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Are you an American or Western European man exchanging emails with a girl from Russia? I was contacted by a girl who turned out to be a scammer. Reader Derrick put together some great advice how to detect scammers.
I only have one advice (#8) to add: If a Russian girl tells you that she will get a visa to the USA instead of inviting you, that is - under the current immigration law - a SURE sign that SHE LIES.

Here is the process how a Russian woman can come to the USA:

If she is considered a relatively young/ attractive woman (let's say under 40, hope I don't hurt anyone's feelings here), then there is virtually NO CHANCE THAT SHE GETS A TOURIST VISA TO THE USA. First the Russian Federation will not allow her to leave the country. Then, even if she was getting out, the USA will deny her admission. The reasoning is that she is considered a risk. How could she not be a risk? If she had family in Russia (husband, children) or a valuable business or real estate. Most likely the woman who writes you will be considered a risk. The only way for her to get a visa into the USA is this procedure:

  1. the foreign man visits her in her native area in Russia
  2. they get engaged during such a visit - take photos of the 2 of you together
  3. he flies back and applies for a K-1 visa. A K-1 visa is also known as Fiancee visa, used for marriage-based immigration
  4. once the K1 visa is granted, the girl can enter the USA and stay there for 3 months. By the end of these 3 months you HAVE to GET MARRIED or the girl has to go back home.
  5. if you get married, the girl gets a greencard and can work
  6. after 3 years of marriage, the girl can apply for a US citizenship. That's when they interview you to find out if it's a real marriage. She also has to answer some questions about US history, political system, etc etc.


Here are Derrick's tricks (1-7) that he uses immediately from the start:
  1. GOOGLE or websearch the first part of the scammers first emails and/or 'profile'. SEE HOW MANY OTHER SITES their listed on! RECORD THOSE SITES FOR FUTURE REFERENCE. THAT alone can give you a good idea IF your dealing with a scammer OR not.
  2. GOOGLE or websearch the return email address. See how many 'hits' come from that search and also note all the sites. (many times you'll see the email end up on a 'scammers list') IF YOU FIND THE EMAIL ADDRESS LISTED ON A SCAMMER LIST - don't bother further, your only fooling yourself - no matter what excuse they might give you.
  3. FROM THE START - ASK FOR SPECIFIC INFOMATION! A full name, address, phone number - something. OFFER THE SAME in exchange, except make it a P.O. box and a CELL PHONE rental card that will protect your identity. If you see your requests ignored, which you usually will, don't waste your time further.
  4. ALWAYS ASK SPECIFIC QUESTIONS that would REQUIRE A SPECIFIC ANSWER outside the use of FORM LETTERS. IF YOU FIND your questions go unaddress in your reply emails from 'them/her' - YOUR DEALING WITH A SCAMMER. Again, don't bother further.
  5. DON'T WAIT 6 MONTHS to offer to talk with the PROSPECT by phone! WHAT A TOTAL WASTE OF TIME! IF THERE IS CHEMISTRY OR APPEARS 'INTEREST' BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU - then sieze the opportunity. ARRANGE A PHONE CALL! International rates to Russia and most places are reasonably cheap. IF YOU GET THE REPLY ' I'M SO POOR I DON'T HAVE ACCESS TO A PHONE' - drop the whole thing, your only wasting your time and WILL BE SCAMMED at some point in the future.
  6. PHOTO FLOOD! IF IT/SHE/HIM/THEM - LOOK TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE - THEN IT PROBABLY IS! MOST IF NOT ALL OF THE SCAMMES USE PHOTOS OF MODELS IN THEIR HOME COUNTRIES TO POSE ON THE NET IN THEIR PROFILE(s)! Consider this - IF THEY LOOK like a MODEL then tell you they're so poor they don't have access to a phone - YOUR BEING SCAMMED!

    ASK FOR A SPECIAL PHOTO TO BE TAKEN. IF YOU SENT YOURS, HAVE THEM TAKE A PHOTO SHOWING THEM HOLDING UP YOUR PHOTO IN THE PICTURE! That is a good 'scammer filter' - even the most adept with Photoshop will easily be spoted.

    BETTER STILL - ASK THEM TO TAKE A PHOTO THAT SHOWS THEM HOLDING A CURRENT NEWPAPER OF YOUR CHOICE OR THEIR COUNTRY, WITH A RESOLUTION THAT YOU CAN READ THE DATE! NOT some low grade - grainy photo! FEW WILL EVER DO THAT.

    AT THE LEAST - ASK THEM FOR A PHOTO of them wearing a specific combination of clothes and/or colors - something different then the usual 'model clothing' - most use to send out. OR AN OBJECT - TOASTER, ELECTRIC CLOCK, BY A COUCH, IN A ROCKING CHAIR something that would be very hard to use PHOTOSHOP to just PUT in another FILE PHOTO.

    *** IF this person is real or sincere, they won't mind doing this for you! ALSO - offer to do the same for their comfort also - that is only fair.
  7. IF THINGS GET SERIOUS - then ASK THEM TO DELETE ALL THEIR OTHER WEB PROFILE POSTS! CHECK ON THE ONES YOU NOTED EARLIER! Again, IF THEIR SINCERE - they will - happily as your their DREAM and future!
  8. If she talks about getting a visa or that she needs money to get a travel visa to the USA, she lies. See the proper course of action described at the top.



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2009-01-05, 20:23:50
anonymous from United States  
here is the brunette Anna


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2009-01-06, 20:34:20
anonymous from United Kingdom  
rating
Another one to add to the growing list, her email is

tansukabla@yahoo.com You'll note the line re the news paper which is in reply to me asking her to take a photo of herself holding one with the current day/date on it! Here's the email.


Hello the darling Colin!!!
I am very glad to receive from you the letter... It is pleasant To me
to read your letters, I am glad, that we continue all gets acquainted
more close and more close...
I do not read for a long time already newspapers. I prefer to learn news from
TV...
I do not know, why but I have to you warm feelings... It not love, and
is simple respect, trust... About love still early to speak, as I
think, we are not much familiar yet... But there are any relations and
I am glad to it... Even if we remain with you friends I will be very
glad to it... In the first letters I said, that I wish to find to
myself the worthy man with whom I can construct serious relations...
At first I thought, that it is my unique purpose, that love relations
are necessary to me only... But now I understand, what after all at us
with you can also it will turn out nothing for any reasons, but I in
any case wish to communicate with you because it is interesting to me
to communicate, you very interesting, clever man, with you to me it is
quiet and good... I understand now, that I can tell to you much of the
life because I trust you... And it is very good... To me with anybody
from men was not so pleasantly to communicate. . With guys with whom I
communicated was not so interestingly as with you, and you very
remarkable person and I am glad, that are familiar with you... I hope,
that we will continue the dialogue...
I will wait for your letter... Yours


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2009-01-08, 09:43:48
anonymous from United Kingdom  
cuidado


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2009-01-08, 09:47:10
anonymous from United Kingdom  
otra mis chavos
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2009-01-08, 09:53:10
anonymous from United Kingdom  
Otra con ???


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2009-01-08, 09:55:19
anonymous from United Kingdom  
otra


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2009-01-08, 09:57:04
anonymous from United Kingdom  
otra
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2009-01-08, 22:17:15
anonymous from Mexico  
She scammed me about 120.00 dlls please take care of her


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2009-01-08, 22:19:04
anonymous from Mexico  

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2009-01-09, 10:22:48
anonymous from United Kingdom  
hermanos Mexicanos cuidado con esta perra
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2009-01-09, 10:25:43
anonymous from United Kingdom  
otra


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2009-01-09, 10:27:42
anonymous from United Kingdom  
otra nis chavos
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2009-01-09, 10:31:30
anonymous from United Kingdom  
Ai lesva otra mis chavos
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Dating scammer Ekaterina Sokolova



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2009-01-09, 13:02:24
anonymous from United Kingdom  
cuidado con esta perra


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2009-01-09, 13:03:20
anonymous from United Kingdom  
cuidado con esta perra


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