Is this Russian girl scamming me? How to recognize scammers
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Are you an American or Western European man exchanging emails with a girl from Russia? I was contacted by a girl who turned out to be a scammer. Reader Derrick put together some great advice how to detect scammers.
I only have one advice (#8) to add: If a Russian girl tells you that she will get a visa to the USA instead of inviting you, that is - under the current immigration law - a SURE sign that SHE LIES.
Here is the process how a Russian woman can come to the USA:
If she is considered a relatively young/ attractive woman (let's say under 40, hope I don't hurt anyone's feelings here), then there is virtually NO CHANCE THAT SHE GETS A TOURIST VISA TO THE USA. First the Russian Federation will not allow her to leave the country. Then, even if she was getting out, the USA will deny her admission. The reasoning is that she is considered a risk. How could she not be a risk? If she had family in Russia (husband, children) or a valuable business or real estate. Most likely the woman who writes you will be considered a risk. The only way for her to get a visa into the USA is this procedure:
the foreign man visits her in her native area in Russia
they get engaged during such a visit - take photos of the 2 of you together
he flies back and applies for a K-1 visa. A K-1 visa is also known as Fiancee visa, used for marriage-based immigration
once the K1 visa is granted, the girl can enter the USA and stay there for 3 months. By the end of these 3 months you HAVE to GET MARRIED or the girl has to go back home.
if you get married, the girl gets a greencard and can work
after 3 years of marriage, the girl can apply for a US citizenship. That's when they interview you to find out if it's a real marriage. She also has to answer some questions about US history, political system, etc etc.
Here are Derrick's tricks (1-7) that he uses immediately from the start:
GOOGLE or websearch the first part of the scammers first emails and/or 'profile'. SEE HOW MANY OTHER SITES their listed on! RECORD THOSE SITES FOR FUTURE REFERENCE. THAT alone can give you a good idea IF your dealing with a scammer OR not.
GOOGLE or websearch the return email address. See how many 'hits' come from that search and also note all the sites. (many times you'll see the email end up on a 'scammers list') IF YOU FIND THE EMAIL ADDRESS LISTED ON A SCAMMER LIST - don't bother further, your only fooling yourself - no matter what excuse they might give you.
FROM THE START - ASK FOR SPECIFIC INFOMATION! A full name, address, phone number - something. OFFER THE SAME in exchange, except make it a P.O. box and a CELL PHONE rental card that will protect your identity. If you see your requests ignored, which you usually will, don't waste your time further.
ALWAYS ASK SPECIFIC QUESTIONS that would REQUIRE A SPECIFIC ANSWER outside the use of FORM LETTERS. IF YOU FIND your questions go unaddress in your reply emails from 'them/her' - YOUR DEALING WITH A SCAMMER. Again, don't bother further.
DON'T WAIT 6 MONTHS to offer to talk with the PROSPECT by phone! WHAT A TOTAL WASTE OF TIME! IF THERE IS CHEMISTRY OR APPEARS 'INTEREST' BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU - then sieze the opportunity. ARRANGE A PHONE CALL! International rates to Russia and most places are reasonably cheap. IF YOU GET THE REPLY ' I'M SO POOR I DON'T HAVE ACCESS TO A PHONE' - drop the whole thing, your only wasting your time and WILL BE SCAMMED at some point in the future.
PHOTO FLOOD! IF IT/SHE/HIM/THEM - LOOK TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE - THEN IT PROBABLY IS! MOST IF NOT ALL OF THE SCAMMES USE PHOTOS OF MODELS IN THEIR HOME COUNTRIES TO POSE ON THE NET IN THEIR PROFILE(s)! Consider this - IF THEY LOOK like a MODEL then tell you they're so poor they don't have access to a phone - YOUR BEING SCAMMED!
ASK FOR A SPECIAL PHOTO TO BE TAKEN. IF YOU SENT YOURS, HAVE THEM TAKE A PHOTO SHOWING THEM HOLDING UP YOUR PHOTO IN THE PICTURE! That is a good 'scammer filter' - even the most adept with Photoshop will easily be spoted.
BETTER STILL - ASK THEM TO TAKE A PHOTO THAT SHOWS THEM HOLDING A CURRENT NEWPAPER OF YOUR CHOICE OR THEIR COUNTRY, WITH A RESOLUTION THAT YOU CAN READ THE DATE! NOT some low grade - grainy photo! FEW WILL EVER DO THAT.
AT THE LEAST - ASK THEM FOR A PHOTO of them wearing a specific combination of clothes and/or colors - something different then the usual 'model clothing' - most use to send out. OR AN OBJECT - TOASTER, ELECTRIC CLOCK, BY A COUCH, IN A ROCKING CHAIR something that would be very hard to use PHOTOSHOP to just PUT in another FILE PHOTO.
*** IF this person is real or sincere, they won't mind doing this for you! ALSO - offer to do the same for their comfort also - that is only fair.
IF THINGS GET SERIOUS - then ASK THEM TO DELETE ALL THEIR OTHER WEB PROFILE POSTS! CHECK ON THE ONES YOU NOTED EARLIER! Again, IF THEIR SINCERE - they will - happily as your their DREAM and future!
If she talks about getting a visa or that she needs money to get a travel visa to the USA, she lies. See the proper course of action described at the top.
I did not know that our Dirk was dead.I can not find any words for Dirk but RIP.
wanwan from Japan
She(he)wants to meet me,LOL.
So I will invite her(him).
Hi my dear friend UNKO!
Can I call my friend?
I am happy to receive a letter from you, and be grateful for what you want to continue our dialogue.
Please read this letter carefully, this is a very important point, I want to know your opinion.
I'm glad you do not blame me for what I am working striptease dancer.
Dancing and striptease - and very different. I'm not ashamed of what I'm doing.
I was wondering about the effect this subject in my first letter, or even talk about it or not.
But I have always appreciated the honesty in a relationship and always tell the truth, and I hate liars.
I am appalled with my work, I'm not ashamed of it. I love to dance and I love good music. And I have a beautiful body.
It would be a crime to hide my body under clothing. I'm glad someone is watching me very happy and excited,
this is particularly evident in men on the fovea))))) pants It 's very flattering to my vanity,
I'm glad to feel needed and wanted. I hope I did not shock that I did not complex, and I think well.
Complex make boring life. I just do not think I'm immoral. They are very vulnerable, sweet and very loyal.
I am a woman for a man, and if someone will love me, then there will be no other.
I love life, and enjoy every moment. But I'm trying to live a decent life, that I was ashamed of my actions.
Actually, God sees everything. So I think I'm not doing anything wrong
in my work. If I want to do a show striptease for you, for you, would
you like this John?
By the way, my name and the holy cat scene. What do you think of this?
My photos were taken by my girlfriend. I lost most of the photos when the computer was broken. Now I have lots of photos. If possible, I would ask you to send images, fell and cut, because I have a very slow speed of the internet, and unfortunately, I can not upload photos of a large volume. I use the USB ADSL modem. This system does not work too well, and also not cheap and. I pay the megabyte downloaded, and if you load a large number of megabytes, will be expensive.
So I ask you, please reduce the size of images.
Like I said, my internet speed and very low. So I write to you more comfortable just e-mail. Of these modern means of communication such as Skype, Facebook, and various types of messengers, while I can only dream of. The usual e-mail to me, the option most acceptable and convenient.
I will send you new photos and I hope you like it. For me it's important to know what kind of impression you make on my photos.
I also want to see more photos, and I hope you will send new pictures for me.
As you can see my photos are not too revealing. But with each subsequent letter of my photos are more sincere. As I said before, I just want to build a relationship of trust and do not want to hide anything from you.
You are very nice to me, you are very good and pleasant to talk to.
I am not mistaken in you. I want to continue our relationship, I want to know closest to me with you very well. Kiss! Kiss! Kiss!
I want to tell you more about me. I am 25 years old. I was born
September 20, 1990, all the rest you can see in my photos. I am an orphan. I have no relatives. My height 171 cm 54 kg I weigh. I have no children. But I love children, and in the future I would like to have two children (boy and girl).
As a child, I grew up in an orphanage (orphanage for children who do not have parents). Are very difficult years, and I was very easy.
But what to do, and been in my life. Now I am horrified to think my life in an orphanage. Poverty, hunger, constant insults. They are very painful to remember those years. And I do not want to talk anymore. All this and much painful for me and please do not ask me about it. I'll tell you later when we know better.
Now I want to tell you about where I live. I live in Yekaterinburg sity, Russia. It's the capital of the Sverdlovsk region, located in the heart of Russia in the Ural Mountains. My city is located at a distance of 1850 km. to the east of the Russian capital Moscow.
In the 18 years since reaching the age when I left the orphanage and began independent adult life. Adulthood (18 years), the state gave me an apartment.
Orphanage and I studied well and was able to get free medical Academy in Yekaterinburg, where I am now studying at the Faculty of Dentistry.
Perhaps you have a question about why I wrote to you? The next year I finish my studies in medical academy, and very soon (just recently), I come to your home country to practice (internship at the dentist). All documents are ready and I also have a ticket.
But still do not know exactly where I'll be in your country. I just know that the first two weeks, I have to work in the capital of his country.
After two weeks of practice in the capital of his country, I'll go to another city. Can I choose the city or I can stay in the capital. At the time of practice, I will be provided with room and board, in most I paid.
Opportunity to receive training in your country, I received a great school at the Medical Academy. It is a government grant, which helps to develop the skills of young professionals.
I hope that everyone understands. I'll tell you about this in detail in my next letter. Everything is ready, so I soon in your country. I had the desire to find a friend in your country, and my fortune - and came into my life.
My internship will take place 6 months, during which time I will be in your country. I think it's good, we will be able to communicate in real life.
We can not talk. I love sex! I want to know in a more intimate!
It can communicate with over the years, but did not realize that this man - the ideal partner for you as long as you do not try sex.
Do not force it, because in the course of communication that happens by itself. After completing an internship back in Russia in order to complete their training. But in the future I want to leave Russia. I want to sell the apartment and leave the country. At least that is my desire.
My apartment is very small, but not looking at it, and in my personal possession, and I am very happy. Repairs in the apartment that I had done to your taste and desire. I was very comfortable apartment.
To study at university I needed extra money to work as a dancer in a nightclub stripper. But I do not want you to think I'm a prostitute. I do not like that. Do not have sex for money. Also, I despise these girls. I can not ever agree to have sex for money. Because of work and study, I have very little free time, I am often away from home.
And now I will tell you that I like.
In my spare time I like jogging in the morning, and in the winter I go to the stadium to skate.
In the morning I always do gymnastics. I feel almost every day to visit the pool. I like swimming. During the trip works all muscle groups, and this is very good for health. Do you like swimming?
However, I do not like when someone starts to make bubbles in the pool, making the pool jacuzzi :) I hope you understand what I'm talking about. This, of course, fun, not just a very pleasant smell. I hope you do not want to eat, I'm afraid to spoil your appetite :)
In general, I am for a healthy lifestyle. How do you feel about sports?
How do you feel about music? For me music has always been a salvation in difficult periods of
life. Playing the piano is a part of me and music of my soul. I am doing this for myself and I
would be interested to hear your opinion. I hope that you won't be too strict to me))) If you don't
it will be difficult, I would like to know about your preferences in music.
Hey, wake up John:) I hope you do not fall asleep reading my letter.
I think that the letter was too big, and you're tired of reading it. So I finished my letter.
Write what you think of all this, I'd really like to know your opinion. I hope that my letter of your elevated mood.
I look forward to your new e-mail for me.
YOUR SANTA CAT, SVETLANA
Nice to see you again.
I am back.
And thanks for your Youtube,
She(he) is falling in love with me,so I am taking care of her(him).I am waiting for her.
See you Malek,soon.
wanwan from Japan
She will send me SPECIAL photos in the near future,,,.
Hello, my dear UNKO!
The most important thing is that they are very easy and interesting to
talk with you. I think it is important for the criteria of true
friendship and love even more. In my last letter, you probably do not
understand my words about your trip to your country. I'll try to
explain all the details about it today. Please read my letter very
carefully. Perhaps because of the language barrier that separates us,
what are you then I can not understand, but I hope that we will find
common ground. As you know, I am a dentist at the university in our
city. I am one of the best students of our University. I am a very
responsible attitude to my studies, so I have a great opportunity for
a gold medal at graduation. Only once in five years, of all the
Russian students played granted the opportunity to travel abroad for
training (training in specialties). Luck smiled at me, and I had the
chance. My joy knew no bounds. Of course, I had to try, because I have
to not only learn, but also to work. I promised myself that this grant
must win, and I reached my goal. In front of me has opened new
possibilities - I received a scholarship for an internship in your
country. Your country has been chosen for a reason. Dentistry at home
and one of the best and most paid professions in the world, in
comparison with Russia. For example, dentists in our country are
called sadists and even tooth fairies. Probably due to poor
maintenance. And the dentist before in Russia, was a cruel king - Ivan
the Terrible, who tore the teeth means available to poor farmers. If
you are interested, you can find this information in Wikipedia, or
simply visit the Google search engine. I want to change the opinions
of our citizens and qualified to become a real doctor. I am confident
that with your specialist, I have to succeed. Dental work is very
important, then, the stage and minimum of 6 months. During this time I
have a huge 'knowledge resources', the specialists in your country.
What is most interesting that the apprenticeship contract, my salary
would be 2750 euros per month. This is a significant sum for a dentist
Russia. Payroll who can only dream of in our country. I still can not
believe that very soon I will be able to be abroad, because I have
never traveled outside of Russia. Under the terms of parole, the state
pays for my trip to your country and a complete package that includes
accommodation, food and clothing (if necessary). I am in no way going
to need. I will be working as an assistant to a dentist in your
country, and not receive the bad money, I'll miss the free use. The
first 2 weeks of practice I should be in the capital of your country,
which will begin a course of lectures. Then, all students will be in
all the cities of your country and I'd be awfully glad to have in your
town, my dear friend John. I think it would be very nice to meet
in real life are not always given a great opportunity. What do you
think UNKO ? Tiger cat lover and colorful - I think one of us
could get a perfect match. I'd love to hear your opinion about it. I
hope you're not tired. I want to continue our communication and become
more close to you. In this letter, I attach my photo to you. Please,
tell me honestly, do you like my picture? It 's very important to me.
If you want, then I can send a photo more intimate in the future. As I
told you earlier that I will not hide from each other. I want to build
communication with 100 confidence and understanding. I believe that
we must succeed, and we are all more than just friends.
I can not wait your email back to me.
Your holy cat, Svetlana!