Is this Russian girl scamming me? How to recognize scammers
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Are you an American or Western European man exchanging emails with a girl from Russia? I was contacted by a girl who turned out to be a scammer. Reader Derrick put together some great advice how to detect scammers.
I only have one advice (#8) to add: If a Russian girl tells you that she will get a visa to the USA instead of inviting you, that is - under the current immigration law - a SURE sign that SHE LIES.
Here is the process how a Russian woman can come to the USA:
If she is considered a relatively young/ attractive woman (let's say under 40, hope I don't hurt anyone's feelings here), then there is virtually NO CHANCE THAT SHE GETS A TOURIST VISA TO THE USA. First the Russian Federation will not allow her to leave the country. Then, even if she was getting out, the USA will deny her admission. The reasoning is that she is considered a risk. How could she not be a risk? If she had family in Russia (husband, children) or a valuable business or real estate. Most likely the woman who writes you will be considered a risk. The only way for her to get a visa into the USA is this procedure:
the foreign man visits her in her native area in Russia
they get engaged during such a visit - take photos of the 2 of you together
he flies back and applies for a K-1 visa. A K-1 visa is also known as Fiancee visa, used for marriage-based immigration
once the K1 visa is granted, the girl can enter the USA and stay there for 3 months. By the end of these 3 months you HAVE to GET MARRIED or the girl has to go back home.
if you get married, the girl gets a greencard and can work
after 3 years of marriage, the girl can apply for a US citizenship. That's when they interview you to find out if it's a real marriage. She also has to answer some questions about US history, political system, etc etc.
Here are Derrick's tricks (1-7) that he uses immediately from the start:
GOOGLE or websearch the first part of the scammers first emails and/or 'profile'. SEE HOW MANY OTHER SITES their listed on! RECORD THOSE SITES FOR FUTURE REFERENCE. THAT alone can give you a good idea IF your dealing with a scammer OR not.
GOOGLE or websearch the return email address. See how many 'hits' come from that search and also note all the sites. (many times you'll see the email end up on a 'scammers list') IF YOU FIND THE EMAIL ADDRESS LISTED ON A SCAMMER LIST - don't bother further, your only fooling yourself - no matter what excuse they might give you.
FROM THE START - ASK FOR SPECIFIC INFOMATION! A full name, address, phone number - something. OFFER THE SAME in exchange, except make it a P.O. box and a CELL PHONE rental card that will protect your identity. If you see your requests ignored, which you usually will, don't waste your time further.
ALWAYS ASK SPECIFIC QUESTIONS that would REQUIRE A SPECIFIC ANSWER outside the use of FORM LETTERS. IF YOU FIND your questions go unaddress in your reply emails from 'them/her' - YOUR DEALING WITH A SCAMMER. Again, don't bother further.
DON'T WAIT 6 MONTHS to offer to talk with the PROSPECT by phone! WHAT A TOTAL WASTE OF TIME! IF THERE IS CHEMISTRY OR APPEARS 'INTEREST' BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU - then sieze the opportunity. ARRANGE A PHONE CALL! International rates to Russia and most places are reasonably cheap. IF YOU GET THE REPLY ' I'M SO POOR I DON'T HAVE ACCESS TO A PHONE' - drop the whole thing, your only wasting your time and WILL BE SCAMMED at some point in the future.
PHOTO FLOOD! IF IT/SHE/HIM/THEM - LOOK TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE - THEN IT PROBABLY IS! MOST IF NOT ALL OF THE SCAMMES USE PHOTOS OF MODELS IN THEIR HOME COUNTRIES TO POSE ON THE NET IN THEIR PROFILE(s)! Consider this - IF THEY LOOK like a MODEL then tell you they're so poor they don't have access to a phone - YOUR BEING SCAMMED!
ASK FOR A SPECIAL PHOTO TO BE TAKEN. IF YOU SENT YOURS, HAVE THEM TAKE A PHOTO SHOWING THEM HOLDING UP YOUR PHOTO IN THE PICTURE! That is a good 'scammer filter' - even the most adept with Photoshop will easily be spoted.
BETTER STILL - ASK THEM TO TAKE A PHOTO THAT SHOWS THEM HOLDING A CURRENT NEWPAPER OF YOUR CHOICE OR THEIR COUNTRY, WITH A RESOLUTION THAT YOU CAN READ THE DATE! NOT some low grade - grainy photo! FEW WILL EVER DO THAT.
AT THE LEAST - ASK THEM FOR A PHOTO of them wearing a specific combination of clothes and/or colors - something different then the usual 'model clothing' - most use to send out. OR AN OBJECT - TOASTER, ELECTRIC CLOCK, BY A COUCH, IN A ROCKING CHAIR something that would be very hard to use PHOTOSHOP to just PUT in another FILE PHOTO.
*** IF this person is real or sincere, they won't mind doing this for you! ALSO - offer to do the same for their comfort also - that is only fair.
IF THINGS GET SERIOUS - then ASK THEM TO DELETE ALL THEIR OTHER WEB PROFILE POSTS! CHECK ON THE ONES YOU NOTED EARLIER! Again, IF THEIR SINCERE - they will - happily as your their DREAM and future!
If she talks about getting a visa or that she needs money to get a travel visa to the USA, she lies. See the proper course of action described at the top.
Hi I have been emailing a girl from Russian Federation. She seems very sincere.
I have been emailing her for several months.
Yesterday my emails will no longer go through, they bounce back. So i immediately think I have been scammed but then I start getting emails from her asking why I don't reply to her any more.
This makes me think she is not the one blocking my emails. I get emails from her but I can not reply.
She seems sincerely frustrated and upset. I feel as though she thinks I'm not replying on purpose. I have tried to go to gmail support to get this resolved but I had no response from gmail google.
I'm thinking maybe someone else has hi jacked her email and is blocking my replies, she does not seem to understand what has happened.
She says she is crying because I no longer like her but it's a situation I do not know how to fix. I have no other way to contact her to tell her that it is not me that is the problem.
It seems that if it were a real scam she would stop all contact cold turkey. Here is what I have fond out about the server.
The age of infoomail.com is 107 days . According to the Alexa.com, this site has #13113104 rank in the world wide web. Low Alexa rank indicates that the site is visited by a lot of visitors and popular in the Internet. This web site has Google PageRank 0 out of 10 maximal and is Not Listed in DMOZ.
Does this mean google will not send emails to Infoomail because of it's 0 ranking?
OJAS from United States
Setup a new account with yahoo or hotmail and try.
anonymous from United Kingdom
im british guy,after joining russian dating agency,got a direct/random email from a woman called svetlana,from first email ive been asking for her address/full name/only now has she sent me these,on the same day she wants me to forward her airbaltic flght over,said she has just got visa from embassy and needs £352 sent,all sems suspecious,she is of model quality looks,and looks too good,any advice welcomed,or any other men been scammed in uk/usa etc like this
DON'T send money to your scammer, a HE, using stolen pix of a celeb. Recently Miss Marple identified the exact girl in the pic.
NEVER fall in love with stolen pix.
Become a regular contributor, while also honing your skills at scammer recognition.
Miss Marple from United States
You are right to be suspicious in every way. The photos are stolen from a Russian model with the name Yulia Konovalova and her photos are frequently used by scammers. A regular Russian woman would never ask for money, and with this being said, you can be sure this is only a scam.
Please go into this thread in the link below and update your information with photos and post the asking for money letter.
Dating scammer Kseniya( Photos on Yulia Konovalova used in scams)
I have been corresponding with an 'Elena ebimova' for the last month.
We was getting on so well, when I questioned her, most of them were
Being answered, I thought she was the real thing and carried on with
talking. Things were beginning to get stronger between us, until I received
a very short letter asking about my health. I became suspicious replying
for a answers to the letter.
I received another long letter stating how she wants to start a new life
and how happy I make her. I looked into this and I came across her on the
Scam pictures of her on it as 'Elena'.