammer filter' - even the most adept with Photoshop will easily be spoted.
BETTER STILL - ASK THEM TO TAKE A PHOTO THAT SHOWS THEM HOLDING A CURRENT NEWPAPER OF YOUR CHOICE OR THEIR COUNTRY, WITH A RESOLUTION THAT YOU CAN READ THE DATE! NOT some low grade - grainy photo! FEW WILL EVER DO THAT.
AT THE LEAST - ASK THEM FOR A PHOTO of them wearing a specific combination of clothes and/or colors - something different then the usual 'model clothing' - most use to send out. OR AN OBJECT - TOASTER, ELECTRIC CLOCK, BY A COUCH, IN A ROCKING CHAIR something that would be very hard to use PHOTOSHOP to just PUT in another FILE PHOTO.
*** IF this person is real or sincere, they won't mind doing this for you! ALSO - offer to do the same for their comfort also - that is only fair.
IF THINGS GET SERIOUS - then ASK THEM TO DELETE ALL THEIR OTHER WEB PROFILE POSTS! CHECK ON THE ONES YOU NOTED EARLIER! Again, IF THEIR SINCERE - they will - happily as your their DREAM and future!
If she talks about getting a visa or that she needs money to get a travel visa to the USA, she lies. See the proper course of action described at the top.
so ive been getting emails from this person named 'anastasiia' she has even gone as far as sending pictures of not only her but her with 'her sister' as well as 'her with a pike fish' and 'mushrooms' I honestly have no idea how to handle it but I'm not going to send money. I have searched with a scrutinous eye everywhere but have found no trace of her photos anywhere, ive even gone as far as a reverse image search but still found nothing.
heres one of her emails
Alex, how are you doing? I try to check mail every day, but sometimes at me it is impossible to do it.
Excuse me when I cannot write the letter to you at once.
As I have told to you, I read and I write to you from my office.
Today as soon as I have come for work, first of all I have turned on my computer and have checked up mine email.
And your letter has forced me to smile. I read your letters with a great interest.
We continue the communications, and it is really interesting to me.
I have told to you so a little about my life. But sometimes it seems to me which I write you too much.
Tell mine English to you it is clear? Since university I did not use the of knowledge of English language.
I without problems understand that you write to me.
Alex, tell about itself more, send me the photos.
Alex, it is pleasant to you pets? I have a dog on names Losha. I will send you a photo of my dog.
Alex, please, tell to me how you represent the girlfriend?
Whether to me become interesting I can your girlfriend?
Tell to you it is pleasant children??? Please be not frightened to me simply interesting, it seems to me children blossom our life.
My representation always was that it is two children the boy and the girl. What do you think of it???
What qualities the girl with which you should possess want to be till the end of life?
I like our dialogue and I want to develop it. I am opened with you and I am ready to answer any your question.
I am glad that I have found such pleasant interlocutor.
So, I answer a question, what qualities of the partner are important for me, what man should be near to me.
The most important thing for me care and love to me, attention. If mine the man makes me happy.
I will make all that it as was happy near to me. Our life not the eternal! I would like to have my party of the careful,
reliable and kind person. The person who will respect me.
Trust - the most important thing for me. Without any trust all is impossible: work, friendship, love.
I send now to you new photos. They have been made more recently, I hope that they are pleasant to you.
I with impatience will wait for your following letter. Please, tell to me answers to my questions.
It is necessary for me to hear them. I wait for yours letter Anastasiia
and ill try a picture
anonymous from United States
as you can see, the English is quite broken compared to everyone else's posts which I thought was weird here's the email address
ive looked up yandex and it is a real email site she even sent a picture of her driver's license. of course I looked it up and it does match what I found
Hello, my sweet prince UNKO!
I am very pleased to receive your new letter. Regardless of your decision, I am very happy to see your new letter. Thank you that you did not make me die in despair. I am very worried that you will not answer me anymore. I thought of the worst. You're always in my heart and my thoughts. They occupy the first place in my life. Thank you for what you are beside me. You are important to me and at this stage of my life, I live only for you. Now I am in Moscow and I write to you from internet cafe.I got to Moscow good. All the way I was thinking as well that soon I will be able to fulfill all your dreams. It's just a fairy tale. But what usually happens, I have a problem without addressing this, I can`t come to you. It is a small amount of money. For me it's a shame, ask your financial aid, and I will not do it. So,I decided to end our correspondence, because I do not want you to think badly of me. I tried to solve this problem myself, but I did not. I think he refuses to help me. As I said before, for this reason we should end our relationship. I think you're going to accuse me and your trust in me out. I do not want to hear the shouts and insults the
person to whom I have warm feelings of love. My heart will be broken. I was already very bad. I do not wish that I was more painful.
Complete disarray, my angel UNKO, I am insanely afraid of losing you. I feel so bad now, I tremble hands, and his voice trembling. In my eyes with tears. I don`t know what to do, I think you're not going to reject me. Please understand that I do not want to hear in my address of insults and accusations. Please do not say bad words. I'm very embarrassed. And it is very difficult right now. I do not know what to do. Since I'm all alone. And I feel like I'm useless. I feel very bad.Forgive me for what I force you to read it. But I really do not have anybody else to turn. Do you understand? You're the closest person for me right now. And I'm afraid of losing you. Now, I'll try to explain in more detail, what's my problem. Actually, it's not really that difficult, but without solving the problem, simply would not be allowed leave Russia. We live in different countries, we are separated by different languages, different laws, different traditions. I hope find right words to explain essence of the problem. Need to address this issue urgently, because before I lost bit of time. With your permission, I will start. How many people in Russia, the mind can`t
understand why, as always warn about the last minute. Whole problem lies in the fact that I owe a debt utility bills apartment - unpaid bills for water, gas, electricity and so on. Citizens who do not pay the debts of state agencies are not allowed to travel outside Russia until pay the debt to 100. The amount of my debt of 500 Euros. In my wallet 100 Euros, which I saved. I had to pay 100 Euros for the debt. But now, they are still obligated to pay 400 Euros, or simply would not be releasing me from Russia. This law was passed in our country recently due to the fact that many citizens went abroad and left a huge, unpaid bills and utilities have to wait long until the people can`t go back. I tried to find money in Moscow, but I have no friends here and even acquaintances. I tried to ask money from internship program, but authorized agents told me that, due to their great regret, not to engage in personal benefit to the public, but you pay for only those conditions which have been included in the contract.
Therefore, the problem I have to solve on their own. I am extremely upset, I don`t know what to do. I don`t have a way out of this terrible situation. My prince, you're my only hope! Our future is in your hands. I'll giveback you money as soon arrive in your country. I'll get money first, and immediately give you back 400 Euros. but first I need to get out of Russia. As I said before, the first salary I pay within 2-3 days after I arrive in your country. I hope for your understanding, trust and support. I'm sure it will not be a barrier and you can help me. I want to make all our sexual dreams. Need to hurry, my angel UNKO.
The faster you can help me, faster than I can fly to your country. It's very difficult to find the right words my prince. Please do not ask me no questions, now I'm just asking you to help as soon as possible. I'm so afraid of losing you. I hope you will help me, I'm sure. My Tiger UNKO, I learned that there is a system Money
Gram. This system is safer and the easiest way and fastest way to transfer money. This is exactly what we need right now. At the end of this letter, I will give all the information necessary for the transmission.
So that you can find the nearest Money Gram soon, I give you a link to the official website - www.MoneyGram.com I'm really very sorry to have to ask for your help, but I have no choice. Only you a person who can help me now. Please don`t forget that I will giveback 400 Euros from my salary, I will put in you country. I'm sure you don`t leave me in this difficult situation - you're gentle, sweet and caring. We are made for each other. money only paper, for which you can`t buy true love and feelings. Much more important is spiritual wealth of mankind. I think you do not need to explain this. I very much ask you. understand. I was in a very serious condition. I want to arrive as soon as possible to you. I want to feel your cock inside me resilient. I want you to come into my ass. I've never had anal experience.
You are the first who will be able to go there. I'm sure you both enjoy. Now, my pussy at the thought that soon I'll be in your arms and embrace your cock can my lips. Love deep blowjob? I can swallow all your cock, mmmmmmm, my tiger, I'm looking forward to this moment. But without your help our dreams never become a reality.Please do not look at a man who has just personal gain. I try to only two of us, and it takes a lot for me. The most important thing that you have had a desire to help. Then, we will be able to jump all the obstacles together. Come on, there will be next to each other and make the most beautiful things of this world together, taking her hand. I hope that the new mail waiting for me, as soon as possible.The most passionate kisses and sweet to you, my tiger UNKO!Your little pussy from Russia, Svetlana!
P.S. As I promised, I'll tell you my personal information needed to transfer money Money Gram:
Street Gubkina 41
When you can send the money, give all the information on money transfers!
p.p.s. I'll give you the money as soon as come to you.
He says 'Your little pussy from Russia, Svetlana!'
I know you are the Boris ,scammer.